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    Reclusive Kim Mathers is seen sleeping at the wheel of her car during shopping trip after downsizing home & 45-day rehab

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    KIM Mathers has been spotted taking a snooze at the wheel of her car in between running errands as her famous ex Eminem makes headlines for his controversial new album. Exclusive photographs obtained by The U.S. Sun show Marshall Mathers’ former spouse having a mid-day nap near her home in Michigan. Kim Mathers is seen catching forty winks on a day out shopping in MichiganCredit: The U.S. SunEminem’s ex-wife Kim headed into a Sally Beauty store wearing a white tank top and jeansCredit: The U.S. SunKim appeared to have injured herself as she was seen wearing a sprained thumb braceCredit: The U.S. SunThe reclusive 49-year-old showed off her rockstar look with cropped blond dyed hair and dozens of tattoos after her transformation in recent years.In one snap, she is seen having a small siesta during her busy day.An eyewitness this week said she “seemed fine” despite falling asleep at the wheel and snoozed for a little over an hour as the sun shone through her car window.The mom-of-four, who has three children with Eminem, eventually woke up and made her way across the parking lot to a Sally Beauty store.READ MORE on Kim MathersShe appeared to have injured her left thumb and was wearing a brace wrapped in red bandages. Kim was pictured the day before with a mystery mark and bruise on her left cheek. She told The U.S. Sun last year she is clean and sober after a 45-day stint in rehab following a mental health crisis in 2022.During her shopping trip, Kim wore unique ear jewelry with gems and pearls, which appeared to be in the shape of a butterfly.Most read in ShowbizShe was also pictured wearing a necklace, prescription sunglasses, and a paisley-patterned bandana around her head. Photographs show her wearing a white vest top and jeans with a white studded belt. REHAB STINTKim still managed to open the door to the shop with her bad hand and was seen wearing silver rings and several black leather bracelets.Eminem’s ex Kim Mathers grabs pizza with rarely-seen son Parker in new pics as mom-of-four rocks grunge lookShe carried a small clutch purse and had a large set of keys on a lanyard tucked in a belt loop on her jeans. Kim spent a good amount of time in the store before she was seen leaving carrying several big shopping bags. She appeared well after her mental health scare following the death of her mom Kathy Sluck two years ago. When approached to ask how she was doing in 2023, she told The U.S. Sun, “It’s been hard, I lost my mom, my dad, and my sister [over the past 10 years].”[But] I’m good. I’ve been clean since about October, I went to Jefferson House … for 45 days.”She revealed she sought treatment after taking pills to try and help her sleep. Meanwhile, Kim recently made a profit selling her home, after initially taking out a large loan from Eminem’s company to pay for the property.She bought her old four-bed, three-bath home in Michigan for $530,000 in 2022 shortly after her mom’s death. Kim Mathers fell asleep in her car with her front windows wound downCredit: The U.S. SunKim Mathers visited the DMV before her siesta, according to an eyewitness in MichiganCredit: The U.S. SunShe initially paid for the house after borrowing $615,000 from Eminem’s Shady Games, Inc., mortgage documents showed.It is believed she was loaned the money as she was awaiting the sale of her mansion where she raised her four children. She has a daughter Hailie Jade, 29, with the rapper, along with adopted daughter Alaina, 31, whose mother Dawn, Kim’s sister, died of a drug overdose in 2016.Kim is also mom to Stevie Laine, 22, who identifies as non-binary, from a previous relationship, along with a teenage son, Parker. Eminem adopted both Aliana and Stevie when they were young, according to reports. Kim finally offloaded her custom-built property where they grew up in March 2023 for $1.35 million. On her most recent house, she made a $20,000 profit when it sold for $560,000. Kim Mathers’ turbulent pastEminem’s ex hasn’t had an easy ride over the years but is now thriving having spent time in rehab and rebuilding her relationship with the star. Here’s a look back at her rollercoaster life.Teen runaway At just 13, Kim reportedly ran away from an abusive home and was taken in by Marshall’s mum, Debbie Nelson, who described her as a “tall, sulky blonde girl” in her memoir.”