More stories

  • in

    The Detailed Morning Routine of the Internet’s Supplement Queen, Siff Haider

    Welcome to The Everygirl Podcast. Whether you’re looking for insider secrets from successful women that have your dream job, are interested in expert advice to transform your health and feel your best, or just want to be entertained and laugh along with us on your commute, we’ve got you covered.

    As someone who falls squarely into the forgets-to-take-her-vitamins-every-morning camp, there’s no morning routine that I aspire to more than that of the supplement queen herself. By supplement queen I am (of course) referring to Siff Haider, co-founder of Arrae and host of The Dream Bigger Podcast. This week on The Everygirl Podcast, we’re sitting down with Siff to learn everything there is to know about supplements, entrepreneurship, and her personal wellness hacks.
    After struggling with her immune system and digestion, Siff turned to holistic medicine and quickly found that small changes made a huge difference for her well-being. She co-founded Arrae with her husband in 2020, and has been sharing her wellness journey online for years. Read on for Siff Haider’s super-detailed morning routine, and check out this week’s episode of The Everygirl Podcast for more.

    Coffee and journaling
    After she wakes up, scrapes her tongue, brushes her teeth, and chugs a bottle of water, Siff likes to sit down with a cup of coffee and her journal. Her go-to coffee is a cinnamon Americano, and she sips it for twenty minutes while she does nothing but write. According to Siff, her journaling routine is the most important, sacred ritual of her day. “I take so much joy from it,” she said on The Everygirl Podcast.
    Siff’s favorite kind of journaling is “Future You” journaling, which is a kind of manifestation journaling where you imagine your future self and write down every little detail you can imagine about her life. It’s an aspirational ritual that is so rewarding (and easy) to work into your own morning routine.

    Get outside and walk
    Siff prioritizes getting outside first thing in the morning and taking a quick walk. “My non-negotiables are getting outside in the morning for my walk, journaling, and movement whenever I can get it in,” she said on The Everygirl Podcast. Learning the benefits of walking as an exercise was a game-changer for her, because when she was younger, she thought she needed intense HIIT workouts and cardio to feel her best. But now she knows it’s the little things like walking that have made the biggest difference in her health journey.

    Resistance training or Pilates
    Movement is another non-negotiable in Siff’s morning routine, and for her, the best ways to get active are weightlifting at the gym or taking a Pilates class. “Building muscle is what protects you from degeneration when you’re older,” she said. “It allows you to stay more vibrant for a longer period of time. I’m really interested in the longevity play.” However, Siff emphasizes that there’s no need to follow the exact workout that anyone else is doing in order to discover a morning movement that is effective for you. To her, it’s all about finding and doing what your body loves. More

  • in

    Lazy Girl Workouts Are Having a Moment—These Are the Ones Worth Trying

    We all have those days where we just can’t muster the energy to make it to the gym, let alone get off the couch, but still crave some movement to get those feel-good endorphins going. Enter: lazy girl workout workouts, AKA exercises you can do while you binge-watch, lie down, or sit at your desk. Yoga and fitness TikToker @blonde.ish_yogi takes it a step further, demonstrating that you can get your heart pumping without even leaving your bed. OK, so you may not break a sweat jumping on the lazy girl workout trend (that’s the extent of jumping you’ll be doing, BTW), but the end goal is just to move—gently and efficiently. Did I mention PJs are welcome? Ahead, eight routines that you can hit “play” on while remaining horizontal. No equipment necessary. 
     

    @blonde.ish_yogi
    Lazy girl workout #fitnesstiktok #nojudgement #fyp #tiktokworkout #fitness #glutes #core #fitmoms #foryou
    ♬ Body – Megan Thee Stallion

    If you don’t want to get out of bed…
    [embedded content]
    Stay in bed while Dayana Wang leads you through a full-body workout, complete with angled leg lifts, knees-to-elbows, bear planks, wide-knee squats, and more. Don’t worry—your abs won’t feel left out with all of the versions of crunches Wang throws in. Needless to say, she packs in a lot in ten short minutes. 

    If you don’t want to stop mid-way through your Hulu marathon…
    [embedded content]
    You don’t have to press “pause” on Tiny Beautiful Things just when it’s getting good to fit in a mini workout, thanks to Vicky Justiz and her 10-minute couch routine. Expect to work your booty, abs, and shoulders with a mix of glute bridges, leg raises, and arm pulses, just to name a few. Before you know it, you’ll be done and still have the rest of the episode to kick back and relax.

