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    Why Practicing Self-Efficacy Is Key To Becoming The Best Version Of Yourself

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    There’s a reason the words “believe in yourself” are plastered on classroom signs and cross-stitched on throw pillows. Your sense of self-efficacy, or the belief that you can accomplish what you set out to do – whether that’s finishing a 5K or a master’s degree – plays a huge role in whether or not you succeed, according to experts and research.While this may seem quite obvious, developing (and, later, maintaining) an I-can-do attitude is easier said than done. A person’s sense of self-efficacy is built up over time as they experience life and, inevitably, failure, says Jessica B. Stern, PhD, a licensed clinical psychologist, clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychiatry at NYU Langone Health, and host of SiriusXM’s Doctor Radio. How people respond to messing up a presentation at work or getting their heart broken shapes future success. “Are you able to work through frustration? How you interpret that or extrapolate from that frustration is meaningful,” says Stern. If you always tell yourself that you will fail or that one misstep means you might as well quit altogether, you are less likely to succeed. Unfortunately, improving that self-talk can be a bit more challenging than ordering an inspirational pillow on Etsy.The good news? There are everyday strategies you can do to strengthen this mental muscle. Just like you’d need to build up your cardiovascular endurance before crushing that 5K, you need to work your self-efficacy in small ways to see lasting results, says Brian Licuanan, PhD, a California-based clinical psychologist and author of How to Get Your Resisting Loved One Into Treatment. Science backs this up, too: A 2020 study of medical students showed building up self-efficacy improved academic results. And self-efficacy was the strongest predictor for student success, according to a 2012 study.How To Assess Your Self-Efficacy LevelThe way you speak to yourself, especially in the face of obstacles, is an easy way to gauge your own sense of self-efficacy, says Thea Gallagher, PsyD, a clinical psychologist and associate professor at NYU Langone Health. A person with low self-efficacy will discount their achievements and blame themselves if they believe they made an error. “[They] might say, ‘Yeah, I did that thing, but other people could do it better,’ or ‘I didn’t do a great job,’ or ‘It wasn’t that hard,’” Gallagher says. “They add disclaimers to accomplishments and double down on the negative self-talk.”On the other end of the spectrum, a person with high self-efficacy has grace for their mistakes and speaks kindly to themselves, like they might talk to a friend. In the face of failure, they tend to recognise their error and start fresh with a new plan. It’s about the bounce back, not the setback.FYI: This doesn’t mean someone with high self-efficacy thinks they are perfect, says Gallagher. “It’s about keeping track of the thing you do that you’re proud of, or that might be a little bit hard for you.” And those who have high self-efficacy still need to work toward their goals, adds Licuanan. If you want to participate in Dry January, for example, you shouldn’t celebrate New Year’s Eve with a bottle of tequila and expect to wake up the next morning a new person. For your belief in yourself to work and, ultimately, help you achieve your goals, you need to start by breaking those goals down into small, realistic steps, he says.Self-Efficacy Vs. Self-Esteem: Many people either haven’t heard of self-efficacy or conflate it with self-esteem or self-confidence, says Licuanan. “[But] Self-esteem, or confidence, is just a general feeling of one’s worth and meaningfulness.” Self-esteem tends to be based on overall emotion toward oneself, whereas self-efficacy is tied to motivation, achievement and success. Learning to use your self-esteem and/or general sense of meaning in the world, can also strengthen that self-efficacy muscle, too. For example, think about your place in your world as you go about your daily tasks. This will help you recognise that others rely on you and you make a meaningful impact, says Licuanan, and keeping that top of mind is motivating.Ahead, the experts share six ways to build up your sense of self-efficacy every day:1. Start a to-do list of all of your tasks and cross them off as you finishWhile