[She said she] had no idea who their real father was, and claimed to have been sexually abused by her stepfather,” Debbie wrote.Pregnant at 21 Kim and Marshall fell in love and she gave birth to Hailie Jade on Christmas Day 1995. They moved back to the trailer but Eminem claimed it was impossible to live there because of Debbie’s drug habit and they were in and out of her home.”My mother did a lot of dope and s***, a lot of pills — so she had mood swings,” he told Rolling Stone.First marriage The pair had a volatile relationship and often split up but ended up tying the knot on June 14, 1999. They split after just a year, finalizing their divorce in 2001, and Kim sued over abusive lyrics about her in his songs which she claimed caused her to attempt suicide. The pair settled for an undisclosed sum and agreed on a custody arrangement for Hailie. Second marriage Kim had another child, Stevie Laine, but the couple couldn’t stay apart. Marshall ended up adopting Stevie and Kim’s niece Alaina as her mom Dawn was struggling with addiction. The pair got married again in 2006, but Kim was reluctant to go through with it and after 45 days Marshall left. Kim went on to have a son, Parker, although little is known about his father.2015 car crash The mom-of-four struggled with depression and addiction and in October 2015 drove her Cadillac Escalade into a telephone pole. She later apologized and admitted she had tried to take her own life. “I sat at the end of a road where I knew that no one else but myself would get hurt,” she told US radio station 95.5 WKQI.Sister’s death Just months after the crash, in January 2016, Kim’s twin sister Dawn Scott was found dead from a heroin overdose in a trailer park. She had been homeless for two years and Kim had been caring for her daughter Alaina full-time. Kim said Marshall had been “very supportive,” explaining, “We are very close friends; we are just trying to raise our kids together and make it as normal for them as possible.”2017 apology The rapper apologized for the way he treated Kim in his 2017 song, Bad Husband, and the pair’s relationship grew stronger. He rapped: “We might have loved each other too much/ And maybe that’s what made us do what we did to each other/ All the screw-ups.”Mom’s death & suicide attempt Kim was left devastated when her mom Kathy Sluck, 65, died on July 23, 2021, after her health deteriorated. Just days after her mom’s funeral Kim again tried to take her own life, but was saved by one of her children who phoned 911 after finding her surrounded by pills in the bathroom. Rehab and weddingsShe underwent treatment and has since been doing much better, while Marshall has continued to support her. In the past two years, she has celebrated the weddings of both Hailie and Alaina and told The U.S. Sun she is very close to her children. Kim now lives in a five-bed, three-bath home just minutes away, according to property documents seen by The U.S. Sun. The U.S. Sun can confirm Kim reunited with her ex at Hailie’s wedding in Detroit in Battle Creek, Michigan in May. A professional photograph featured in a collection of snaps on Alaina’s Instagram shows the former couple at the ceremony seated far apart.It is not known whether they spoke to each other at the wedding, but Kim previously told The U.S. Sun they are very amicable after years of ups and downs. Her ex is currently celebrating the success of his first album in four years, The Death of Slim Shady (Coup De Grace), in which he cancels his famous alter ego. Despite some of the lyrics on the record causing a stir, it has been well-received by diehard fans, particularly in the UK where it is currently No. 1.After rapping about his ex on his old albums, Eminem has refrained from rattling Kim in recent years as they are now on good terms. READ MORE SUN STORIESWhen questioned how often she sees the superstar, she previously joked to The U.S. Sun, “Not often, but often enough!”If you or someone you know is affected by any of the issues raised in this story, call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline on 988 or chat on 988lifeline.org. You can also text HOME to 741741 for Crisis Text Line.Kim was pictured the day before sporting a mystery injury on her left cheek covered with a bandaidCredit: The U.S. SunThe 49-year-old was seen with a huge key set attached to her belt loop featuring the words ‘Good Vibes’Credit: The U.S. SunKim Mathers carried several shopping bags to her car from Sally BeautyCredit: The U.S. Sun More