    If you could use a break from the bed or couch…
    [embedded content]
    Meet Fit by Lys on the floor with your mat (your couch and bed aren’t going anywhere) for an interval-based sesh. Translation: You’ll work for 40 seconds, then have 20 seconds to rest before you move on to the next exercise. Think: glute bridges, knee push-ups, cross-to-kicks (hello, booty), plank, and a few stretches woven in. By the end of the 15-minute workout, you’ll feel long and lean. 

    If you want to focus on just abs…
    [embedded content]
    Follow Audrey Koomar‘s quickie core burner for a line-up that includes exercises like dead bugs, heel taps, and a spicy adaptation of leg raises. Spoiler: You’ll be lying on your back the entire 10 minutes. No excuses here. 

    If upper body only is speaking your language…
    [embedded content]
    Start toning those arms à la Fitnessa who guides you through 15 minutes of arm movements, kicking off and ending with arm circle variations. While the routine requires you to stay sitting up throughout it, trust me—it meets the lazy girl workout criteria. The best part? Do it in bed, on the sofa, or at your desk in between meetings (or go camera-off to multitask). 

    If Pilates is your cup of tea…
    [embedded content]
    LivAligned Pilates puts the chill in Netflix and chill with her lazy girl workout, Pilates style. Join Liv in a calming leg lift and glute bridge series, finished off with a hip-opening stretch that will feel oh-so-good. The result? A burst of unexpected energy. 

    If you can’t be bothered to leave your desk…
    [embedded content]
    Give your abs, booty, and arms some love with this 7-minute chair workout from Love Sweat Fitness. Knee crunch, tricep dip, squat hold and pulse, and push up your way to a boost in your mood and brainpower. Carry out the routine to break up your work day or close out your 9-5. Bonus points: You just may notice sitting (and standing) taller after you’re done. 

    If you’re ready for more of a challenge…
    [embedded content]
    To up the ante in your lazy girl era, look no further than this 30-minute ab and booty scorcher created by Halie‘s Workout Programs. You’ll start with a warm-up, followed by everything from pulsing leg raises to lying hamstring curls to side planks. Halie demonstrates each exercise with dumbbells and just bodyweight, so pick your poison. 

    This Low-Impact Workout Is Taking Over FitTok, and All You Need Is a Wall More

  • in

    The Books WH Editors Are Loving Right Now, Plus Must-Have Reading Tools

    We could wax lyrical about the plethora of books at your disposal and how they’re amazing for the wellbeing of your body and mind. Or we could refer you to #booktok, where any and all book goes, with a suitable aesthetic to match (bookstore, anyone?). But we know you know all that. What you don’t know are the books WH editors are loving and turning to as we take in brief siestas in April. Without any ado, the top reads we recommend you pull from the shelf and sink your teeth into.

    The books WH Editors Are Loving RN

    How To Kill Men And Get Away With It by Katy Brent

    “Fast-paced, dark, twisted and hilarious, this will get you out of any reading rut. If you’re a fan of Gone Girl, love a good female anti-hero or just need a break from predictable romance novels, you’ll love this book.”

    – Kelleigh Korevaar, managing editor

    Almost Adulting by Arden Rose

    “Just when we think we know how to be the “perfect adult”, life happens. This book covers a wide range of topics on how to become a “proper” grown up and how to survive adulthood.”

    – Chamain van Zyl, digital editor

    Verity by Colleen Hoover

    “I hadn’t read a book in a while and wanted to get back into it. This is the exact book that did it for me. From cover to cover, I read Lowen’s journey within a day. Couldn’t put it down. I won’t say anything more but it’s a must-read for mystery lovers.”

    – Michelle October, features editor

    The Seat Of The Soul by Gary Zukav

    “There isn’t a single conversation between my baby brother and I in which he doesn’t quote this book – which naturally drew me to it. The book’s teachings – such a deeper understanding of our actions, motivations and how the Universe operates at a ‘soul’ level are truly life-altering. Be warned: Heavy focus is required – definitely not the kind of book to read when feeling distracted.”

    – Kemong Mopedi, deputy editor

    Hear The Wind Sing by Haruki Murakami

    “One of the books I keep coming to. One of his earliest novels in which he writes about himself working at a jazz bar. It’s real and gritty and beautiful.”

    – Pia Hammond, creative director

    My Year Of Rest And Relaxation By Otessa Moshfegh

    “This is a story about a woman pursuing a year of hibernation from the world. In its ramblings there is something profound to be said – or so reviewers think. I haven’t read this one yet but it’s one I’m so looking forward to.”

