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    Taylor Swift’s Diet and Fitness Routine on Tour

    Life on tour is grueling (or so I’ve heard), but Taylor Swift could’ve fooled us with her seemingly effortless stamina throughout her 3-hour “Eras Tour” show (complete with seamless outfit changes on stage, might I add). It got me wondering how she performs her way through 44 hits from her 10 studio albums without so much as breaking a sweat or popping one of the sequins off her red-and-sequined-snaked Reputation look. So naturally, I scoured the internet for every tidbit I could find about her wellness routine (you’re welcome, Swifties). How does she sweat it out? What does she eat in a day? Is she just like us when it comes to self-care? Read on for a breakdown of T-Swift’s health and wellness standbys. Alexa, play the Midnights album.

    For fitness: She dances it out (on and off stage)
    According to an article in Marie Claire, pounding the pavement and dance-based workouts from New York-based studio Body By Simone are the singer-songwriter’s secret weapons to keeping up endurance and strength to perform dozens of shows while on tour. Body by Simone classes (which are also offered on their digital studio so you can sweat it on-the-go) combine a unique fusion of dance, Pilates, and functional strength training (think: high-intensity dance cardio, bodyweight moves, and light dumbbell exercises) that create “a safe space where women can feel inspired and motivated to become the best version of themselves,” said Simone de la Rue, Body by Simone’s Founder. To give Swift’s fitness regimen a whirl, try this 20-minute full-body Body by Simone workout. You’ll jump lunge, push up shoulder tap, crunch as you side plank, and jump squat your way to Swift fitness status.
    But dancing (on and off the stage) isn’t the only exercise she swears by. “For me, running is about blasting a whole bunch of new songs and running to the beat,” Swift told WebMD. “It’s also good because it makes me find a gym wherever I am…I love exploring the places we go when we tour.” If running isn’t your jam (same), give the Taylor Swift treadmill workout a whirl (it’s way better, IMO).

    For diet: She follows intuitive eating habits 
    Show biz is not without its fad diets, cleanses, and quick fixes, but don’t count Swift as part of that crowd. Rather, she takes a balanced approach to her diet. Translation: Taylor follows a wholesome menu during the week while letting loose with her food choices on the weekends. “…I try to keep it lighter, but it’s nothing too regimented or crazy,” Swift conveyed to WebMD. “I don’t like to create too many rules where I don’t need them. We know what’s good for us, thanks to common sense.” Case in point: She told WebMD she passes on sugary drinks and sticks to salads, yogurt, and sandwiches Monday through Friday, but enjoys a burger and fries, ice cream, or cookies on weekends (a girl after my own heart). 
    We could all take a page from Swift’s book on mindful eating—that goes for sweets too. If you’re a Swiftie, you probably already know she’s no stranger to baking up a storm of desserts. “I bake pumpkin bread for everyone I know and make ginger molasses cookies and hot chocolate and chai,” she expressed to Bon Appétit. As for her go-to drinks? Skinny vanilla lattes on weekdays and PSLs on weekends. “The point is I’m never cutting out what I love,” Swift informed WebMD. She is just like us!
    For hydration: She always has a water bottle with her
    Swift can’t live without her Starbucks like the rest of us, but she knows water does a body good and makes it a point to load up on water, tour or no tour. “I have so much water in my dressing room because I drink, like, ten bottles of water a day,” Swift revealed to Bon Appétit. “I drink so much water my friends call me an alien.” She never leaves home without a water bottle and even keeps a case in her car for good measure. While you don’t have to guzzle ten bottles in a day (assuming you’re not a pop star performing night after night), a general rule of thumb is to aim for about 11.5 cups (2.7 liters) of fluids a day. When we stay sufficiently hydrated, our cardiovascular, digestive, and immune systems work more efficiently. So do as Taylor does and hit your hydration goal for the day. Step 1: Start with a glass of water first thing in the AM. Your skin will reap the benefits, too. 

    For mental health: She journals 
    “Health is a big part of being happy,” Swift shared with WebMD, which to her means being in great shape both physically and mentally. It turns out she’s a journaling stan (that instantly gets her the Everygirl stamp of approval, BTW): “From a young age, any time I would feel pain I would think, ‘It’s OK, I can write about this after school.’ As a young kid, I learned to process my emotions by writing.” Swift was onto something at an early age, because putting pen to paper has a bevy of benefits, including reducing stress, creating space from negative thoughts, and deepening self-discovery. 
    And it’s no surprise that Swift also takes to her songwriting and music to feel all her feels: “…anytime something hurts, like rejection or sadness or loneliness, or I feel joy or I fall in love, I ask myself, ‘Can I write a song about this so I know how I feel?’” she said. Even if your journal entries about your feelings don’t become a platinum hit, journaling can provide an effective way to process emotions. Think of it like a therapy session with yourself.

    For self-care: She has a routine to feel at home while traveling
    In her interview with WebMD, Swift didn’t sugarcoat life on tour: riding hours on a bus, giving it her all on stage, and not sleeping in her own bed can feel draining. Her key to staying balanced through it all? Following a comforting routine and packing certain travel essentials. Her first order of business when settling into her hotel room is unpacking. “I do it everywhere I go,” Swift said. “I really like the way it feels to have my clothes put away in drawers and my shoes in the closet.” According to WebMD, Swift also always brings candles with her to her destinations. 
    If you caught Swift’s Netflix documentary Taylor Swift: Miss Americana, you know that her squad includes her feline companions—Olivia, Meredith, and Benjamin—and she has personalized bags and cat backpacks for them for travel on her private jet, according to Parade Pets (they’re practically just as famous as their mom, thanks to their many cameos on IG and TikTok). What’s more, Swift brings them to events and music video shoots alike every chance she gets (as evidenced here and here). As a fellow four-legged animal mama (sorry, I’m partial to dogs), I can relate (minus the Gulfstream, of course). 