you may take it for granted that when your alarm goes off each morning, you work out, hop in the shower and make breakfast – all before heading to work for the day – taking a moment to acknowledge and celebrate your “micro successes” can help beginners build up their self-efficacy, says Licuanan. “From fixing your bed to being able to eat meals and go to the gym, we take those as routine activities, but those are highly successful activities.”Start taking stock of your micro successes by writing a to-do list for everything you do in a day and cross the tasks off as you finish them. Once you watch all those little wins pile up, you’ll be more willing to venture outside of your comfort zone and tackle bigger life goals, he says.2. Repeat positive affirmations to yourselfAs mentioned, self-talk plays a big role in building up a strong sense of self-efficacy. If your inner monologue is a bit negative, it can be understandably difficult to believe in your own success. This is where positive affirmations come in, the experts say. Something as simple as repeating ‘I will be more positive, I am patient, I am successful’ to yourself can have a profound impact on your mental state, says Licuanan. And while it may seem silly to repeat something, especially a phrase you may not believe in, what you are actually doing is subconsciously rewiring your brain by creating new neurological pathways. Over time, your brain will begin to truly believe what you’re telling yourself. It happens slowly, says Stern, but it is powerful.3. JournalWriting about your day, what is going on and how you feel about it all can be helpful here, says Stern. You can start by observing how you speak about yourself in your writing or begin to catalogue your wins throughout the day – from catching the early bus to having a great night out with your bestie. Taking the time to slow down and appreciate the positive moments already happening in your life can help build up your self-efficacy.READ MORE: 15 Best Journalling Apps To Start The New Year With More Mindfulness4. Look at the evidenceIf you tend to think in extremes (meaning, you’re either the worst or the best at everything with no room for nuance), pausing and questioning yourself can help you switch your self-talk, says Gallagher. Say you have a goal of drinking more water each day. Instead of questioning why you can’t get it together, look at the evidence. Are you making it easy to stay hydrated by bringing a water bottle with you? Are you speaking to yourself kindly, even when you realise at 6 p.m. you haven’t sipped anything other than cold brew?These are all steps in a positive direction and, although they may seem small, they matter. Looking at this evidence and giving yourself a pat on the back for trying is important, Gallagher says. Examining the facts versus what you’re telling yourself can illuminate differences in your narrative vs reality, helping you to get back and/or stay on track.5. Listen to positive messages like motivational talks and podcastsListening to stories from people who have overcome hardship to achieve their goals can also help expand your perspective. Seeing that other people, just like yourself, have survived their own struggles and emerged stronger can fortify your belief in your own success. Watching Ted Talks or motivational speeches on YouTube or incorporating an inspirational podcast into your daily routine is an easy way to build up your sense of self-efficacy, says Licuanan.READ MORE: These 3 Mental Exercises Can Help You Find Your Purpose In Life At Any Age6. Write down a list of your strengthsAn easy way to shut your inner sh*t talker up is to have a list of things you love about yourself in your back pocket. Take a few moments to write down your personal strengths, says Stern, whether on a piece of paper or in the Notes app of your phone. Maybe you are a good friend or a hard worker. When your inner monologue tells you otherwise, refer back to this list. Bonus points if you keep it on your phone, wallet, or somewhere else easily accessible.While believing in yourself isn’t always easy, developing and maintaining a strong sense of self-efficacy can help you achieve more and live a fuller life. So, next time you see a cheesy sign or cross-stitched pillow with the words “believe in yourself,” take a moment and let that sink in. After all, if you don’t believe in yourself, who will?This article by Jacqueline Tempera was originally published on Women’s Health US. More