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      Kim Mathers is seen with facial injury as she runs errands after ex Eminem gives her a nod on his first album in 4 years

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      KIM Mathers has a mystery injury on her face new photos reveal after her ex Eminem briefly featured her on his latest album.The 49-year-old, who is now on good terms with the star, stepped out in Michigan with a noticeable mark on her left cheek.Kim Mathers was seen out running errands with a mark on her faceCredit: News Enterprises Inc.Eminem’s ex-wife put a cigarette in her mouth as she stepped out of her carCredit: News Enterprises Inc.Exclusive photographs obtained by The U.S. Sun show Kim wearing a bandaid over the small injury above a bruise along her jawline.She opted for a white and blue bandana wrapped around her head and wore her blonde dyed hair spiked after debuting her new rockstar look last year. The rapper’s ex-wife put a cigarette in her mouth as she snuck in a smoke break while walking across a parking lot to her local bank.Heavily-tattooed Kim wore a black vest top and gray sweat pants with black sneakersKim MathersShe accessorized her look with sunglasses, many bracelets, and a pink leather watch.The mom of four also carried a large set of keys on a lanyard with the words Good Vibes printed on it, along with a small purple pouch and her cell phone.She seemed in good spirits as she went about her business. Her outing comes as her ex used an old family recording featuring her voice on his new album, The Death of Slim Shady(Coup De Grace), in which he cancels his famous alter ego.Most read in CelebrityNEW ALBUMThe track Temporary lists Kim’s voice online in a post-chorus with their daughter Hailie Jade, now 29.Lyrics for the song read, “Daddy (Ooh) What? (Ooh) When, I used to have this when I was a little kid (Ooh) Baby, are you okay? (Ooh).”Eminem’s ex-wife Kim Mathers seen for the first time in years with shock new hair and elaborate tattoosEminem rarely mentioned his ex in his songs years after she sued him for defamation over the violent lyrics in his song Kim, which she claimed resulted in a suicide attempt. He later apologized to his former spouse on the track Bad Husband from his 2017 album Revival.The star rapped, “We brought out the worst in each other/Someone had to make the sparring end/ ‘Cause I loved you, but I hated that me/ And I don’t wanna see that side again / But I’m sorry, Kim/ More than you could ever comprehend.”Kim and Eminem, real name Marshall Mathers, married in 1999 and divorced two years later. They remarried in January 2006 but had broken up again by April of that year.The two are now said to be on good terms after years of ups and downs and reunited at their daughter Hailie’s wedding in Detroit.Eminem walked his daughter down the aisle as she tied the knot with Evan McClintock, with professional snaps showing a touching father-and-daughter dance. Although photographs of her with Kim were not shared, she could be seen seated away from her ex in a group photograph on social media.Kim with Marshall in his early days of fameCredit: WENNThe former couple share daughter Hailie Jade, now 28Credit: EminemMusic/YouTubeKim with Eminem at an album launch party in 2000Credit: GettyKim wore a bandana and a pair of shades as she stepped out to run errandsCredit: News Enterprises Inc.Hailie Jade’s mom carried a large set of keys and a purple pouch, along with her phoneCredit: News Enterprises Inc.As well as Hailie, Kim has an adopted daughter Alaina, 31, whose mother Dawn, her sister, died of an overdose in 2016 after years of battling with addiction issues.She is also mom to Stevie Laine, 22, who identifies as non-binary, from a previous relationship, along with a teenage son, Parker, who she was pictured with last year.Eminem adopted both Aliana and Stevie and raised them from when they were young, according to reports.The U.S. Sun spoke to Kim in 2023 following her mental health crisis a year earlier while she was grieving her mom Kathy Sluck’s death. She revealed she spent time in a treatment facility after taking pills to try and help her sleep at night. When asked how she was coping, she told The U.S. Sun, “It’s been hard, I lost my mom, my dad, and my sister.”Her three family members died in a tragic string of loss over the past 10 years. But even so, she added: “I’m good. I’ve been clean since about October, I went to Jefferson House … for 45 days.”Kim Mather’s turbulent pastEminem’s ex hasn’t had an easy ride over the years but is now thriving having spent time in rehab and rebuilding her relationship with the star. Here’s a look back at her rollercoaster life.Teen runaway At just 13, Kim reportedly ran away from an abusive home and was taken in by Marshall’s mum, Debbie Nelson, who described her as a “tall, sulky blonde girl” in her memoir.”[She said she] had no idea who their real father was, and claimed to have been sexually abused by her stepfather,” Debbie wrote.Pregnant at 21 Kim and Marshall fell in love and she gave birth to Hailie Jade on Christmas Day 1995. They moved back to the trailer but Eminem claimed it was impossible to live there because of Debbie’s drug habit and they were in and out of her home.”My mother did a lot of dope and s***, a lot of pills — so she had mood swings,” he told Rolling Stone.First marriage The pair had a volatile relationship and often split up but ended up tying the knot on June 14, 1999. They split after just a year, finalizing their divorce in 2001, and Kim sued over abusive lyrics about her in his songs which she claimed caused her to attempt suicide. The pair settled for an undisclosed sum and agreed on a custody arrangement for Hailie. Second marriage Kim had another child, Stevie Laine, but the couple couldn’t stay apart. Marshall ended up adopting Stevie and Kim’s niece Alaina as her mom Dawn was struggling with addiction. The pair got married again in 2006, but Kim was reluctant to go through with it and after 45 days Marshall left. Kim went on to have a son, Parker, although little is known about his father.2015 car crash The mom-of-four struggled with depression and addiction and in October 2015 drove her Cadillac Escalade into a telephone pole. She later apologized and admitted she had tried to take her own life. “I sat at the end of a road where I knew that no one else but myself would get hurt,” she told US radio station 95.5 WKQI.Sister’s death Just months after the crash, in January 2016, Kim’s twin sister Dawn Scott was found dead from a heroin overdose in a trailer park. She had been homeless for two years and Kim had been caring for her daughter Alaina full-time. Kim said Marshall had been “very supportive,” explaining, “We are very close friends; we are just trying to raise our kids together and make it as normal for them as possible.”2017 apology The rapper apologized for the way he treated Kim in his 2017 song, Bad Husband, and the pair’s relationship grew stronger. He rapped: “We might have loved each other too much/ And maybe that’s what made us do what we did to each other/ All the screw-ups.”Mom’s death & suicide attempt Kim was left devastated when her mom Kathy Sluck, 65, died on July 23, 2021, after her health deteriorated. Just days after her mom’s funeral Kim again tried to take her own life, but was saved by one of her children who phoned 911 after finding her surrounded by pills in the bathroom. Rehab and weddingsShe underwent treatment and has since been doing much better, while Marshall has continued to support her. In the past two years, she has celebrated the weddings of both Hailie and Alaina and told The U.S. Sun she is very close to her children. Kim added that her children had been “very supportive” and she was on medication, but declined to talk further about her health. Following her mom’s death, she wrote a message underneath an online obituary that read, “You’re all I had left Momma.”She added, “I can’t imagine this without you! I love you Momma!!! Kiss my dad and sister for me.”She also revealed she is in contact with her childhood sweetheart, now 51. READ MORE SUN STORIESAsked how often they see each other, she quipped, “Not often, but often enough!”If you or someone you know is affected by any of the issues raised in this story, call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline on 988 or chat on 988lifeline.org. You can also text HOME to 741741 for Crisis Text Line.Tattooed Kim Mathers was seen holding her phone to her ear as she left the bankCredit: News Enterprises Inc.Eminem’s ex was dressed casually in a pair of gray sweat pants and a black vestCredit: News Enterprises Inc. More