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    Everything You Need to Do Lymphatic Drainage at Home

    Amongst the workout trends taking over FitTok are countless TikTokers massaging their way to de-puffing and sculpted bliss. ICYMI, I’m referring to the uber trendy concept known as lymphatic drainage massage, AKA the holy grail of naturally flushing out toxins, revving up the immune system, rejuvenating cellular function, and minimizing excess fluid retention and bloat.
    So how does it actually work? Think of the lymphatic system as the body’s “sewage system,” whose purpose is to help detoxify and get rid of damaged cells, bacteria, or toxins (read more about the lymphatic system here). With the helping hand of a gua sha, dry brush, or your literal hands, you can manually manipulate specific areas of your body to encourage the flow of (read: drain) lymphatic fluid toward the lymph nodes where it’s filtered and fed back into the bloodstream. Bottom line: You can take a DIY approach to boosting the health of your lymphatic system with simple tools. Read on for a mini tutorial on trying it for yourself—be it your face or body—products and all.
    Bye bye, swelling and puffiness. Hello there, cheekbones and defined jawline! Moving excess fluid out of the facial area translates to a de-puffing, swelling-reduction, dullness-combating effect (albeit temporary). Proponents of facial lymphatic drainage massages can’t get enough of the wellness trend thanks to the glowing, healthier-looking complexion it leaves (if it’s a J.Lo-worthy glow, consider me sold). Other benefits include aiding in improving blood circulation, bringing fresh nutrients to the skin through blood flow, supporting healthy cell production, and taking time for self-care. To give some TLC to your face, use the tips of your fingers or a massage tool to work your lymphatic system, starting in the middle of the face and working up and out towards the ears, before gently bringing it down the neck. 

    I’m not a specialist in lymphatic drainage, I’ve seen this technique on TikTok, and internet how to open lymphatic nodes. I’ve recently started doing it, but i only do it when I have extra time🥰 #guasha #lymphaticdrainage #slimmerface #stayyoung #lookyounger #massage
    ♬ original sound – Skinfluencer

    Full body
    You’ve likely seen before-and-after pics of lymphatic drainage massage recipients (namely their abdomens) and that alone was enough to convince you to take a stab at it (I don’t blame you). The reasoning behind the contoured look? Lymphatic drainage may help reduce water retention and bloat, which may have a temporary visual slimming effect. And the perks don’t stop there: throw in enhancing the immune system, stimulating the digestive system, and potentially minimizing PMS symptoms like headaches and pelvic pains. 

    And if you don’t want to buy anything at all…
    Your hands and some body oil can get the job done too (a mirror might be helpful as well, especially if you’re new to the technique). When performing a lymphatic self-massage, using slow, gentle, and rhythmic strokes and applying them in the direction of the lymph node, or upward, are key. According to a Vogue interview with lymphatic massage expert Flavia Lanini, begin by pressing on the area just below your collarbones to get the drainage started, then press the armpit three times on both sides. Next, shift your focus to the arms and stroke from the elbow to the shoulder on both sides.
    To give it a go on your stomach, Rebecca Faria, a licensed lymphatic drainage specialist and founder of Detox By Rebecca, gave a how-to in an interview with InStyle: Start by opening your lymph nodes with light presses, then make circular, clockwise movements around your navel, followed by consecutive up-and-down movements, from your stomach to your lymph nodes. “Then, turn to one side of your body and, using both hands, make pushing movements from the side towards the lymph nodes,” she explained. Don’t forget about the other side!
    Finally, to massage the legs, lay the palm of your hands right at the crease of one thigh, and move upwards toward the navel in a wave-like motion. Repeat on the other leg. 
    And because nothing is more satisfying than sweating it out, give your lymphatic system a leg up by using an infrared sauna blanket before your hands-on treatment. By stimulating your lymphatic system first to detox through sweat, your body is better able to remove toxins at a cellular level while preparing your lymph nodes for more effective drainage. 

    lymphatic drainage stomach massages have made such a big difference in my swelling, water retention, & inflammation! I feel the best results when I do this lying down so that my stomach is completely relaxed 💛 I always make sure to drink plenty of water after this too! #wellnesstok #wellnesshabits #wellness #healthyhabits
    ♬ Storytelling – Adriel

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    50 Ways to Romanticize Your Life This Spring

    I’ve always been one to look for the magic in life—those moments that sparkle and shine with the simple beauty that’s present all around us. I’m a romantic at heart, always searching for the beauty present in every day. To be clear, this perspective isn’t toxic positivity. Instead, it’s a quality of observation. Romanticizing your life, though it’s become a social media trend, is largely centered around finding joy, love, and peace within yourself. It’s the process of structuring not only your days and routines, but how you see the world so that you’re always putting yourself in the path of beauty. And what better time of year to begin practicing that than spring?
    With the colder weather (mostly) behind us, it’s time to start celebrating the color, warmth, and vibrancy that comes with the transition from winter to spring. I rounded up 50 of my favorite ways to romanticize your life below. Keep reading to learn how you can make the most of spring and start soaking up the energy of every day.