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      Year-End Burnout? How To Cope, From A Doc

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      Year-end burnout can feel like a slow, painful crawl to mid-December when you’re finally allowed to cancel the alarm and enable that OOO. Right now, there are urgent memos everywhere, last-minute to-dos and all the things you said you’d finish by July, now threatening to swallow you whole.And since you’ve been working so hard, you’re likely feeling drained, fog-headed and beset with mystery colds. To stave off a complete meltdown, these tips from general practitioner Dr Unben Pillay will help. He’s a medical expert at Unu Health (a comprehensive telemedicine app) and has a special interest in chronic disease management. These tips will help manage your exhaustion and set up a way to prevent burnout in the future.Signs you have year-end burnoutThe signs of burnout, whether it’s at the end of the year, mid-way through or any other time, remain the same.Frequent or persistent colds

      Chronic stress

      Exhaustion

      Changes in appetite and sleeping patterns

      Stomach aches

      Trouble concentrating

      Frequent procrastination  READ MORE: People Pleasing Can Have Some Harmful Mental Health Effects — Experts Say This Is How To StopStart right nowYear-end burnout can become bad enough that it threatens your summer vacay. As soon as you realise your motivation is flagging, do something about it. “Exhaustion from the constant demands of life often accumulates over the course of the year, leading to a high risk of burnout in Q4,” says Dr Pillay. “If health concerns are ignored now, they can escalate into more serious issues, making it difficult to fully enjoy the holidays.” How that works? Following the steps below and seeking professional help if you need it.Take short, frequent breaksA meta-analysis in PLOS ONE found that micro-breaks worked for well-being and reducing fatigue. Some breaks were mere seconds, while others were a few minutes. The study also found that for more cognitive-heavy tasks, breaks of more than 10 minutes were likely needed.Your move: set a timer for 30 minutes and walk around or look at something other than your screen for just five minutes. Repeat the schedule for the day. Your break could be shorter; there’s no consensus on break duration. But take one!READ MORE: Yes, Happiness Can Boost Productivity – Here’s HowPrioritise sleepNot a new one – but something to *actually* implement. Multiple studies have linked low-quality sleep to everything from poor mental health to impaired brain function and even an increased risk of obesity, hypertension and stroke. As to your year-end burnout, a new study in Frontiers Public Health found that people who get less than seven hours of sleep were more likely to have burnout compared to those with more sleep.Your move: Get in the zone for sleep: light candles, have a bath or shower, journal or meditate, and allow yourself to drift off peacefully. Use these hacks to fall asleep faster.  Move moreIf your workouts have taken a back seat to your burgeoning to-do list, it’s time to add it back in – at the top. Doing it first thing eliminates it fast and boosts your mood and productivity for the day. And your workout doesn’t have to be HIIT. “Regular exercise helps combat fatigue and boosts energy levels, even if it’s just a short walk,” says Dr Pillay.READ MORE: 6 Energy-Boosting Hacks That Are Simple To IntegrateFocus on nutritionLook to foods that will energise you, and not drain you. A burger and fries will fill you up but the processed carbs won’t support your well-being. Try air-fried cauliflower and broccoli with a hummus dip – satisfying but packed with nutrients. Try these tips to add more veg to your diet without trying.Get professional help (early)“Don’t wait for your symptoms to become severe,” warns Dr Pillay. “Access medical advice sooner rather than later to prevent more serious issues.” A medical check-up can also reveal key deficiencies that lead to feelings of exhaustion, like low iron or vitamin D levels.   More

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      Queen Modjadji’s Breakout Star Masutang Rasekele On Life, Wellness And Finally Living Her Dream

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      There’s been a lot of curiosity around new kid on the block Masutang Hope Rasekele, who recently made her acting debut on Queen Modjadji, a new Mzansi Magic series that has had South Africans talking since its premiere on Sunday, 14 July. Delivered purely in Khelovedu, an indigenous South African language, the show is a celebration of the life and times of the legendary rainmaking Queen Modjadji of the Balobedu nation, whose story hasn’t been documented enough to date.

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      On the show, Masutang plays Dzugudini, a role she admits she got purely by being ‘at the right place at the right time’. Initially hired as a language and cultural advisor on Queen Modjadji, Masutang was recommended by a fellow crew member when the show’s ‘powers that be’ were specifically looking for an actress fluent in Khelovedu to play the fierce and controversial Princess Dzugudini. Below, the 26-year-old breakout star lets us in on her wellness practices.

      READ MORE: Food, Fitness & Family: How Zinhle Masango Juggles It All

      Best way to start your mornings…

      “I love ushering in my mornings with absolute silence. No phone, nothing – just meditating and gathering my thoughts from the previous day and deciding how I want to proceed with the new day, the kind of energy that I want to pour into the day and lots of positive affirmations. This practice of gathering my mind, body and soul in one space usually gets me into a good mental space, especially on days when I have lots of tasks ahead of me. All of this is usually sealed with a cup of tea at the end.”

      My name means…

      “Masutang (or Mmasutdani as I prefer to spell it), means ‘make way for me’. I was born on 24 May 1998, the same day on which my great grandmother passed on. My family believed that she made way for me to arrive safely in this lifetime. So, there is the Home Affairs spelling of my name, which is Masutang. ‘Mmasutdani’ is just me trying to reclaim the real spelling of my name, especially because Khelovedu is not an official language in South Africa. The latter spelling captures the true sound of my name.”