    – Michelle October, features editor

    You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life by Jen Sincero

    “There’s just something about a self-improvement book that gives life lessons with a humourous and hilarious outlook on life, that I absolutely love. From the reviews I’ve read, this book is like your best friend who doesn’t hold back. She gives you the straight and narrow answer you don’t want to hear, but with advice on how to change your situation.”

    – Chamain van Zyl, digital editor

    A Spell of Good Things by Ayobami Adebayo

    “I have loved award-winning Nigerian author Ayọ̀bámi’s work since reading her debut offering Stay With Me in 2019 – a book whose ending had me bawling my eyes out and sealed my fandom. I’ve only heard great things about A Spell of Good Things and can’t wait to get lost in its wealth, political corruption and romantic obsession storyline.”

    – Kemong Mopedi, deputy editor

    Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro

    “A moving novel of three characters trying to understand their purpose. It’s a sad and fragile read.”

    – Pia Hammond, creative director

    Everything I Know About Love by Dolly Alderton

    “This has been my favourite read of 2023 (I’ve read it almost 20) and it’s one I will gift my girlfriends whenever I get the chance. It’s perfect if you feel like you’re stumbling through your 20s/30s and shows such a raw, real and beautiful side to being a young woman. Guaranteed to be a book you pass around your friendship group.”

    – Kelleigh Korevaar, managing editor

    We rate these reading tools as suitable aides for long sessions lost in the world of your book.

    Bending Man Bookmark Light

    This bookmark is just bendy enough to fold over your current chapter but not so bendy that it collapses. It’ll hold firm over that Game Of Thrones while shining much-needed light for evening sessions.

    Memory Foam Pillow

    Convert any uncomfortable chair into your reading nook with this soft, plush cushion that creates support along the back and supports your sides. Wanna curl up on the floor? This is your pal.

    Purple Hydraulic Book Light

    This purple gadget firmly clamps down on stubborn pages and holds firm, while giving you light to get through the next gripping chapter.

    Brown Kindle cover

    If you’re the Kindle type, hurray for you! This cover holds your reader and makes it feel kind of book-ish, while holding other essentials like cards.

    Cuddly Reader

    Um, this couldn’t be any cuter! It’ll hold up your book or tablet or Kindle for those sessions spent in different positions.

    Sixth Floor Eero chair

    Every reader needs a really good chair and this fits the bill. Wide enough to cosy up with your legs draped around for extended periods lost in another world. More

  • in

    The Happiest and Healthiest Women in the World Prioritize This Over Everything Else

    Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about what defines a happy and healthy life. Maybe it’s one made up of a morning routine, workouts you love, and a job that you’re passionate about. Or maybe it’s filled with travel and adventure, the ability to make meals that nourish you, and living in your dream home. I’m fortunate to be able to say that I’ve experienced many of the above, and they’ve all brought joy to my life in one way or another. But when reflecting on when I was truly the happiest and healthiest version of myself, it wasn’t about any of that. Rather, it was when I was spending time with the people I love and who love me—AKA experiencing social connection. 
    While factors such as exercise and eating balanced meals are still vital to living a healthy and happy life, the healthiest women aren’t healthy because they’re prioritizing a strict schedule of workouts, salads, and supplements. Instead, they’re treating their bodies well, but first and foremost prioritizing a life that includes date nights with their S.O., walks with friends, hosting dinner parties, etc. Read on for why social connection is so essential to happiness, and how to get a daily dose of it yourself.

    Why you should prioritize social connection
    Researchers define social connection as a core psychological need embedded in our biology and evolutionary history. When we experience social connection, we lower our risk of anxiety and depression, experience greater self-esteem, and have more empathy for others. Positive social relationships can impact our physical health too, lowering inflammation and aiding immune health. One study even showed that lack of social connection is a greater detriment to our health than obesity, smoking, and high blood pressure.
    When we experience intimate social connections, our body releases a hormone called oxytocin (also known as the love hormone). Oxytocin–which the body releases when cuddling, laughing, having sex, talking with a loved one, holding a baby, etc.–can reduce blood pressure and cortisol levels and promote growth and healing. From mental to physical health, prioritizing social connection and human connection is essential to our entire wellbeing. 