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      Where to try the best high intensity workouts in Dubai

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      Want to break a sweat and burn those extra calories? Then High Intensity workouts are the best form of exercise to go the extra mile.
      High-intensity workouts are designed to push your body to its limits by incorporating short bursts of intense activity followed by periods of rest or lower-intensity exercise.
      Overall HIIT, or high-intensity interval training, refers to repeated sets of intervals that are between five seconds and a minute long, with a relatively short rest period.
      The main type of workouts include:
      High-Intensity Interval Training (HIIT)
      Alternates between high-intensity exercises and short recovery periods.
      Circuit Training
      Combines strength and cardio exercises performed back-to-back with minimal rest.
      HIIT Cycling
      Pedal your way to that heart-pumping rush. HIIT cycling workouts, on the other hand, can make the time fly as you challenge your body and mind with various effort levels, work intervals, and recovery breaks.
      What are the overarching health benefits?
      Improved Cardiovascular Health
      HIIT can help improve the efficiency and strength of your heart. Also, Regular high-intensity workouts can reduce resting blood pressure.
      Enhanced Metabolism
      HIIT boosts your metabolism and keeps it elevated for hours after exercise, helping you burn more calories even at rest. These workouts are effective at reducing body fat.
      Time Efficiency
      HIIT sessions are typically shorter than traditional workouts, making them ideal for busy schedules. Despite the shorter duration, HIIT can provide significant fitness benefits in less time.
      Improved Muscle Tone and Strength
      High-intensity workouts often include resistance training, which helps build and tone muscles. These exercises can improve overall strength and endurance.
      Better Insulin Sensitivity
      HIIT can enhance insulin sensitivity, which helps your muscles use glucose more effectively. Improved insulin sensitivity lowers the risk of type 2 diabetes.
      Enhanced Athletic Performance
      HIIT can increase your maximal oxygen uptake, improving your endurance and performance in other physical activities. Overall, it can improve speed and power.
      Mental Health Benefits
      Intense exercise releases endorphins, which help reduce stress and improve mood. HIIT can improve brain health and cognitive functions such as memory and learning.
      So, if you’re looking to burn those calories, Dubai has a host of venues that work for both beginners and experts.

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      Nicolas Cage’s son Weston arrested for ‘assaulting mom during mental-health crisis’ and dad ‘posts $150k bail’

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      NICOLAS Cage’s son Weston has been arrested for assault with a deadly weapon after allegedly attacking his mother.The U.S. Sun has confirmed Weston Cage Coppola was booked in Los Angeles on Wednesday, weeks after his mom Christina Fulton was seen badly bruised following a bust-up with him during a mental health crisis.Nicolas Cage’s son Weston Cage was arrested early Wednesday morning for assault with a deadly weaponCredit: GettyWeston was released on a $150,000 bond early Wednesday morningCredit: GettyThe arrest follows a ‘horrific’ incident between Weston and his mother Christina Fulton in April which allegedly left Fulton covered in bruisesCredit: BackGridWeston Cage and Christina Fulton in 2018Credit: Getty“I can confirm that Weston Cage Coppola was arrested today for assault with a deadly weapon,” a spokesman for the LAPD said.“He was arrested by LAPD’s 77th Division.”He was released on a $150,000 bail around 10 am.“The family knew this was going to happen but needless to say, it is a very big shock,” a source close to the family told The U.S. Sun.It is believed Nicolas Cage bailed his son out of jail.A source with close knowledge of the situation confirmed to The U.S. Sun that Weston’s arrest was in connection to an assault on his mom, Christina, in April.Fulton posted a statement detailing the “horrific” April incident with her son.”Weston and I had no argument prior to the incident,” Fulton said.Most read in Celebrity”On Sunday April 28, I was reached out to by several of Weston’s best friends for assistance because they were experiencing Weston in a mental-health crisis.”When Fulton arrived she claimed she “acted swiftly to ensure Weston’s safety.””Upon my arrival, I was met by my son who clearly was in a state of a mental health breakdown, which in turn became a horrific experience,” she continued.”I have always supported helping my son with mental-health struggles.””I am doing all I can to get him the continued support he needs.”Police claimed that Weston got into a verbal argument with the actress before the alleged assault, which left her covered in bruises, People reported.LAPD confirmed to People that a battery report was taken at the time of the incident. This morning’s arrest isn’t Weston’s first.In 2017, the son of the National Treasure actor was arrested for a DUI and a hit-and-run.Weston, who was 26 at the time, was arrested for driving under the influence, People reported.Police said he hit several signs, parked cars, and mailboxes before crashing into a tree.The police were first called to the scene after Weston allegedly fled the scene of a separate accident, which occurred a mile away.READ MORE SUN STORIESAfter being examined at a hospital, he was charged with a DUI and arrested on a $30,000 bail.Weston made headlines in 2011 after he faced domestic violence charges following a dispute between him and now ex-wife Nikki Williams, ABC News reported. More