      Wellness routine that works best for your lifestyle 

      “I usually don’t have time to go to the gym. I stay active by dancing, stretching and walking wherever possible to get those steps in. I also meditate a lot and love spending time in absolute silence – it’s literally the only time I get to evaluate the state of my mental health. I also journal a lot, I find that it elevates my mood.”

      Lessons from the last book I read 

      “It’s a book called Zwireto by Makhwekhwe Volume 1, written by an old Bolobedu-based lady called Makhwekhwe. She documents the different idioms and proverbs used in Khelovedu. This is the best purchase I’ve ever made because we seldom have material that is aimed at preserving languages and cultures. Language is a huge part of anyone’s identity. Having a book written in Khelovedu and aimed at preserving my language is the best thing that I’ve come across – and I absolutely love it.”

      READ MORE: This Cape Malay Stuffed Linefish Is Simple And Delicious

      My favourite go-to breakfast

      Molatša (leftover pap) with hot eggs. The eggs must be extremely well done, please! [chuckles]

      How I nourish my body

      “I could definitely do better in this area of my life. I love to prep for salads and could have them any time of the day. I follow someone who does what’s called ‘salad chemistry’ which has inspired me to incorporate a lot of fresh foods in my own creations. I also drink a lot of sparkling water — I don’t know if sparkling water is healthy enough though?! [chuckles]. I also believe that nourishing the body alone isn’t enough. So, I also make an effort to be gentle with, and speak positively to, myself. I’m also very particular with what I surround myself with.”

      Best wellness advice I have received

      “It’s the very common phrase: ‘Your health is your wealth’. I can’t think of any truer statement. If you take care of yourself, you will definitely reap the rewards in the end. This includes listening to my body when it’s had enough, that way I’m able to replenish my energy levels and continue with whatever work needs to be done. My work requires good physical and mental health. So, it’s only through taking good care of myself that I’m able to deliver.”

      READ MORE: Advice For Your 20s And 30s: What They Don’t Tell You About Ageing

      The last song that made me cry

      “Bonus by J John The Big Baby & Huzz Beats. Loosely translated, this Tsonga song says ‘we’re not sleeping today because we’ve received a bonus in the form of blessings.’ The song may not make sense or be relevant to some but, for me, it signifies the day my life changed when I bagged my current role on Queen Modjadji. I play this song daily to remind myself how blessed I am. Anyone more qualified could’ve gotten this role, instead I was chosen. The song, in the context of my life story, brings me to tears because I’m finally walking in the direction of the life that I’ve always dreamt of. “

      Best way to end my day

      “I love wrapping up my days by watching something light and funny on TV and debriefing via journalling. The latter allows me to take stock of my emotions and how I responded to certain things throughout the day. I love to laugh and don’t enjoy going to sleep with a heavy heart – so comedy and some self-awareness do the trick for me.” More

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      Actress Temi Otedola On Why She Prefers A Simple Wellness Routine

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      At first glance, Temi Otedola (the newly announced L’oreal Paris Digital Brand Ambassador for sub-Saharan Africa) gives off the vibe of someone who doesn’t skimp on self-care. Always styled elegantly for a 28-year-old, and a fan of a clean make-up look that still allows her skin to breathe, it’s no wonder the Nigeria-based actress is one of Africa’s most loved personalities.

      Naturally, Temi is honoured to be L’Oreal Paris‘ first digital brand ambassador, a role that will see her face plastered on the brand’s digital, and some in-store campaigns, across Africa.

      “My job is to spread the L’Oreal Paris message across Africa digitally, as that is the new frontier,” she beams. She adds: “I hope to be the first of many incredible African women in this role, and not just from Nigeria. L’Oreal Paris is a brand with a very rich legacy, but it’s still new to our space. Not new in terms of products, but awareness. I look forward to sharing about the science-based research that they do on their products and melanated skin, specifically,” shares Temi, who also adds that she can’t wait to remind women that ‘they are worth it’, per the powerful L’Oreal Paris slogan.

      In addition, through this role, Temi hopes to leave behind a legacy of having reminded young women that there is no universal beauty standard – and that comfort with, and confidence in, self trump everything else. Below, Temi shares some of the wellness practices that help her step out into the world fully radiant (and with an assured bounce in her step).