    How to prioritize social connection

    1. Say “yes” more often
    It’s easy to live in our comfort zones and avoid the things that scare us or opportunities that may be challenging, but when I look at the happiest and healthiest women I know, they are the ones who take chances and say “yes” to change. In one of my favorite books, The Year of Yes, Shonda Rhimes chronicles her year of saying “yes” to everything in order to get outside of her comfort zone more, which included giving a commencement speech to spending more time with the people she loves. Try taking an audit of your life and looking into areas where you are currently saying “no,” but could be saying “yes.” Maybe it’s plans with your friends, going to a workout class, eating lunch with colleagues, or visiting your family. If you change your mindset to be more open to opportunities for social connection, it may just lead to greater happiness.  

    2. Schedule more social outings
    Yes, you should allow for ample you-time to recharge alone, but genuine connection with people you love is another important way you should regularly be relieving stress. After a long day at work, maybe the last thing you want to is call to your mom, meet up with a new friend for dinner, or actually talk to your partner over dinner instead of eating on the couch with Netflix playing. While some time alone can be incredibly important, make sure you’re intentional about that alone time, rather than because it’s a habit or in your comfort zone. Scheduling phone calls with loved ones or plans with friends in advance can ensure you keep up with regular social connection.
    If scheduling a dinner with friends or family every week still sounds exhausting, I feel you. Scheduling a social outing doesn’t have to be something that involves a large group of friends or costs a lot of money. It can be as simple as going for a walk with your mom, FaceTiming a friend who lives far away, volunteering, joining a group fitness class, or taking a class to improve your skills where you can connect with other people with the same hobbies that you have.

    3. Try socializing more at work
    Hate to break it to you, but we spend most of our lives at work. Sometimes we see our colleagues more often than we do our friends and family. That’s why the happiest women are doing everything they can to make their jobs more fulfilling, including forming genuine connections with the people they work with. I’ll be the first to admit I’ve shied away from making friendships at work. I’ve too often been the girl with her head down at her computer, avoiding the awkward water cooler chitchat. But when I moved positions in my company a couple of years ago, I looked at it as a fresh start, a chance to socialize more with coworkers, and as a manager, set an example of what a team environment could look like.
    It turns out, socializing with co-workers makes going to work ten times more enjoyable (surprise, surprise). Making connections at work doesn’t have to just be amongst your team or during lunch. It can also be done through company events or by seeking out those who have similar interests (i.e. try starting a book club, fitness club, or after-work happy hour). If you prefer keeping your social life and work life separate, simply giving a compliment to or checking in with a colleague can go a long way. Self-employed and work by yourself? Networking with other people in your industry can not only provide more work opportunities, but help you feel a little bit of human connection every time you catch up with them them at an event, reach out to ask for advice, or bounce ideas off of each other. 

    4. Sign up for group activities
    While prioritizing social connections is vital for our health, forcing social connections definitely isn’t. If you’re struggling to connect with the people in your life, expanding your social circle may be the key to becoming happier. And signing up for group activities is an easy way to meet new people in a natural environment. If you love to cook, sign up for a cooking class. If you love animals, volunteer at an animal shelter. If you love fitness, sign up for a workout class. There are so many group activities out there for any interest, and by joining a group with people who have similar passions, you’ll be well on your way to forming new connections. 

    5. Get outside 
    It may seem simple, but half the battle of being more social is getting outside your home. The happiest and healthiest women make a consistent effort to foster connections, whether it’s chatting it up with the baristas at their local coffee shop or getting to know their neighbors when taking the dog for a walk. If we’re open to it, social connections can be made anywhere. While it may feel uncomfortable or awkward at times to make new ones, putting yourself in situations where they are possible means you’re already halfway there. So the next time you see the opportunity to start a conversation at the dog park or while sitting next to someone in a coffee shop, don’t pass it up.

    5 Traits All of the Happiest Women Have in Common More

  • in

    I’m Getting Married in Six Months–Here’s How I’m Preparing My Body and Mind

    Planning a wedding can be stressful AF regardless of how large or small your big day may be. From multiple dress fittings to coordinating with vendors to organizing every detail down to napkin colors, you may feel like you barely have a moment to breathe. On top of that, you want to look and feel your best for your wedding day. I’m six months out, and I’ve begun to dial in on managing my stress, anxiety, and physical health so I can feel my best in six months, but also so I can actually enjoy the process now. Keep reading for what I’m doing to feel my best at my wedding and health tips you can try today.

    Start a daily meditation practice
    All eyes are on you on your wedding day, which can be nerve-wracking to say the least. Aside from my tried-and-true self-care activities like yoga, journaling, and spending time in nature, I’m turning to meditation most often to help ease my anxiety. Prioritizing a daily meditation practice now will help manage the stress of wedding planning, but building up your practice will help you feel centered before all the big moments, from engagement parties to the wedding day, and everything in between. I prefer guided meditations that help me envision how the day will go. Consider it a manifestation meditation, if you will. I also find it helpful to repeat affirmations such as, “I choose calm” or “Peace begins with me” whenever I am feeling high anxiety. You can actually manifest your wedding day turning out exactly how you envisioned it. 