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      Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner’s daughter Violet, 18, reveals health condition and demands mask mandate at LA hearing

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      BEN Affleck and Jennifer Garner’s daughter Violet has put her foot down regarding mask mandates and revealed her scary health condition. The 18-year-old spoke at a city board meeting in Los Angeles on Tuesday, about the lack of mask mandates in the city’s hospitals.Violet Affleck spoke at a city board meeting in Los AngelesCredit: LA County Board of SupervisorsBen Affleck with his oldest daughter VioletCredit: X17Online.comBen Affleck and his daughter Violet walking into Michael Rubin’s White Party in July 2023Credit: SplashIn her speech, Violet, who is the eldest child of exes Ben, 51, and Jennifer Garner, 52, opened up about her health issues after contracting a post-viral condition.A clip from the meeting was shared on X, in which she says, while wearing a facemask, “Hi, Violet Affleck, Los Angeles resident, first-time voter. I’m 18. I contracted a post-viral condition in 2019.”I’m OK now, but I saw first-hand that medicine does not always have answers to the consequences of even minor viruses.”The Covid-19 pandemic has thrown that into sharper relief.”A post-viral condition, also known as long Covid, occurs after a viral infection, per the Mayo Clinic.Symptoms can include fatigue, lethargy, memory loss, inability to focus, and exhaustion, and can potentially go on for months.VIOLET’S PLEA”One in 10 infections leads to long Covid, which is a devastating neurological and cardiovascular illness that can take away people’s ability to work, see, move and even think,” Violet continued.”It stands to exacerbate our homelessness crisis, as well as the suffering of many people in our city. It hits communities of color, disabled people, elderly people, trans people, women, and anyone in a public-facing essential job the hardest.”Most read in CelebrityThe teenager then urged the board to make masks mandatory in medical facilities and other public places where Covid could spread.”To confront the long Covid crisis, I demand mask availability, air filtration and far-UVC lights in government facilities, including jails and detention centers, and mask mandates in county medical facilities.”Jennifer Lopez’s crisis-hit marriage with Ben Affleck ‘feeling the strain’ of her crumbling Hollywood dream after album flop & ‘cringe’ filmShe added, “We must expand the availability of free tests and treatment, and, most importantly, the county must oppose mask bans for any reason.”They do not keep us safer. They make vulnerable members of our community less safe and make everyone less able to participate in Los Angeles together. Thank you,” Violet concluded.Violet has often been seen sporting a medical mask, including when she attended Michael Rubin’s White Party last year with her dad, Ben, and his current wife, Jennifer Lopez, 54.She took photos with the other celebrities at the bash, donning a white face mask to match the theme.Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck relationship timelineJLo and Ben were first linked together in 2002 and became engaged later that year. However, they called off the wedding just two years later. They rekindled their romance in 2021 and finally got hitched in 2022. Here is a timeline of their love story:June 2002 – Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck met on the set of Gigli and JLo divorced from her second husband Cris JuddNovember 2002 – Ben proposed to JLo with a six-carat pink diamond ringSeptember 2003 – JLo and Ben called off their wedding and blamed it on ‘excessive media attention’ January 2004 – The celebrity couple announce they are heading separate waysJuly 2021 – JLo posts an intimate photo of herself beside Ben and they begin dating againApril 2022 – Ben proposes to JLo for a second timeJuly 2022 – The celebrity couple officially celebrated their nuptials in a Las Vegas, Nevada, ceremonyAugust 2022 – Ben and JLo have a second A-list wedding at their $8.9million George estateDespite everyone looking cheerful in the snaps, Ben and JLo have faced some challenges behind closed doors.Rumors have circulated that the pair – who tied the knot last August – are supposedly having marriage problems and might be heading for divorce.Ben and JLo reunited at Violet’s high school graduation ceremony in May, looking tense throughout the celebration.The Hollywood duo have also been spotted on solo outings without their wedding rings, fueling speculation they’ve separated.READ MORE SUN STORIESBen split from his ex-wife, Jennifer Garner, the mother of his three children — Violet, Seraphina, 15, and Samuel, 12 — in 2018.JLo was previously married to singer Marc Anthony, 55, with whom she shares 16-year-old twins, Max and Emme.Violet Affleck and her mother, Jennifer Garner, at the White House state dinner in December 2022Credit: Getty More

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      Advice For Your 20s And 30s: What They Don’t Tell You About Ageing

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      It’s rare to find an older woman who doesn’t wish they could give their younger self some advice. With age comes adaptation, lessons and a good dose of resilience. So why not tap into those who have lived it – consider this a page from a thick-ass adulting textbook. We asked three women, all with varying qualifications and experiences on the joys of ageing. Below, some lessons for women in their 20s and 30s as they look to the future. One thing’s for sure: so many things get better with age!