    1. Create a “morning moment.” Make the most of your morning wake-up call. Prep your beverage of choice, light your favorite candle, and spend five minutes with your new read. Wayyy better than rushing out the door.
    2. While you’re at it, design your dream morning routine. Sure, you can let the “that girls” of the world inspire you, or you can make it entirely your own. What would bring you joy before getting into the work day? Prioritize that.
    3. Transition your closet to spring. Lighter fabrics and brighter colors—the time to romanticize your closet is now. If you haven’t heard, Romcom core is in, and we’re ready to let Nora Ephron lead the way.
    4. Pack a picnic. Whether you’re out with your partner, gathering for Saturday lunch with your friends, or bringing your book to the park for a solo date—food always tastes better al fresco.
    5. Update your mood board. Some people create annual vision boards, but I love letting mine shift with the seasons. Take the old-school approach and clip images from magazines or get your inspiration on Pinterest and create a digital version on Canva. 
    6. Go to a matinee. There’s something so lovely about seeing a movie at the cinema versus streaming. Maybe it’s the popcorn?
    7. Make a joy jar. Variations of this trend have been floating around since the beginning of the year, but this is my own spin. Each week, on a slip of paper, write down one positive experience you had in the last seven days. Put it in a jar, and at the end of the season, read each and reflect on how much joy the season brought.
    8. Spend intentional time with yourself. Some call it dating themselves, others might refer to it as main character energy. But I love the idea of designating a weekend morning, random afternoon, or an entire day to getting to know yourself better. Grab coffee alone, take yourself out to dinner—whatever resonates! Remember: you can wine and dine yourself.
    9. Buy yourself the flowers. Miley said it best—don’t wait for someone else to shower you with your peonies or ranunculus. Go to Trader Joe’s, pick up a few bouquets, and DIY your own arrangement. After all, no one knows what you love like you.
    10. Change up your space. *Cue romcom apartment overhaul montage.* Would your bed feel better against the wall? Could you get more inspiration working in front of the window? Make your home work for you.
    11. Start an herb garden. There are plenty of tools and resources online to help you get started. The best part? You can make it as small or as big as you have space for. (Actually, the best part is garnishing your pizzas and pastas with fresh, home-grown herbs.)
    12. Start a creative club. Don’t have time for hobbies? Do you have a side project you’d like to make more progress on? Weekly or monthly, invite your friends over or gather at a nearby café where you can each work on your passions together. The community—and the accountability—is amazing. 
    13. Write letters. Whenever I break out my favorite stationary and pen a few love letters and notes of gratitude to friends and family, I instantly feel transported to a period drama. And that—coming from a Bridgerton lover—is never a bad thing.
    14. Use the nice stuff. That bottle of wine you’ve been saving? The china gifted from your grandmother? The dress you’ve been keeping for a special occasion? Drink it, use it, wear it. Don’t wait for a perfect moment—that moment is now.
    15. Swap in inspiring tech backgrounds. You know the ones.
    16. Make your coffee table ~aesthetic~. Stock up on a few design books, cute objects, and a vase of flowers (perhaps your arrangement from idea #9?). 
    17. Set the mood for dinner. Turn down the lights, turn up your favorite vibey playlist, and make a meal just for you. 
    18. Disconnect. Unplug from your socials, email, and phone altogether. Schedule an hour a day or one day a week where you’re totally without your tech.
    19. Drive for the sake of driving. Is it just me, or is ‘taking a drive’ a totally underrated form of therapy? I’ve found that I can sort out so much by getting in my car and heading out without a destination in mind.
    20. Upgrade your loungewear. Do you have a habit of falling asleep in your high school soccer shirt? Do you pull on any old pair of shorts and call it good? Invest in quality sleepwear. It doesn’t have to be expensive, but it definitely makes a difference.
    21. Join a CSA. It’s a great way to get fresh, farm-grown veggies and to support your local community. Plus, who doesn’t love pretty produce?
    22. Connect with yourself first. In the morning, before you grab your phone or speak to anyone, look inward. Whether that’s journaling, meditating, or simply sitting in the quiet for a few minutes, put your peace first.
    23. Go on an adventure. Spring is the perfect time for road trips and spontaneous getaways. Brainstorm a trip you want to take with yourself, your SO, or your bestie. Whether that’s going camping or planning a staycation in your city, make it special. (And remember: that doesn’t have to mean expensive!)
    24. Shake up your sex routine. Let these spicy positions work their magic.
    25. Spring clean your closet. While you’re facing all the trends you bought into and never wore, make a vow to shop for sustainable or secondhand pieces this season.

    26. Take a deep dive into astrology. Or human design. Or whatever resonates with you. These practices can be an inspiring reminder that there are forces outside of us supporting our journey.
    27. Cleanse your life. It’s never too late to get things in order!
    28. Shop for a meal in a small, specialty grocery store. Maybe it’s just me, but there’s something so wonderful about exploring grocery stores abroad. You can get the same experience right at home by shopping at a specialty grocer. Make a meal around it—and yes, that meal can simply be good bread, good butter, and something fancy to round it out. 
    29. Put some thought into your nightstand. No, it’s not a dumping ground for things you don’t want to put in their rightful place. If you’re tired of waking up to a chaotic mess, streamline things: your book, flowers, perhaps a lamp, and a glass of water. Notice how I didn’t write “phone.”
    30. Make your junk drawer a wellness drawer. I did this a few months ago and it completely changed the game. Clear out your junk drawer and swap in all of your go-to wellness items: supplements, affirmation cards, your journal, etc. Trust me, it’ll spark way more joy.
    31. Get snobby about your coffee. Or tea—and not in a bad way! What I mean is, know what you like and own it. Whether that’s French press, pourover, or you prefer black tea over green. Taste test your way through all the warm beverages and connect with the one you love most. 
    32. Update all your travel documents. Romantic girlies are prepared girlies. If your spring or summer travel involves a European vacay, it’s best to realize now (not at the gate) that your passport is expired.
    33. Make your 3 p.m. snack teatime-worthy. Have you heard? All the hot girls are eating tinned fish. And while it’s not a prerequisite for your hotness—it’s a state of mind, after all—if you haven’t jumped on the tinned train yet, now’s the time. I love it with a baguette or seeded crackers. Adding a glass of rosé doesn’t hurt.
    34. Own your orgasm—every day if you’d like.
    35. Make infused water. Citrus slices, cucumbers, lemon, mint, strawberries—the possibilities are endless. If you’re making it a priority to drink more H20 this year, might as well make it spa-worthy.
    36. Delete your unused apps and any unused subscriptions while you’re at it. It’s one small act that can go a long way in making your phone a greater source of joy.
    37. Buy a new plant. Because it’s spring, and our spaces deserve a little green.
    38. Practice positive self-talk. If not now, when? Write down a few positive affirmations or pull from a list to help you get started. Say your favorites in the mirror until they resonate and feel true. It may take a while, but that’s okay: this is a practice.
    39. Find the movement you connect with. PSA: You don’t have to go to the gym if you hate it. The weather’s warming up—revamp your hot girl walk routine, toss a frisbee in the park with friends, or roll out your yoga mat somewhere you feel entirely zen. That’s right, we’re done viewing exercise as punishment.
    40. Sign up for your own community garden plot. Living in a city, I don’t have much opportunity to get my hands dirty and plant my own flowers and veggies. But I connected with my local neighborhood association and discovered that there’s a community garden a 10-minute walk from my apartment! I can’t wait to get out there and plant, water, and reap the beautiful benefits. 
    41. Attend local festivals. In the spring, cities and towns across the country come alive with a range of outdoor festivals. From movies to art to the most random celebrations—they’re a perfect excuse to get outdoors and connect with your community.
    42. Ditch multi-tasking for good. In 2023 and beyond, we’re taking things one step at a time. Whoever thinks multi-tasking is a skill hasn’t experienced the true joy of entering a flow state.
    43. Take your lunch break. No, a “break” doesn’t mean you’re checking emails while shoveling down your salad. Turn off your computer and leave your phone at your desk. Take a walk, connect with a coworker, or enjoy the hour all to yourself. It’s your time, spend it how you want.
    44. Find your signature scent. I never truly knew what perfume I preferred until I smelled Ouai’s Melrose Place. It takes a little experimenting, but the process is well worth finding the fragrance that makes you feel your best.
    45. Look for hearts. Unfortunately, I can’t remember the podcast I first learned this practice from, but it’s completely changed how I see the world. Now, when I go on my walks and move throughout my days, I’m on the hunt for hearts. I light up when I see the child-drawn crafts in my neighbor’s window or the chalk art on the sidewalk on my way to grab coffee. Get ready for your perspective to shift in profound ways.
    46. Recommit to what you loved doing as a child. Whatever sparks joy in your life, follow that feeling.
    47. Get sunlight first thing. It’s one of the most powerful ways to set your circadian rhythm and maintain steady energy levels throughout the day.
    48. Make a mood-boosting playlist. Curate a vibe with all your favorite songs. Yes, early-aughts bangers absolutely count.
    49. Create for you. I’ve found more joy in social media than ever by creating Reels that feel like a scrapbook—I’m not making them for anyone else but myself. They document my life in a way that I’m excited to look back on, capturing the moments and memories as they are. I’ll go as far as saying that I may love Instagram because of this new approach.
    50. Create an after-work routine. Yes, there’s more to life than hopping on the couch with a Trader Joe’s meal and The Bachelor (although that sounds pretty great). Structure a routine that will help you transition from the workday to you time. Does that involve changing into your comfies? Lighting a candle? Turning on a playlist? Whatever resonates, make it your vibe.