    Delegate tasks (no, but actually!)
    I’d like to think that I’m a cool-and-collected bride (not the stereotypical “bridezilla”), so when I realized that making the most of the major decisions and checking off all the to-dos were starting to feel a little too overwhelming, I looked for ways to delegate tasks to my friends and family. It may seem obvious, but when it comes to planning your big day it can feel challenging to hand over responsibilities to other people–even your loved ones (Will they do it “right?” What if they mess up? Will it just create more work for me?).
    So how do you decide what tasks to outsource and what ones to keep for yourself? My unsolicited advice is to make a list of the tasks that are the most important to you to complete on your own, and be realistic when determining how much time you’d actually have to spend on them and the skills and resources you have available. For example, I really wanted to design and print my own invites, but I don’t own a printer (and wasn’t going to buy one), nor did I feel like I really had the time to spend hours designing. So I decided that was a task I could outsource to my friend who works in graphic design, and I still felt like the invitations came out personal, despite not being hand designed by me. Delegating tasks has made the biggest difference in my stress levels and having more time. 

    Consistently remind yourself of what’s important
    Whether you’ve had a Pinterest wedding board for years or you obsessively started scouring the internet for inspiration after your engagement, social media makes it very easy to fall into the comparison trap. When I find myself spiraling into thoughts of, “I have to do this” or “Everything needs to be perfect,” I take a step back and remind myself of what’s actually important and realistic for my wedding. At the end of the day, your wedding is about celebrating your relationship with your partner, not throwing an Insta-worthy party. Keeping what’s special between the two of you at the forefront of your decision making will ensure you have a day that you’ll cherish forever. 

    Make an exercise plan 
    I’m a big believer that you shouldn’t have to change your appearance for your wedding day (your partner already loves you for who you are). But I also believe that there is nothing wrong with wanting to look and feel your best on your big day, especially since you’ll be reliving it through photos for a lifetime. Consistency has always been an issue for me when it comes to working out, and having a big event (read: my wedding) to look forward to was just what I needed to make a plan and stick to it.
    My goal with exercise has always been to take care of my body and feel stronger and more confident. I prefer low-impact movement such as walking, biking, Pilates, and yoga. To hold myself accountable to a workout routine, I sit down each Sunday and look at my schedule for the week ahead. Much like making a to-do list, I write down what workouts I plan to do each day and what time of day I will do them (what can I say, I’m Virgo rising). I find that physically writing my workouts down and seeing them every day holds me more accountable than inputting them in Google calendar. The key for me is not holding myself to rigid standards, but rather embracing that life happens and knowing that some movement in my day is better than no movement at all. By scheduling workouts I enjoy, I know that I’m not only going to feel my best on my big day ,but also keep up my workout routine well beyond the wedding. 

    Upgrade your skincare regimen for optimal glow
    I have struggled with breakouts since I was a teenager, so skincare is a huge part of caring for myself and feeling my best. I’m working with my dermatologist and have found a treatment plan that works great for me: to keep my skin looking clear and bright leading up to the wedding, I’m making sure to incorporate skin-enhancing foods, such as healthy fats (found in avocados, nuts, and fish), vitamin C, and antioxidants. And while I love a glass of red wine, I find that drinking alcohol can make my skin look dull and dry the next day. So for now, I’m sticking to enjoying an occasional drink on the weekends, rather than having a drink with dinner on the weekdays. Instead, I reach for some of my other favorites such as kombucha and try to keep up with my daily hydration goals. 
    As for what I am using on my skin, I swear by this mask from Origins. I use it 1-2 times per week at night, and it always makes my skin look bright and firm the next day. I’m very prone to sunburn due to my fair complexion and a prescription retinoid I currently use, so I always wear SPF (this one is my go-to under makeup) because the last thing you want to worry about on your wedding day is a sun burn or hyperpigmentation.

    10 Things to Stop Doing to Get in the Best Shape of Your Life More

  • in

    Here’s How To Create A Morning Routine You’ll Actually Stick To

    Ann Stewart, Reiki therapist, Kundalini yoga and meditation student and mentor will be the first to tell you that she struggled to stick to a morning routine. It makes you feel amazing: you start your day strong and the rest of it is as productive. But come the next day, you’re exhausted, and the thought of hitting the snooze button is just so tempting…

    “For a long time I struggled to stick to my spiritual practices, even though I loved how they made me feel,” says Stewart. “We come up with all types of blocks to start our day the way we know we should. Some of the things we tell ourselves: I’m not a morning person, I deserve to sleep in, and I’m not feeling well today.”