      READ MORE: Actress Temi Otedola On Why She Prefers A Simple Wellness Routine

      Advice #1: Let Go Of Self-imposed Limitations

      The forties for Palesa Boka have been about fully owning and embracing who she is, sans any societal limitations. In the process, she’s decided to show up the best way she knows how. As many of us already know, growing older is always a daunting thought or that arduous but necessary task we avoid, until you actually turn the page! AGE: 44

      I turned 40 in 2019 and oh boy what an unpredictable ride it has been! No one warned me about the self-assuredness that comes with this age! The constant taking stock of all facets of my life, and the self-growth that comes as a result, are just some of the things I wouldn’t trade in for anything. Then there’s the ‘I chooseme’ that comes with this age! I’m learning to prioritise myself and my needs despite the urgency of others’requests. I’d like to believe that I’m a late bloomer. A lot of changes started taking place later in my life. Our 40s aren’t about trying to fit in, I’ve learned. It’s as though our bodies and souls fight back any forced effort placed on them to conform, be likeable or to tone down.

      “I can confidently say that I have finally met my truest self at this age. I’m letting go of self-imposed limitations and embracing the fact that I’m right where I need to be – well, on most days.”

      It’s also the best time for me spiritually, physically, emotionally and sexually. I’m more confident in my skin. I honestly couldn’t give two hoots about what anyone thinks of me [chuckles]. My body? This is all I have to work with, so let’s! Mentally? I can only do better and that’s that! Financially? Well, this remains a tricky area but one that I’m working hard at. The sins of my 20s money mistakes are catching up with me. For instance, if I’d bought a house in my 20s, it’d be paid up by now. But all’s not lost!

      PALESA’S BEST ADVICE

      You don’t suddenly wake up one day to find the guilt, shame and past mistakes magically gone, but your mind evolves to see them differently. In a way, this approach is gentler and more solution-driven than self-pity.

      READ MORE: How To Get Fit In Your 20s – This Is Your Healthy Routine

      Advice #2: Live For Yourself

      Thami Magele, founder of Leungo Education Learning Circles, a company aimed at preparing future-fit children for their active participation in building a better Africa, is passionate about curating a life that overflows with purpose, love and rich experiences.AGE: 49

      As I edge closer to 50, I find myself sympathising with my own mother more and more. She married her parents, siblings, her husband and her children before marrying herself. As a result, her self-worth was left in their hands, and nothing for herself. My mother’s worst mistakes came from the depth of her love for her children, as well as wanting to honour her parents. Her lowest point was her inability to reconcile her mistakes as courage – she could only recognise them as shameful because her decisions didn’t attract the applause of those people whose opinions she valued the most.

      Now more than ever, I’m sympathetic to how we, parents, can hold onto and do things for the sake of our children – to a point where we are broken and left functionally handicapped. Just because a plan failed, doesn’t mean that you have failed as a parent. Children need their parents whole.

      With that bit of reflection out of the way, I am overwhelmed with gratitude and appreciate the grace I receive daily. I’m not self-made and my life is not in my hands. I do my absolute best daily to indulge in some of my favouritethings. Those include watching the sky at night while sleeping alfresco in nature, swapping playlists with my daughter each morning, solo morning walks in nature and spreading love however and wherever I please.The thought of being in love no longer scares me because I now measure love, first and foremost, by how much of it I give to myself, how I choose the company I keep, the spaces I visit, the activities I spend my time doing and the people I choose to share my life and love with. In fact, my worst fear is not doing what I love. My joy and peace are currently my greatest currencies!

      “Whatever fears used to plague and contain me are gone. My life is richer right now! I no longer fear losing assets. “

      THAMI’S BEST ADVICE

      Identify and invest in the things, spaces and people that always bring you peace, joy and fulfilment – instead of those that leave you feeling depleted or questioning yourself. Remember that the societaldefinition of success is informed by an inferiority complex, maintained by power and control and continually instills a feeling of inadequacy. The sooner you ditch the societal definition, the better. Lastly, spend the bulk of your time creating pleasing memories and experiences for yourself and those less fortunate.