      READ MORE: How To Tailor Your Skincare For Hormones, Per Experts

      Skincare routine that I swear by

      “To be honest, I’m very simple with my skincare. So long as my skin is hydrated and I’m wearing sunscreen, that’s really where it stops and ends. Where skin is concerned, I do think that less is more. I love using  hyaluronic acid  but I think the more things we use on our skin, the more irritated it becomes.”

      “I love a facial once a month. Like I said, hydration is my top priority. But, I also always say that it doesn’t matter how many skincare products you use, if you don’t drink water or sleep enough, it’s all pointless really! I know it’s clichéd, but self-care is more important a lot of the time. I’m on a plane every few days so if I don’t back it up with sleep, my skincare routine will be pointless.”  

      Sleep catch-ups

      “If you give me the time, I could sleep up to 14 hours – I am that person [chuckles]! Unfortunately, I’m not able to do that. I can’t nap, although I wish I was able to. Let’s say I have the odd one day off and I know the next three weeks are going to be crazy, I will happily sleep for 14 hours [chuckles]. This relationship with sleep runs in my family. My 92-year-old grandmother wakes up at 5am daily, goes to her farm and she’s in bed by 8pm. I hope to be like that at her age!”

      Favourite way to stay fit 

      “Yoga is my favourite thing ever! During the pandemic when we couldn’t go to the gym, I got into yoga classes on YouTube. I love YouTube because you can get anything you need – and it’s free. I enjoy walking as well, it’s the best way to experience a new city, especially when I’m travelling.”

      READ MORE: How To Change Up Your Skin Routine For More Hydrated Skin This Winter

      Favourite way to nourish my body

      “So, I have this amazing smoothie that I love to make in the morning. It has flax seeds, chia seeds, frozen berries, spirulina powder, almond butter and a few other good things. I just throw everything in because I can just sip on it while I’m on the move all morning. I also love taking green juice, as well as fresh ginger and lemon. With all the travelling that I do, if I don’t do this daily, I will fall ill at some point. I think it’s so important to give yourself these little boosts throughout the day, be it a ginger or turmeric shot, because they help boost your immune system.

      I was vegetarian for six years and that’s very rare in Nigeria [chuckles]. I was one of five out of a population of two hundred million. I found myself hopping on and off the vegetarian diet. Having seafood now and again is also good for my iron. I think it’s important to always listen to our bodies at all times.”

      My best way to stay focused

      “Let’s say I’m on a movie set, and call time is 4am and I know that I’m going to be there until midnight, it’s actually best to put my phone away and be as present as possible. The issue with our phones is that we can be in twenty different places at once – almost like you’re teleporting yourself. You could see one message or email that could change your entire mood for the day. I only touch my phone when I feel grounded in my day. When we were shooting with L’Oreal Paris, for instance, I tried to take in as much of the present moments as possible. Our phones are a great communication tool, but they can also be very addictive and disruptive.”

      READ MORE: Everything To Know About Double Cleansing – And Which Products To Use

      Best way to de-stress

      “I love all things aromatherapy, something I inherited from my mother. I always have incense or candles burning in my room. Amazon has these eucalyptus shower steamers which I love using after a long day. They help take weight off me.”

      Best way to hone confidence

      “Confidence and beauty are what’s underneath the skin, they’re not surface level. In the past, I’ve been very honest about my insecurities and my own journey with beauty – and how in the end, I actually decided that I didn’t want to be like everyone else. I’m only trying to be the best version of Temi. You want to try be the best version of yourself at any given time, it’s never about aspiring to be like anyone else.

      Social media has made made people feel like their lives are not enough. When in fact, we should be inspiring and encouraging each other, and constantly reminding ourselves that who we are is enough.” More

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      Here’s How To Spot Secret Addictions And Tips To Break The Cycle

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      Imagine a typical “addict.” What comes to mind? Perhaps someone staggering down the street clutching a wine bottle, or maybe someone staying up late, glued to their Instagram feed? More often, it’s the first image that strikes.

      Yet, this portrayal of addiction, focusing on the most extreme cases, misses a broader, more inclusive picture. Addiction isn’t just about illicit substances or gambling; it spans a vast spectrum of behaviours and it’s likely we all harbour some form of addiction.