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    How To Optimize Your Home for Your Hormonal Health

    There are few things I loathe more than being told that something I do is “bad” for me. If you’ve been hanging around health and wellness circuits long enough, you’ve undoubtedly been told that just about everything you hold dear is bad for you in some way. At best it’s irritating, at worst, terrifying. And yet, here I am, writing the kind of article that’s likely to spike either your anxiety or your side-eye. For that, I’m sorry, but here’s why I’m writing it anyway: because I don’t feel hopeless about what I’m about to share, and I don’t think you should, either.
    Looking out for your hormones might be the best thing you can do for your body. Your endocrine system (which houses your hormones) affects so much more than your reproductive system. It also affects your body’s ability to manage stress, optimize your metabolism, sleep better, and ultimately age more gracefully. The road to hormonal health is paved with roadblocks, and most of them are environmental. I grilled Ariele Myers, a licensed herbalist, fertility specialist, and founder of Wisdom of the Womb, to discuss how your physical environment can wreak havoc on your endocrine system and how you can protect your body from the worst offenders. Remember, it’s not about perfection here. Even the smallest effort can make a big difference.

    Meet the expert
    Ariele Myers
    licensed herbalist, board certified acupuncturist, and fertility specialist
    Myers founded Arieles Apothecary, where she worked with some of the top Reproductive Endocrinologists and IVF centers in the country to help hundreds of women on their hormonal health and fertility journeys. In 2016, she founded Wisdom of the Womb, an online platform to educate on all things reproductive health.

    How does your environment affect hormonal health?
    There are chemicals roaming around your food, skincare, and household products that are considered “endocrine-disrupting chemicals.” According to, these chemicals interfere with your system by either mimicking your natural hormones, which makes your body think you’re in balance when you’re not, or by straight-up blocking hormone production. You’ve likely heard of the dangers of BPA, PFAs, and synthetic fragrance, but the list of endocrine-disrupting chemicals is so long it can feel a little hopeless. But awareness is the catalyst for change, and as folks have started sounding the alarm, a slow roll of conscientious companies have begun to make changes. 
    When I asked Myers which environmental factors were most important (and relatively easy) to avoid, she highlighted skincare, single-use plastics, and air quality. “Our skin is our largest organ, so anything we put on our skin should be as clean as possible,” she said, adding, “single-use (and really any) plastics tend to break down more easily, so we are literally ingesting plastic when we drink through a straw or a plastic coffee lid.” She also mentioned off-gassing from new carpets or paints can be detrimental, but if that’s not something you can totally avoid, try to keep windows open as much as possible.

    How to clean up your life to optimize hormonal health:
    Opt for eco-friendly brands:
    Myers explained that the best thing we can do for our bodies is to care for the earth, which is why many of her recommendations to care for your hormonal health are also more eco-friendly options. “I tend to say that if the earth is not healthy, none of its inhabitants can be, so avoid the things that you know are terrible for the planet too.” It’s an excellent incentive to stand-up for environmental rights. If you’re worried about all the hidden chemicals in your products, look for the eco-friendly companies that are transparent about their ingredients. Small changes in our habits can lead to great benefits for the planet and our hormones.

    Use non-toxic skincare:
    Thankfully, there are a bevy of clean skincare brands that are easily accessible, affordable, and transparent. The Environmental Working Group (EWG) has a great free resource called the Skin Deep Database which rates beauty products’ safety based on their ingredients, so you can check to see if your favorites fall within a safe range. If they don’t, it’s a great tool to explore new brands.

    Avoid plastics when possible:
    Single-use plastics are arguably hard to avoid, but there’s been an uptick in conscientious companies that are trying to update their packaging to be more environmentally (and body) friendly. And there are a few tricks that can at least minimize your intake of single-use plastics. For example, if you’re a big fan of your daily coffee run, bring your own mug. Most coffee shops allow this and I personally prefer my glass mug with a silicone sleeve and lid. Trying to avoid food with plastic packaging is notably challenging (and more costly) but simply being aware of it might inspire you to shop where produce isn’t pre-packaged, at the very least. If you’re eating take-out on the go, keeping a stash of bamboo cutlery nearby is a solid move too.

    Be intentional about improving air quality:
    In terms of air-quality, investing in an indoor air purifier is never a bad idea. If that’s not in the budget, keeping windows open as Myers noted is key, especially after buying a new rug or piece of furniture that could be off-gassing. Adding plants to keep the air clean is a great move, as is switching to more eco-friendly, non-toxic cleaning products, and ensuring your candles are natural and non-synthetic.

    Purify your water:
    Micro-plastics and other chemicals can seep into public drinking water. The EWG has a free tap water database that can help you figure out what kind of water filter would suit your home best based on where you live. Avoid tap water when you can, and invest in a quality water filter for your home like LifeStraw and consider a shower head filter (contaminants can get into your pores too!). 