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      Advice #3: Do Things Without Needing To Excel

      After a long spanning career as an education consultant, Vanessa Francis took her expertise to Room To Read, an NGO dedicated to improving children’s literacy and girls’ education across Asia and Africa – a job she describes as purposeful.AGE: 65

      In 2019, just a few days shy of my 60th birthday, our house burnt to the ground. Days went by and I waited for the shock and sadness at how much we’d lost to kick in, but it just never came. We lost some sentimental items such as family photos, but I was most grateful that no life had been lost.

      Naturally, friends and family thought I’d postpone the 60th birthday celebration that was scheduled in Ballito, KZN, a week after the fire, to another time. I think everyone became more surprised when I announced that the celebration would go ahead as planned. This incident confirmed two things for me: that relationships are important. The photos may be gone but I still have many more chances to create and capture happy memories with my loved ones. I also realised just how much resilience I’ve built over the years. We were now careful and minimalistic about what we were accumulating. I mean, I now have a woman cave as a result of this rebuilding and renovation exercise!

      “When we’re younger, we get upset over the smallest things but as we get older, we allow painful experiences to glide past without getting stuck in that sad moment. Ours was a real cleansing by the fire and an opportunity to do things anew.”

      READ MORE: How To Get Fit At 40 – And Thriving Healthy Tips

      Also, 65 is when I should be slowing down and preparing for retirement. Yet I feel more energised, grounded, centred and eager to learn (which is key for me). I’m also more amped to leave behind a legacy rooted in meaning and purpose through my work as country director for Room To Read. Years ago, I signed up for a drawing class. Now,I take pottery lessons – and I’m so bad at it [chuckles]. The point here is to learn to go with the flow and not listen to my ego’s need for perfection. My perfectionism serves me well at work but in pottery, I get to learn to do things for pure enjoyment without needing to excel.

      VANESSA’S BEST ADVICE

      Whatever’s happening now is for now. Basically, this too shall pass. Your task is to balance yourself and create space for the storm to pass through with ease. More

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      Heart cancels 2024 tour after lead singer Ann Wilson reveals cancer diagnosis as fans beg ‘take time to heal’

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      ROCK band Heart has canceled their tour as the lead singer offers fans an update on her health condition.Ann Wilson, 74, shared the major announcement about her wellbeing on Tuesday.Ann Wilson is the lead singer of the rock band HeartCredit: AP:Associated PressThe lead singer made an Instagram post to reveal what she’s been going through and why the tour was canceledCredit: INSTAGRAM/ annwilsonThe musician revealed that she recently underwent surgery for cancer.She shared that she will take the rest of the year off as a result of the procedure.The lead singer made an Instagram post to reveal what she’s been going through and why the tour was canceled.”Dear friends, I recently underwent an operation to remove something that, as it turns out, was cancerous,” she stated in the post.”The operation was successful & I’m feeling great but my doctors are now advising me to undergo a course of preventative chemotherapy & I’ve decided to do it.”The singer went on to explain that she’s receiving lots of advice from medical professionals who tell her she should take time to rest.”And so many doctors are instructing me to take the rest of the year away from the stage in order to fully recover,” Ann confessed.”To the ticket buyers, I really do wish we could do these gigs. Please know that I absolutely plan to be back on the stage in 2025.”Most read in EntertainmentShe assured her fans that her team is working on plans for her to be performing again soon.Ann’s post said that the public will be informed of what her team’s plan is regarding how soon the rocker will be back on stage.Sir Geoffrey Boycott reveals cancer diagnosisBecause of the medical advice she received, Heart’s Royal Flush Tour had to be canceled.The tour was set to begin in Cleveland on July 30 and run through December.The Barracuda singer thanked Heart fans for their support and also gave them some reassurance.”This is merely a pause. I’ve much more to sing,” she wrote.So many doctors are instructing me to take the rest of the year away from the stage in order to fully recover. To the ticket buyers, I really do wish we could do these gigs …Ann WilsonInstagram”Love, Ann Wilson. Respectfully, this is the last public statement I’d like to make on the matter.”Lots of her adoring fans flooded the post with heartfelt comments.”Wishing you a speedy recovery, greatest singer on Earth,” someone said.”Be good, healthy and back soon!!! You’re the best ever!” another person added.”Take all the time you need to heal,” a user chimed in.Some of the Heart lovers did express feeling disappointed about the canceled shows while still extending sympathy to the musician.”I’m a little disappointed, but that means nothing to me,” a fan said.”What means everything to me is that you’re healthy. Concerts and this and that can definitely wait. Take care of yourself. We’re all right behind you no matter what. Sending love and support.”READ MORE SUN STORIESThe rock band Heart was formed in 1973.Their humble beginnings jumpstarted in Seattle, Washington.Lots of Ann Wilson’s adoring fans flooded the post with heartfelt comments some claiming she’s the ‘best ever’Credit: 2015 Aaron RapoportHeart’s Royal Flush Tour had to be canceled because of health advice Ann Wilson received following her cancer treatmentCredit: Getty More

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      Pop megastar returns to studio following hiatus amid health battle