      Meet The Expert: Talitha Fosh, author of Hooked – Why We Are Addicted and How To Break Free is a qualified psychotherapist specialising in addiction. With personal experience in recovery from alcohol and drug use, and a background in treating various addiction issues, she offers insights into overcoming dependency.

      Addiction goes beyond the substances or activities we traditionally associate with dependency. It involves our reliance on anything external to soothe, escape, or alter our internal state. Whether it’s compulsive online shopping, endlessly scrolling through social media, or skipping meals due to weight concerns, these behaviours can signify deeper issues if they persist and cause harm. In essence, addiction surfaces when we persist with harmful behaviours, breaking promises to ourselves and others in pursuit of a temporary respite from our realities.

      Have you ever found yourself up late, scrolling through Instagram to distract from stress? Felt regret after impulsive shopping during a “retail therapy” session? Lied to friends about your eating habits due to concerns about your appearance? These could be signs of addictive behaviours.

      “Addiction involves a reliance on anything external to soothe, escape, or alter our internal state”

      But don’t worry—you’re not alone. We are all susceptible to addiction. Our brains, still adapting to the rapid developments of modern life, are inherently prone to it. The neural pathways that evolved to reward survival behaviours are now being hijacked by modern stimuli—from binge-watching TV shows to reacting to social media notifications. This hijacking leads to a cycle where the pursuit of instant gratification becomes increasingly compelling.

      Key Signs Of Addiction

      Identifying addiction can be subtle and involves recognising several key signs:

      Inability to Stop: Struggling to take breaks or quit, despite wanting to.

      Feeling Shame: Feeling deeply flawed, fuelling continued addictive behaviours.

      Keeping Secrets: Hiding behaviours or feelings due to guilt or embarrassment.

      Defensiveness: Reacting negatively to others’ concerns, a sign of denial.

      Broken Promises: Failing repeatedly to adhere to self-set limits, like promising to stay off social media but reinstalling an app soon after deleting it.

      Strategies To Break The Cycle

      Recognising these patterns is a courageous first step toward change. Fortunately, our adaptable brains can learn and unlearn habits. Here are strategies to break the cycle of addiction:

      Abstinence: Temporarily abstaining can help reset your brain’s balance. Always consult with a doctor for safe practices.

      Reflection: Understand the real needs behind your actions to find healthier alternatives.

      Seek Support: Turn to friends, family, or support groups.

      Therapy: Professional help can provide deeper insights and strategies.

      Know Your Triggers: Recognise what prompts your behaviours to better avoid them.

      Embrace Feelings: Allowing yourself to experience a range of emotions can uncover underlying needs and growth opportunities.

      Changing deep-seated habits is a gradual process, not an overnight fix. Each step forward is part of a larger journey towards regaining control of your life, a journey that can be challenging but ultimately rewarding.

      More about mental health…

      This article by Talitha Fosh was first published on Women’s Health UK. More

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      Food, Fitness & Family: How Zinhle Masango Juggles It All

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      This two-time award-winning fitness influencer, certified nutritionist, mom, Kellogg’s ambassador and corporate hun (seriously, how does she do it all?) is giving us the inside scoop on what it really means to be fit, mentally balanced and taking care of yourself in today’s hustle. Plus, did we mention Zee’s all about authenticity? We’re obsessed.

      Quick Fire Questions: Zinhle Masango

      Who inspires you? The Rock

      The workout you dread? Burpees

      Favourite place you’ve visited? Zanzibar

      Go to workout song? HISS by Megan The Stallion

      Best way to unwind?  Run or hit the spa

      What would you do if you weren’t a fitness/influencer? Be on radio or write health articles for magazines

      The Road To Wellness

      The journey into the fitness world for Masango wasn’t just about sculpting abs; it was a tale of empowerment. “My fitness journey started back when I was in an abusive relationship,” she shares. “Fitness became an escape for me, making me not only physically strong but mentally strong too.” Fast forward a decade and Masango has become synonymous with excellence in South Africa’s fitness scene, bagging awards and collaborating with iconic brands like Kellogg’s, a brand she fondly grew up with.

      A Balancing Act Is What It Takes 

      Wellness, for Masango, is not a one-dimensional concept; it’s all about physical, mental and emotional harmony. “My brand stands for a holistic approach to wellness,” she explains, “embracing physical, mental, financial and emotional well-being.” How does she juggle it all? Balance. “I am one person who believes in a balanced lifestyle, hence one would see me going out with mates or my family and enjoying a great meal and drink. For my mental health, I go to the gym or go out for a run. I often say gym is the most underrated antidepressant. I honestly aim to give a little of myself to every aspect of life by prioritising wellness every chance I get.” 