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    I’m Always Tired: Here Are 5 Things I’m Adding to My Routine to Combat Exhaustion

    Everyone knows someone who can fall asleep anywhere and at any time, and if you don’t, now you do. It’s me. I am that someone. I have a habit of falling asleep in the car, on a plane, at someone else’s house, at a movie theatre, at a bar (OK, that only happened once), but you get the point. I am always down for a little nap, but it’s not because I’m lazy, I’m just always battling exhaustion. It’s a great problem to have when I am on a long flight and want to fall asleep, but overall, exhaustion isn’t so great because I’m an adult who has a career and responsibilities that need tending to.
    After yawning one too many times on a Zoom call, I decided it was time to make some changes in my routine because I needed more energy and I needed it stat. Always one to lean on products and routines that prioritize wellness over quick fixes, I have found five things that have helped me combat exhaustion, and I am sharing them with you all here:

    1. Energy Capsules
    I am a coffee girly through and through, but I know myself better than to think I can have more than two cups of coffee. Especially if I reach for a cup in the afternoon, I start to bounce off the walls, immediately get a headache, and then crash from the jitters. For this reason, I have not allowed myself to have coffee past 10 a.m. in a long time. But when I do need some extra caffeine, I always reach for Equilibria’s Energy Capsules because they have the same amount of natural caffeine as a standard cup of coffee but the caffeine is paired with L-Theanine which is an amino acid that helps reduce mental fatigue and supports calm alertness. Taking up to two of these capsules when I need to get in the zone and have focused energy has been a game-changing addition to my routine. Try them out for yourself and use code THEEVERYGIRL for 20% off your first order at Equilibria!

    Energy Capsules
    Equilibria’s Energy capsules deliver calm, focused energy so your mind and body can operate at peak performance. Since they get to work in 30-60 minutes, your energy is back in action in no time.
    Use code THEEVERYGIRL for 20% off + get a FREE Nourishing Body Oil for a limited time only!

    2. Low-Intensity Exercises
    Back in the day (AKA before I turned 25), I would wake up and head straight to a high-intensity, bootcamp-style workout class 5-6 days a week. Looking back, I don’t know how or why I did that, but my routine looks a lot different now. While I still love a sweaty HIIT class every now and then, adding yoga and pilates into my routine has drastically helped me feel less run down and tired on a day-to-day basis. I have also been incorporating long walks on the weekends and even during my lunch break sometimes for a little refresh and boost of energy.

    3. Greens Powders
    Greens powders are absolutely everywhere right now including, but not limited to, all influencers’ morning routine videos, ads on Instagram and TikTok, commercials on podcasts, and even the end caps of my local grocery store. I can’t escape them even if I tried, and trust me, I did. But after a long time of trying to avoid buying into the hype, I gave in and to my wallet’s despair, I truly am better for it. Instead of starting my morning diving headfirst into a pot of coffee, I start with a huge glass of water and my greens. The vitamins, minerals, and adaptogens that are included in some of my favorite powders help deliver steady energy that lasts throughout the day.

    Greens Supplement
    These tablet support your energy with instant nutrients. All you have to do is drop one tablet in a glass of water, let it dissolve, and drink up.

    4. Breathwork
    I know that breathwork sounds woo-woo, but studies have shown that by incorporating high-frequency breathing, people can increase their ability to sustain attention. And when I am dosing off midday, it’s just what I need to get back into action. After a few minutes of guided breathwork (I love the Breathwrk app!), I feel better equipped to stay on task and power through my to-do list. And the best part is that it only takes a few minutes, so whenever I am feeling the effects of exhaustion and need a pick me up, I like to rely on this super quick but effective practice.

    5. Balanced Snacks
    I really do wish that popcorn and chocolate were enough to power me through the day, but your body runs off what you feed it, and I need a little more support than my favorite movie theatre snacks to beat exhaustion. In between my regular meal times, I reach for snacks that have whole grains (like oats, brown rice, and quinoa), healthy fats (like nuts, seeds, and avocado), protein (like eggs, chicken, and protein powder), and fiber (like beans, berries, and chia seeds). While I might not always check all the boxes, I notice that when I reach for more balanced snacks, I don’t feel as tired throughout the day. Some of my favorite snacks are protein bars, crackers or veggies with hummus, smoothies, and apples with peanut butter.

    Protein Bar
    RX Bars are the snack I reach for the most—both at home and on the go when I need a pick me up. They have simple ingredients, come in tons of flavors, and are high in protein.

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    We Asked Experts: Is Coffee Good or Bad for You, and How Do You Make It Healthier?

    It’s the morning jolt you look forward to and the pick-me-up to get you through an afternoon slump—I’m talking a good ol’ cup of coffee, of course. It turns out your java habit is doing more than just giving you a much-needed rush of energy and helping you stay awake. Recent research shows that drinking about two cups a day can provide a ton of health benefits (great news for coffee addicts alike). So I asked health experts to spill the tea—ahem, coffee—on all the health benefits of coffee, how to make sure your cup of coffee is as healthy as possible, and if coffee really is as beneficial as studies may suggest. Grab your fave brew, and let’s dig in. 

    In this article

    Health benefits of coffee
    1. Boosts energy levels and brain function
    No surprise here: Your go-to morning bevvie contains caffeine, a central nervous system stimulant which helps fight fatigue and level up your energy levels, which is probably why you love it so much. But how does it work? When the body ingests caffeine, specific receptors in the brain that mediate critical functions like sleep, arousal, cognition, memory, and learning are blocked. In other words: Bye, bye, fatigue. Hello, alertness. “Coffee has been shown to positively impact brain function, with studies suggesting that coffee can improve alertness, memory, and reaction time,” agreed Monica Russell, a nutritionist and the founder and CEO of Acquired Coffee.

    2. Packed with antioxidants
    Step aside, chocolate and blueberries because coffee is also chock full of antioxidants. Not only is it antioxidant-rich, but it might be one of the most antioxidant-rich products we have access too. “Coffee is one of the richest antioxidant drink in the world,” explained Michael Murdy, a food scientist, dietitian chef, and founder of Robust Kitchen. “It contains polyphenols, a type of antioxidant, which can help reduce inflammation, protect cells from damage, and even help to lower the risk of some chronic diseases.” 

    3. May assist healthy weight loss goals
    If weight loss is one of your goals, your morning Starbucks run may be doing more for you than just boosting energy levels. According to one study done from 2021, coffee could alter fat storage and support gut health (gut health is an important factor in healthy weight management). In another promising study, increased coffee intake was linked to overall decreased body fat in women specifically. Furthermore, drinking coffee may help you be more active, which can be beneficial if increased activity is part of your weight loss plan: another promising study found that people who drank 1-2 cups of coffee per day were 17% more likely to meet recommended physical activity levels, compared with those who drank less than one cup per day. 