    An inner power mentor, Stewart now helps other women empower themselves and achieve more. “A regular morning routine makes me feel more creative, focused, and my day flows without effort,” she says. “But it’s not always perfect – and that’s OK. When I miss a day, I just start again the next morning, but when I do skip I try to make quiet time for myself during the course of my workday,” says Stewart. 

    What’s a good morning routine?

    A good morning routine involves engaging in a healthful practice upon waking up. Science tells us a great deal about the benefits of waking up and having a morning routine. Successful people thrive by it. It can go a long way towards managing a healthy weight and leave you feeling focused and in charge of the day. Read on for Stewart’s tips to finally becoming a morning person.

    1. Just Begin

    The only way to change your current morning routine is to start creating new habits. The only way to create new habits is to actually start doing it. Not at the beginning of next week, next month, or next year, but now. Decide on three simple activities that make you feel more centred and connected to your soul. Reading, writing, meditation, and yoga will all create the types of positive changes you are looking for.

    2. Do it for 40 days 

    According to yogic teaching, it takes 40 days to change a habit, and 90 days to confirm that habit. Give yourself 40 days to make sure you set yourself up for success. If you skip a day, begin again at day 1. Make a challenge out of it and remember to have fun. Your subconscious, which directs about 60 per cent of your activities and responses by habit, has to get the message. By turning to your practice repeatedly day by day, choice by choice, the effects will start to seep into the deeper parts of your mind.

    3. Know your why

    Make a short list of all the reasons you want to create a new routine for yourself. Maybe it’s to gather your thoughts and become more centred. Maybe you want to incorporate exercise in your morning routine to make sure you actually get to it before you’re exhausted at the end of your day. Then list all the benefits you will receive by starting these new actions. This will help you during times when you don’t feel like it, and believe me, those times will definitely come.

    4. Keep it simple 

    When you first start, just keep your routine simple. Start by waking up 30 min earlier than usual. Drink a glass of warm water with lemon. Sit quietly for five minutes and then begin whichever activity you have chosen to engage in for the morning. If meditating for 30 minutes every morning feels impossible, start by committing to just three minutes instead. In just three minutes, you can have an effect on your blood circulation and chemistry.

    Making changes in our lives isn’t always easy, but it is possible. Remember to speak to yourself in a loving and compassionate way. Be patient. Working up to creating lasting change is part of the process and putting strategies in place to stick to your commitment will make it easier to achieve. More

  • in

    6 Green Flags You’re Becoming Your Best Self

    You’ve probably read all about green flags to look for in a partner and in relationships, but what about green flags to identify in yourself? Often, we’re our own worst critics and we’re quick to nitpick our own flaws, but chances are you’ve grown so much and are closer to all your life goals than you think. There’s way more to growth than visualizing the future you want (that doesn’t hurt, of course): it takes serious action. If you’ve been working toward the highest version of yourself–whether that’s bettering your relationships, health, career, or all the above–there are some signs you can look toward to know you’re on the right track (just keep in mind these aren’t the only signs; remember everyone’s journey is going to look different!). Ahead, the green flags you’re becoming the highest, most authentic, and (most importantly) happiest version of yourself. 
     
    1. You set boundaries (and follow through on them)
    Whether it’s saying “no” to taking on another work project when you’re already spread too thin, creating a safe word in the bedroom, or declining a family dinner to take care of your needs, you establish boundaries to build a solid foundation for healthy relationships with yourself and others. You take the time to reflect on your needs in your friendships, romantic relationship, work, etc. and why each boundary you’ve introduced or would like to introduce is important to you. Setting a few in motion at a time, keeping it simple, and being clear is how you operate. While it may be uncomfortable at first and take practice following through on your boundaries, you’re a better friend, partner, and employee when you show up for yourself. Your end goal? To feel safe, valued, and respected, no matter what context a boundary is set in. 
     