      Self-Care Journey

      “It has been said that when you look good on the outside you are more confident,” says Masango. Her routine? From microneedling to waxing (especially her underarms and legs), she ensures she’s always polished because she wears a lot of sleeveless gym tops and shorts to the gym. And let’s not forget the power of a signature scent – she swears by it!

      “I love posting about my overall journey on my Instagram; sharing tips on nutritious meals, great workouts and showing my skin routine.”

      READ MORE: Elevate Your Wellness Routine With Kellogg’s New Granola Range

      Navigating Life’s Hustle

      Amidst the pressuring corporate life, motherhood, studies and influencer duties, Masango finds solace in mindfulness. “Running clears my mind and helps me relax,” she reveals. ” I also keep a healthy diet that is high in omega fatty acids that help feed my brain and take ashwagandha supplements to help keep my stress levels down. I have also realised that spending time with my family and friends and speaking about my mental well-being has helped a lot in decreasing my stress levels. “

      Partnerships With Purpose

      In a world saturated with partnerships, Masango remains grounded in authenticity. “When I collaborate, it’s with brands I genuinely trust and align with. Seamless and authentic content is key.”

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      How To Actually Get Better At Talking To Yourself

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      We’re all probably guilty of entertaining the negative voices in our heads in the midst of a situation where things aren’t exactly going our way. Whether you’ve missed a deadline on your assignment, dropped off the kids late for school, made a lacklustre supper or messed up a job interview, no situation is ever that grand for anyone to talk harshly to themselves.

      Ask yourself this question? How often are you polite to others as opposed to the number of times you bash yourself when things go wrong?

      “When it comes to our inner dialogue, a.k.a. self-talk, what we say to ourselves is often careless, critical, and even cruel. And while we may not think much of it, that self-talk is powerful and has more of an effect on our mental well-being than we realise,” explains psychologist Maya Rutstein, also a product architect for digital wellbeing platform, soSerene.

      Quick recap: Self-talk is the inner voice that houses the beliefs we hold about ourselves. It shapes our perception of the world and personal reality, therefore influencing our emotional, psychological and physical well-being.

      READ MORE: TV/Radio Presenter Rorisang Thandekiso On The Moments That Defined Her Path Forever

      The Origins Of Self-Talk

      “There are many factors that influence our inner voice during the course of our lives,” explains Rutstein. “It starts early on. Our past experiences and upbringing play a significant role in shaping what our inner voice sounds like. Interactions we have and feedback we receive early in life shape our self-perception into adulthood.” She adds that social comparisons play a major role, too.

      “When we compare ourselves to others and find ourselves wanting, this can lead to negative self-talk. Often this is exacerbated by social media, because we’re comparing our whole lives to carefully curated snapshots of other people’s lives,” says Rutstein.

      Cultural, societal and family expectations can also set standards that individuals strive to meet, influencing self-criticism or encouragement. For example, when family members expect you to have ticked off certain milestones (such as marriage, children or buying a house) by a certain age, you may start to feel like a failure if you haven’t met their expectations. Personal achievements and failures can directly impact self-talk, too, with successes boosting positive self-dialogue and failures often leading to negative self-talk.

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      Positive Self-Talk For The Win

      When self-talk is positive, it can have a wide range of positive effects on our lives – from how we feel to how we show up in the world. People with a positive inner dialogue tend to be more confident, more productive and happier. “Have you ever felt frustrated because someone with less technical ability than you got promoted and you didn’t? Or that someone else built a successful business off an idea that you also had but didn’t have the guts to pursue?” asks Rutstein. “That’s self-talk at work.”

      “Positive self-talk enhances mental well-being by reducing stress and anxiety and fostering a positive outlook on life. That optimism makes the other person believe that the business idea will be a success, making them more inclined to pursue it,” shares Rutstein. Positive self-talk also boosts self-confidence and self-esteem, empowering individuals to tackle challenges and pursue goals. Rather than being held back by self-doubt, the person believes that they are the one who should pursue the idea and turn it into a business.