    4. Contains essential nutrients
    As registered dietician Devon Peart, MHSc, BASc told Cleveland Clinic, coffee contains about a thousand different botanical compounds. While scientists haven’t studied all of them yet, the verdict so far is looking good. What’s more, Murdy cited that coffee contains essential vitamins and minerals, such as potassium (an essential electrolyte), magnesium (supports muscle and nerve function and energy production), and niacin (supports a healthy nervous system and digestive system). 

    5. Can improve physical performance
    If you’ve ever drank coffee before pre-workout, you may have noticed anything from a little pep in your step to feeling like you’re The Hulk (but prettier, obvi), and for good reason. Coffee stimulates the body to use fat stores instead of muscle glycogen (AKA sugar) during long workouts. The result? Prolonged use of working muscles, leading to the ability to train longer and with greater power output and resistance to fatigue. 
    Why coffee may not be good for you
    While there are some amazing health benefits, it’s important to know that every body is different, and therefore reacts differently to every practice, routine, and food–including coffee. Therefore, along with the benefits of coffee, there also may be some downsides. Dr. Anna Arabyan, a hormone expert and founder of NutraFemmeRX, laid out the potential downfalls of caffeine, particularly on women with a reproductive cycle. “It’s important to note that the effects of caffeine on women with a reproductive cycle can vary depending on individual sensitivity to caffeine,” Dr. Arabyan continued. “If you are a woman with hormone-related health concerns, talk to your healthcare provider about how much caffeine is safe for you to consume.” Potential downfalls of coffee include:
    Hormonal imbalances: Caffeine can affect the levels of the hormones estrogen and progesterone. In higher dosages, there is a possibility that excess caffeine intake can cause an imbalance of the two hormones, leading to negative health effects (think: premenstrual syndrome, heavy periods, fibrocystic breasts, period symptoms, etc.). Additionally, caffeine can cause your body to produce excess cortisol (AKA the stress hormone), which can result in inflammation. 
    Increased anxiety and insomnia: Caffeine can cause nervousness, restlessness, and anxiety, particularly in women who are already prone to these conditions. It can also interfere with sleep, which can lead to fatigue and other health problems. 
    Potential toxin consumption: conventional coffee is among the most heavily chemically treated crops in the world. Coffee bean crops are commonly treated with synthetic fertilizers, pesticides, herbicides, fungicides, and insecticides that do not always get processed out when the bean is turning into your cup of coffee. Because mold, toxins, and pesticides may be lurking in your java, knowing where your coffee is coming from matters. 
    Bottom line: is coffee good or bad?
    The age-old debate remains: Is coffee a superfood or damaging? “The answer is, it depends,” Russell stated. “Coffee can be a great source of antioxidants and brain-boosting benefits, but it’s also high in caffeine, which can be harmful in large amounts. Whether coffee is good or bad for you depends on your biochemistry.” In other words, because of bio-individuality, every body will react differently to coffee. “Coffee is a complex beverage, and its effects on one person may vary widely from what other experiences,” Murdy echoed. “Some people may find that it increases their energy, focus, and cognitive performance, while others may find it to have negative effects such as increased anxiety, agitation, or interrupted sleep. Pay attention to how your body responds to coffee and adjust your consumption accordingly.”
    Translation: Get to know your body and how you feel with or without caffeine, and make the choice that is best for you. Talk to your doctor about how coffee could affect you (especially if you have anxiety, insomnia, or hormone-related symptoms), and experiment with at least a few days without caffeine to see how you feel. You just might find that “detoxing” from caffeine has a long term benefit on your energy levels or improves symptoms such as headaches, PMS, or anxiety. Also, if you feel dependent on coffee to be able to stay awake or wake up in the morning, talk to your doctor about naturally increasing energy and potentially limiting caffeine to get over any caffeine dependence. However, if you feel no dependence or symptoms and you want to enjoy coffee as a part of your routine, enjoy an (organic–more on that below!) cup, knowing you’re getting some amazing health benefits.

    Tips to make your cup of coffee as healthy as possible
    1. Choose organic Arabica beans 
    Since coffee is a highly-sprayed pesticide food, Russell recommended reaching for organic coffee whenever possible to reduce your exposure to pesticides and chemicals. “When shopping for coffee beans, look for high-quality, organic, and specialty-grade beans,” she continued. “These are usually grown in specific regions and are carefully harvested and processed to produce the best possible flavor.” As for the healthiest types of beans? “Arabica beans are generally the best choice,” Murdy  confirmed. “They contain fewer caffeine and acids than Robusta beans, making them easier on the stomach and less likely to cause heartburn or indigestion.”
    2. Be mindful of how you take your coffee
    “Using too much sugar in your coffee can increase blood sugar levels,” Murdy explained. “Instead, try using natural sweeteners such as honey or maple syrup to sweeten your coffee. Or, if you don’t need any sweetness, you can skip it altogether.” Russell favored adding a small amount of almond or coconut milk for creaminess or opting for a sugar alternative like stevia. To take it a step further, Murdy suggested adding spices to your cup of java: “Adding spices to your coffee can help enhance the flavor and add a boost of antioxidants. Try adding a pinch of cinnamon, nutmeg, or cardamom for a delicious and nutritious twist.”

    3. Brew your own coffee
    We get it: you’ve reached VIP status at your local Starbucks, but Russell suggested DIYing at home to not only save you cash, but also to give you more control over the ingredients you use. Dr. Sony Sherpa, a holistic physician from Nature’s Rise, encouraged using filtered water when brewing your coffee: “Coffee is 99% water, so using clean, filtered water will help to improve the taste and quality of your coffee. With filtered water, you can ensure that your coffee doesn’t contain impurities that may be present in tap water.”
    4. Go for a dark roast
    All those different “roasts” you see at your local coffee shop actually mean more than just how coffee connoisseurs order their ideal cup. The variety of roast can also vary caffeine, acid levels, antioxidants, etc. The differences are slight, but may be worth it if you’re a heavy coffee drinker and don’t have a preference anyway. “Dark roast coffee has slightly less caffeine than light roast coffee, so the former is better if you’re trying to cut back on caffeine intake,” Dr. Sherpa explained. “Dark roast coffee has also been shown to contain more antioxidants than light roast coffee.” Russell agreed: “Darker roasts tend to be lower in acidity, making them easier on your stomach. Plus, they often have a stronger, bolder flavor.”
    5. Consider decaf or a coffee alternative if you’re sensitive to caffeine
    If you want to avoid caffeine due to hormonal concerns, mental health, or insomnia, but still love a cup of coffee as your morning ritual, there are options for you too. “Consider switching to a caffeine-free alternative like decaf or trying a coffee alternative like dandelion coffee or chicory root coffee,” Russell proposed. There are other super nutritious substitutes like viral MUD/WTR, matcha tea, and kombucha, all of which have additional benefits you don’t want to sleep on (hint: can improve focus and energy, super beneficial for gut health, reduce your risk of high blood pressure, and boost your immune system, respectively). 