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      A SCOTS megastar is set to make a major comeback following his year-long hiatus amid a health battle.The Someone You Loved singer bowed out of his remaining tour dates last year after struggles with his health.Capaldi has been enjoying his sabbatical to focus on his healthCredit: GettyThe West Lothian superstar is understood to be setting his eyes on a returnCredit: GettyPal JC Stewart revealed that Lewis Capaldi was doing “great” following his break to prioritise his mental health.The Hold Me While You Wait singer is understood to be back in the studio, recording new music as he sets his eye on a return.Lewis last took to the stage on the Glastonbury main stage in June where he lost his voice but fought on thanks to the crowd.But after struggling with his Tourette’s the West Lothian star announced he was taking a break from touring for the foreseeable future.In January, he treated fans to an extended version of the record with five new songs.Stewart who collaborated with Lewis on his record-breaking debut album told the Daily Record: “I’m super excited to hear what he’s going to do next.”He and all my other friends came down to my London shows a few weeks ago, which was a lot of fun, and we’ve all been writing songs together! It’s been amazing.”The musician added: “I think the major companies are helping more than they were previously, which is great. For example, when I left my old label, I was offered three therapy sessions, which was super helpful.”Most read in MusicJC claimed his new single, Hey Baby, I’m a Mess, I’m sorry, was “essentially therapy for me.”It comes after we told how Lewis bought a new £3 million house in a leafy part of North London last month.Moment Lewis Capaldi left speechless after diehard fan serenades him in the pub (v2)Insiders at his favourite boozer branded him their favourite famous face.They revealed that he has been seen at a few of the local pubs and even got involved with punters when the football is on. More

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      Ahead of the long weekend, learn how to completely detach from work

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      by Team Emirates Woman
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      Words by Dr Gurveen Ranger, Clinical Psychologist, Adult Specialist at Sage Clinics
      We are currently living in an era where constant connectivity is the norm.
      In a lifestyle dominated by smartphones, smart watches, tablets, and coupled with the increase in remote working since the pandemic, many of us will find ourselves blurring the boundaries between work and home life.
      Lack of work/life balance can also lead to disturbed sleep, especially if you are checking emails just before bed, and lower our mood. If we are find ourselves unable to ‘switch off’ after work, we are less present in our personal lives, and therefore may not experience as much enjoyment from activities as we once did and our relationships are likely to also suffer.

      Not only does this impact our quality of life, but also has the opposite impact to what we may expect when it comes to how productive and efficient we are. In this article, we will look at why we struggle to disconnect, the consequences of this and most importantly – how do we do a desk detox?
      Here are a few tips to ease the process:
      Set clear goals
      Ask yourself, do I need a desk detox? How much work am I doing outside of hours? Why? Is doing this extra work making me feel any more on top of things? Based on your answer to these questions, set clear goals to work on – e.g., is it reducing screen time? Is it protected work times? Is a conversation with employers needed?
      Be realistic
      I appreciate that for many, it may be unrealistic to expect no work outside of work hours. If this is the case for you (i.e., there are likely serious consequences of not keeping an eye on things) then setting boundaries for how much time you spend working outside of hours can be helpful. E.g., protecting time every couple of hours or so to look at emails, and engaging in other things outside of these times. This can help reduce the constant triggering of ‘threat state’ every few minutes.
      Let people know
      Letting people know when you are contactable vs when you are not can help manage feelings of guilt that may arise when disconnecting. Block out time in your diaries, set “do not disturb’ notifications on when appropriate, and let colleagues know the boundaries about what constitutes emergency contact. This can also be healthy modelling for colleagues and juniors.
      Allocate tech-free zones
      Protect time in your after-work schedule which doesn’t involve technology. If you work from home, is there a space where you work which doesn’t interfere with your daily home space? If not, can you hide away your work equipment when you log off? Out of sight, out of mind!
      Increase offline activities
      See if you can come up with some after work activities that don’t involve technology, thus reducing the pull into constant checking of work-related material. Walks, reading, socializing can all be great ways to enhance quality of life and connect with your value systems outside of the professional sphere.
      Use digital wellbeing tools
      Did you know most smartphones allow you to set limits on how much you use certain apps? You could also put ‘do not disturb’ mode on or turn off notifications when you are doing other things. Another tool many I have worked with find helpful is to remove things like email apps from easy access – they can be hidden in a digital folder on your home screen which means you have more of a chance to break the habitual cycle of opening the app every time you are on your phone – again out of sight out of mind.
      Reminder – this isn’t about being completely tech free or never doing anything for work outside of work time, as let’s be honest that isn’t realistic in today’s world or desirable some industries and roles. Instead, aim for balance – take a step back, protect downtime, use smartphones in psychologically smarter ways to enhance your wellbeing and social relationships. Not only will this likely improve your quality of life, but your productivity and job satisfaction levels too. You could start today, even with something small and see how these transforms over time!
      You can find out more about Dr Gurveen Ranger and the team at Sage Clinics: here. For more information about the services Sage Clinics offers or to book an appointment visit sage-clinics.com
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