    2. You keep promises you make to yourself
    We all make sacrifices for other people (remember: boundaries, ladies), but you’ve learned that if you don’t fill your own cup first, your career, relationships, and goals can pay the price. Maybe you promised yourself you would turn off Netflix instead of bingeing the next episode for the sake of quality Zzzs, meditate for at least 15 minutes first thing in the morning instead of stopping at Starbucks, and (finally) create a budget (because of said Starbucks addiction). No matter what you tell yourself, you keep your word and see each promise through. The best part? You’ve gained confidence and self-trust.
    The secret to ensuring you make good on your promises? First and foremost, you’re realistic and specific with the commitments you set forth. In other words, you set yourself up for success instead of overcommitting. For example, if there’s any doubt you can carry out 15 minutes of meditation, start with five minutes instead. Then, put pen to paper, lay out a game plan, and track your progress (don’t forget to celebrate your wins!), and voila!—promises fulfilled.  

    3. You let go of self-limiting beliefs
    We all have false preconceived thoughts, notions, and narratives we’ve told ourselves that hold us back from becoming our best selves: “I’m not pretty enough,” “I shouldn’t apply for that job because I won’t get it,” “I’ll never find the right partner.” But you’re aware you have your life experiences, fear, and imposter syndrome to thank for those unconscious biases.
    So you take a step back and pinpoint your limiting beliefs by journaling about them and the possible reasons behind them (“Does this fear protect me from rejection and failure?”), question and challenge them (“Is this belief actually true?”), and reframe them into an inspiring and motivating idea (“I’ll never find the right partner” becomes “I haven’t found the right partner yet, but I’m going to work on putting myself and my needs first”). But you don’t stop there. You exercise self-love with affirmations, like “I’m enough,” “I have a lot to offer the world,” and “I’m worthy of love” (thank you, next, false perceptions). 

    4. You show yourself compassion
    You treat your BFFs with kindness without giving it a second thought, especially when they’re hard on themselves. But when you made a mistake or failed to reach a goal, treating yourself with kindness didn’t come as easily—your inclination in the past would have been to beat yourself up and let self-limiting beliefs take over. But now you show yourself the same grace you show your friends (only kindness, understanding, and encouragement are welcome!). You also practice self-compassion by holding others accountable for their actions, say when a boundary you’ve clearly set with a friend was crossed, and asking for help when you need it, like a trusted family member or co-worker. 
    Showing yourself compassion didn’t happen with a snap of a finger, but you’ve mastered the skill by practicing self-kindness, adopting a mindfulness-based approach, honoring your authenticity, and taking note of when negative self-talk comes into play. The result? You’ve built resilience, made progress on your goals, and reduced stress (get it, queen!). 

    5. You allow yourself to feel all emotions without judgment
    PSA: Even our “best selves” feel negative feelings sometimes. You don’t know you’re becoming your best self when you stop feeling sad, anxious, or stressed; you know you’re becoming your best self when you acknowledge those feelings and know how to process them. You don’t sweep negative feelings under the rug or bury them in work or bottles of wine until you can’t contain them any longer. All emotions are for feeling: happiness, gratitude, and excitement, but also sadness, anger, anxiety, envy, and loneliness. You feel all your feels because they’re each valid. 
    Sometimes naming the emotion, accepting it, and recognizing where it’s manifesting in your body is your go-to means of processing. Other times, you take to journaling, hot girl walks, talking to a friend, or therapy sessions to uncover where your feelings are stemming from (maybe your social media habit is triggering your anxiety and sadness?) and what they may be trying to communicate to you (perhaps you could use a social media break?). Bottom line: You’ll cry if you want (or need) to. After all, experiencing all of our selves—the good, the bad, the ugly—is what makes us human and enhances our relationships;  especially (and most importantly) the one we have with ourselves.   

    6. You’re comfortable with being uncomfortable 
    Sure, you could hit snooze, skip every workout, and stay small at work, but stepping out of your comfort zone is a must if growth—personally, professionally, and romantically—is what you’re after. It’s not easy, but you identified the things that bring you discomfort and went after them anyway. You faced them head on, knowing you may not get instant gratification and may risk failing or getting rejected. But here’s the “best-self” part: you did it anyway, because you know it’s what you really want.
    Maybe you tried the 3-2-8 method despite never lifting weights, took yourself out on a solo dinner date when you felt self-conscious being alone, made connections at an alumni networking event which you typically avoid, and spoke up when you disagreed with a point your boss made and suggested a different approach. You hit repeat on diving into new experiences and pushing your limits because practice makes perfect (although you’re not after perfection, but I don’t have to tell you that). 