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    I Implemented These 5 New Habits and Had the Best Month of My Life

    Ah, 2022. I don’t miss you. While I had promised myself 2022 was going to be my best year at the end of 2021, a year came and went and I had completely fallen off my exercise routine, was regularly turning to food and alcohol for comfort, and wasn’t making time for what was most important to me. As 2023 approached, I knew it was time to turn over a new leaf. So I took a break to reflect, read self-help books, and make a plan. Low and behold, I had one of the best months of my entire life this past January, successfully balancing and excelling at personal life, work, and relationships. Not to brag, but I feel like I cracked the code on life. Here are the five new habits I implemented that turned it into the best month of my life. 

    1. Journaling every morning and night
    Throughout my childhood, I was a big journaler. I carried a notebook around with me everywhere, and I wrote in it whenever I could. But when I started my first big girl job, I no longer had hours of free time to sit and write. For the past ten years, I have looked through old journals with sadness, wondering why I ever stopped and how I would ever be able to start again. Then, at the start of 2023, I decided to start small and adapt a prompted daily journaling habit.
    Every morning, I set myself up for the day by practicing gratitude and manifestation. And every night, I take a few minutes to reflect on how my day went. I record my mood, what went well and what could have gone better, and a memory for the day. I may not write pages and pages about my life regularly like I used to, but I’ve gotten back what I loved so much about journaling as a child and teenager: the space to process what I am feeling and the ability to remember the little joys that make up life.

    2. Reflecting on a daily affirmation
    I don’t remember when I first heard of affirmations, but I do remember that until very recently, I found the whole practice to be a bit woo-woo. I pictured myself standing in front of a mirror, repeating the same sentence over and over, every single day of my life. And while this is absolutely an acceptable way of utilizing a daily affirmation, I knew it wouldn’t work for me. Instead of trying to find one daily affirmation that completely embodied who I was and wanted to be, I decided to purchase a 365-day affirmation calendar.
    Now, as part of my morning routine, I flip to the next page in the calendar, read the affirmation, and write it down in my journal. I may repeat it while looking at myself in the mirror, write it on sticky notes, or recite it out loud like other people may enjoy their affirmations, but I do take the time to fill my mind with a positive thought every morning. To get started on your morning affirmations, check out this list of 50 positive affirmations that will change your life. 

    3. Creating a top three to-do list
    For my entire life, I have been the type of person who creates one never-ending to-do list. I write my tasks in a notebook, adding to it as more things get put on my plate. Thankfully, I have never been crazy enough to believe I could cross everything off in one day. But on those days when I cross off two things and add eight more, I can’t help but be disappointed.
    Now, while I still have a larger to-do list of all of the things I know I need to get done, I also keep a daily to-do list that only ever has three things on it. This allows me to quickly prioritize the many tasks on my plate, and it allows me to feel a sense of accomplishment. While I often get more than the three things done in one day, on the days that don’t go as well, as long as I cross those three things off the list I know that I’ve done what I set out to do.

    4. Re-evaluating how I spend my time
    I spent months being frustrated that I couldn’t do it all, feeling like I never had time for both what I was supposed to do and what I wanted to do. Then I read Better Than Before by Gretchen Rubin and learned about the “false choice loophole.” The false choice loophole is one of ten loopholes that Rubin identified when studying why people avoid building habits, and it’s when you believe you can’t do something because you’re already busy doing something else. 
    Let me explain. Throughout 2022, I was working on a novel but rarely found time to write. As I listened to authors talk about their processes, the one piece of advice I repeatedly picked up on was to write first thing in the morning. This sounded like exactly what I needed, but how was I supposed to do it when I was already getting up earlier than I wanted in order to fit in a workout? I believed that I couldn’t write because I was already busy working out in the mornings. But what was stopping me from doing both?
    So at the beginning of 2023, I switched up my morning routine. I set my alarm even earlier, giving myself enough time for about an hour and a half of writing and an hour of exercising. And it worked! Did I want to cry when I dragged myself out of bed knowing the sun wouldn’t be up for hours? Yes. Did I often take a nap on the couch before dinner? Yes. But did I finish the first draft of my novel and stick to my exercise routine? Yes! And each success was more fulfilling because I didn’t have to give up something else that was important to me in order to achieve it.

    5. Focusing on only what can be controlled
    I’ll admit it: I am an emotional person. The smallest thing—my favorite coffee shop out of my preferred milk alternative, being forced to sit through a meeting I didn’t need to be in, a surprise thunderstorm during my daily Hot Girl Walk—can immediately shift my mood, turning a good day to a bad one in a matter of seconds. And while I fully believe in the importance of allowing yourself to feel your feelings, the level with which I was wallowing in my negative thoughts had become unhealthy, reaching a point where I wasn’t able to enjoy the things I could control because of the things I could not control. Therefore, at the start of 2023, I decided to give myself 15 minutes to seethe. I could go for a walk and complain to my husband. I could blast an old angry emo song. I could bawl my eyes out. But at the end of those 15 minutes, I had to get back to my day.
    Has it been easy? Of course not. Have I wanted to numb myself by drinking several glasses of wine on a weeknight? Definitely. But giving myself the time to process what I am feeling and then only focus on what I actually can control has changed my mindset. I have read more books, spent more time with friends, and had happier nights at home with my husband.