    5 Traits All of the Happiest Women Have in Common More

  • in

    I Tried the 3-2-8 Method for 2 Months—Here’s Why I’m Telling Everyone To Do It Too

    Of all of the habits I’ve tried and failed to keep throughout my life—journaling, waking up early, getting off my phone an hour before bed—working out is one of the few I’ve kept. It’s annoying to admit, but I’ve always loved exercise; it clears my head and helps my mental health more than anything else does. But what isn’t consistent for me is my workout regimen—that is, until I tried the 3-2-8 method. 
    After seeing people talk about the 3-2-8 method every day on TikTok, I decided to finally investigate if it would be a fit for me and my goals. The videos I saw were full of women saying they absolutely swore by it, so I dove head-first into the routine two months ago, and have officially reached a consensus on whether or not I think it’s worth trying out. 
    Here’s exactly what happened when I tried (and stuck to) the 3-2-8 method.

    In this article

    What is the 3-2-8 method?
    Started by Natalie Rose (AKA @natalieroseuk), a U.K.-based pilates and barre instructor, the 3-2-8 method is more of a workout structure rather than a specific routine that lays out the exact exercises to perform. It’s divided into three parts that are to be completed over an entire week: Three days of weight training, two days of Pilates or barre, and an average of 8,000 steps per day. 

    What happened when I tried the 3-2-8 method

    It gave me structure 
    My usual workout routine consists of a combination of running, weight lifting, Solidcore classes, and some Pilates videos here and there, so off the bat, I loved that the 3-2-8 method would give me a little bit more structure. Rather than just doing what I felt like every day, it made me work off a checklist that felt productive to me. It allows for a lot of flexibility—if one day I didn’t feel like heading to the gym to lift weights, I’d do a Pilates video in my apartment instead—but gave me guidance on what workouts to do each week, rather than completely winging it.

    I enjoyed my workout routine more
    Something I’m definitely guilty of is obsessing over my workout routine to the point that it isn’t fun for me. I’m the person who does walks around the block before bed to hit my 10k steps every day, and I definitely beat myself up when I don’t get a gym session in if I had planned on it. But 3-2-8 allowed me to be gentler on myself, without sacrificing the quality of my workouts.
    One thing that I really love about 3-2-8 is that the 8,000 steps a day is meant to be an average, rather than something you need to hit every single day. So if I had a day I took fewer steps than usual, it didn’t matter, because I knew some days I took more than 8,000 steps. I kept track of my average daily steps in the health app on my phone, and really prefer keeping track of the weekly average over what I’m doing daily.

    I felt stronger
    I tend to prioritize cardio over weight lifting, but 3-2-8 pushed me out of my comfort zone and into taking weight lifting a little more seriously. I used the Madeline Moves app (which I’ve loved for over a year) for guidance on weight lifting, and I can’t recommend it more. It gives you a pre-programed weight lifting workout every day, so you don’t have to guess which exercises to do or how much weight you should be using. I looked forward to the three days I headed to the gym to weight lift more than I ordinarily would because of the aforementioned structure it gave me. Three days a week of weight lifting is super doable, and left me feeling strong and excited to go back every time I left.
    I’m newer to pilates, but I’ve enjoyed my journey into starting it more than I ever thought I would. I used the Alo Moves app to do pilates videos at home, and it always shocked me just how difficult they were. I’d find myself needing to take a breather more than I do in the gym or even on my runs, but it was easier on my body in ways that made it feel like it gave me recovery between gym sessions. After about a month, I noticed how much stronger I felt; I was lifting heavier weights in the gym and was making it through my pilates classes taking fewer breaks, which made me want to keep going.

    I noticed changes to my body
    I didn’t go into 3-2-8 wanting to shed a lot of weight, so I can’t speak on it from that perspective as I kept my diet the same as I always do; however, the biggest change I’ve noticed in my body from it is that I’m definitely more toned—particularly in my core. I feel physically stronger, and my body definitely looks physically stronger, too. 

    I love my workout routine more than I ever have
    If you’re someone who has the motivation to workout, but just wants to be told exactly what to do, 3-2-8 is absolutely for you. I look forward to my workout routine more than I ever have, and it gives me enough variety that I don’t think I’ll get tired of it like I have of other workout programs.
    I love that my workout routine now feels productive and challenging, but that my body doesn’t feel like it’s being pushed too hard. The structure of 3-2-8 has also saved me time in the long-run, as I don’t sit there debating which type of workout to do each day. I love keeping a checklist in my planner and checking off strength and pilates days each week, and prioritizing taking walks to hit my steps goal every week. If you’re debating trying 3-2-8, or are just looking for a new workout routine, I can’t recommend it enough. 

    This Low-Impact Workout Is Taking Over FitTok, and All You Need Is a Wall More