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    I Went on a 7-Day Complaint Cleanse, and It Kinda Changed Everything

    You know that amazing feeling when you get a break to b*tch to your coworkers around the water cooler about that irritating thing your boss just did? What about when you call up your mom when your roommate leaves to vent about the dirty dishes she leaves in the sink? Or when you’re tired and your coffee maker isn’t working, so you text your best friend, “omg worst Monday everrrrrr?” What about the thrill of commenting something negative on an Instagram post of a celebrity you don’t like or an Instagram post that you don’t agree with? I, dear readers, have had my fair share of being seduced by the coping mechanism and daily habit that is complaining.
    On bad, stressful days, it’s easy to complain about anything that inconveniences me–the traffic, the weather, a friend getting on my nerves. Whether it’s out loud to whoever is nearby or just thinking it in my head, complaining comes as naturally to many of us as breathing. I often get swept up in both of the major and minor frustrations we encounter every day, and I have a flair for drama so daily frustrations become omg, the world is out to get me! While some venting is healthy to prevent bottling up feelings and a fresh perspective can help solve a situation, too much complaining can cause chronic stress, affect our relationships, and even affect our health. So what’s a girl to do? Here is how I went on a complaint cleanse and why you should too:

    Why do we complain?
    According to Psychology, we complain because we find a gap between expectation and reality, but it can also be a subconscious bonding technique. Venting over shared negative experiences can build a sense of camaraderie, since you’re disliking the same thing and feeling the same emotion. Complaining is actually contagious, meaning you can start complaining more if the people you’re around are complainers, and vice versa.
    But talking about that annoying person who budges you in the Trader Joe’s line or how bad your hair looks creates a feedback loop, making us experience the negative emotion over and over again. Focusing on dissatisfactions that we do not have the power to control (or try to change) can leave us feeling victimized, hopeless, and even depressed. Of course, the occasional dissatisfaction every now and then can’t have that much affect on our minds, but let’s be honest with ourselves. Think about how many things you complain about a day–the weather outside, the crowded public transportation this morning, the TV show you didn’t like, the coffee shop that got your order wrong, the meeting that ran long—and how the immediate reaction of frustration and helplessness accumulates overtime and can rewire our brains to find the negative in any situation. It’s a constant cycle;  complaining actually leads to even more complaining.
    If you’re unsure if you complain too much, look back through your texts, emails, and DMs to see if they have a more negative tone than positive, or if there are as many negative comments as there are positive. You can also keep a thought journal and write down every time you think a negative thought or voice a complaint. If all of your conversations and thoughts are negative 20% of the time, that’s average, but if they’re any more than that, it could be seriously affecting your mental and physical health.

    Why complaining too much can be harmful
    A 2016 study by Standford found that complaining actually shrinks neurons in certain areas of the brain. In other words: it decreases your brain’s ability to problem solve. Complaining also releases cortisol, the stress hormone, which raises blood pressure and affects blood sugar. Now I’ve got your attention, huh? Besides the serious physical effects, complaining also affects our relationships. Psychologically speaking, negative thoughts stand out in the brain more so than positive things (just think of how you’d likely forget a compliment but always remember an insult, or how you’d obsess over losing a $20 bill more than finding a $20 bill). This means that your negativity or negative comments are more likely to stand out in people’s minds than the positive things about you or the positive things you say. Likewise, if you’re complaining about your relationships, you are likely to start seeing more negativity in loved ones. 
    Now let’s switch to the flip side: gratitude, or as I call it for the purpose of this article, the opposite of complaining. Gratitude in general has an extreme amount of benefits, including improved sleep, increased energy, strengthening the immune system, greater longevity, healthier relationships, and the obvious one: making you happier.

    My experience doing a complaint cleanse
    I’ve always believed strongly in the power of positive thinking, but it wasn’t until a scroll through Instagram that I realized I might need more than some meditation apps to fully achieve a grateful mindset. Author Cleo Wade posted about a complaint cleanse and I was immediately inspired:

    I mean, I am a millennial after all; cleanses come like second nature. I’ve tried a digital detox, a skin detox, and even a juice cleanse (don’t worry, only once when it was a thing back in 2016. EAT WHOLE FOODS, PEOPLE!). So a complaint cleanse seemed like the obvious thing to do. I’m also a big believer in the power of words (I dedicated my career to writing them), and feel that every word we say can make a difference in the world, for better or for worse. It’s why I choose not to argue with strangers on the internet, why I refuse to talk behind people’s backs, and why I wanted to write this article.
    These examples may not seem like they make that much immediate difference to the world, but I’ve always had this idea of words being like pennies in a jar: every word that is positive and empathetic of other people is one penny, and every word that’s intended to be negative, judgmental, or mean is a penny taken away. Cleo Wade’s post made me realize all of my complaints—even about the weather, the movie I thought was bad, or the food that arrived cold at the restaurant—were also pennies being taken out of the jar.
    At the risk of going too Mother Teresa on you, trust me when I say it feels good to complain. And this isn’t about getting rid of all negative emotions (no toxic productivity is welcomed here). Negative feelings or thoughts can help us see what to change, realize what we want out of our lives, and stay away from danger (BTW voicing opinions when you see injustice is also not a complaint, it’s a call to action). To be clear, I will always be a fan of venting to my mom and speaking out (as loudly as I can!) about issues and injustices that need to be changed. But I’ve realized the power that frivolous complaints actually have on ourselves and the people around us.
    So for one whole week, I swore off all complaining. Every time I felt myself getting angry at other drivers on the road or being annoyed that my food was taking too long at a restaurant, I noticed the negative thought and then chose to let it go. I thought two positive comments for every negative one, and I wrote down three things I was grateful for every morning and every night. I made an effort to compliment my friends and family more often and tell them good things about my day or funny stories I’d heard instead of bad things that happened to me. In other words, I filled the space I had previously reserved for complaining with only positive, supportive words and thoughts.
    The main thing I learned from going on a complaint cleanse was the difference between what’s worth it to voice and what wasn’t. If something can be fixed, like your spouse leaving dirty dishes in the sink, asking for a change or explaining what you don’t appreciate can actually make the situation better. But if traffic was bad that morning, there is absolutely no reason to complain about it to my coworkers. There’s nothing I can do to fix it, and it just takes up space where I could be thinking, “What a beautiful day it is outside,” or asking how their mornings were (oh yeah, other people have lives too!).
    In the end, I’d much rather see and create good things, without commenting on the bad. I’d much rather be the author, not the critic. As my girl Cleo says, when we do this, we let our language be part of what makes the world better, instead of worse. Juice cleanses may not be worth it, but complaint cleanses, as I voluntarily discovered, are the kind of cleanse that you’ll want to keep going long after the week is over.

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