      “Positive self-talk encourages resilience, enabling individuals to recover more quickly from setbacks and maintain motivation. This emboldens the person to take the risk of starting the business, because even if it doesn’t work out, they’ll bounce back and try something else. Positive self-talk can even improve physical health. It has been linked to lower stress levels, better immune function, and better overall wellbeing,” explains Rutstein.

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      Why Negative Self-Talk Is A Definite ‘No’

      Unfortunately, as powerful as positive self-talk can be for improving the overall quality of our lives, negative self-talk can be just as powerful – but in a destructive way. Unchecked, it can lead to mental health issues such as chronic stress, anxiety, depression and low self-esteem, as well as exacerbate physical ailments.

      “Negative self-talk can result in a defeatist attitude towards goals and aspirations, hindering personal and professional growth. If you’ve ever given up on something before you even tried because you expected the worst, that was negative self-talk in action,” says Rutstein. She adds that it can also strain relationships by projecting insecurities and negativity onto interactions with others. “When you feel bad about yourself, you may enter social interactions defensively. This may cause you to misinterpret what other people say or do as an attack because that’s what you’re expecting,” says Rutstein.

      A classic example is when someone says, “You did well today,” but what you hear is, “You did well today for a change because you’re usually incompetent.” That, right there, is negative self-talk causing you to perceive a compliment as an insult.

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      How To Show Up For Yourself

      Per Rutstein, if you typically engage in negative self-talk, the good news is that it’s totally possible to rewire your brain with these five easy steps:

      Practise mindfulness: Caught yourself feeling bad that the person on the treadmill next to you is running so much faster? Instead, think about how well you did by making it to the gym in the first place – and how many excuses could have held you back, but didn’t. Become aware of negative self-talk as it occurs. Acknowledge these thoughts without judgment and gently redirect your focus to more positive or neutral thoughts.

      Challenge your own negative thoughts: Question the validity of negative self-assessments and replace them with positive affirmations instead. Thinking about how you’re definitely going to mess up your job interview? Focus on all the reasons why you’re actually the best candidate for the position.

      Gratitude journalling: Regularly write down things you are grateful for or proud of about yourself. This can help shift focus from negative to positive aspects.

      Surround yourself with positive influences: Engage with supportive friends, family and content that uplifts you, reducing exposure to negativity that can feed into self-criticism.

      Set small, achievable goals: Accomplishing even little goals (making your bed every morning; not snoozing the alarm) can boost your sense of efficacy and foster a more positive dialogue about your capabilities and achievements.

      As a parting shot, we invite you to reflect on these words from author Brianna Wiest‘s book When You’re Ready, This Is How You Heal: “What if cleansing your mind with hopeful, joyful, positive thoughts is the rebalancing that’s been long overdue, after so many years of existing solely on the most negative interpretations you could come up with?” More

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      Could Bed Rotting Be The Answer To Your Self-Care Struggles?

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      New Age, TikTok wellness trends will have you believe that everything your parents taught you about waking up early daily and making your bed is as irrelevant and outdated as a feature phone. Take for instance the latest fad: bed rotting (the tag has garnered more than 2 billion views on TikTok)!

      Ever had those weekend episodes where your eyes are wide awake (yay, new day!), but your body tells you that it doesn’t feel like leaving the bed. So, you end up eating, reading, catching on the latest season of Love Is Blind, taking calls, mindlessly browsing the rabbit hole that is the ‘net – all from comfort of your bed! Yep, you may have done this a couple of times already but thanks to GenZers redefining life as we’ve always known it via TikTok, the trend now has a phrase. What you call being consciously unproductive your grandmother may call pure laziness – but however you see it, let’s delve deeper into what ‘bed rotting’ a.k.a. ‘much-deserved rest’ entails – and how to do it right!

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      What You Do In Bed Matters

      Granting yourself a lazy day every once in a while is purely warranted and is no new concept. However, equally important is knowing when bed rotting is totally healthy and when it’s feeding into your existing mental health issues. “If, for instance, you’re already struggling with basic day-to-day functions and you’d rather sleep than face certain emotions head-on, sleeping or spending more time in bed could signal depression and other mood disorders,” explains counselling psychologist Selloane Molalogi-Makau, adding that if you’re constantly feeling lethargic and feel safer spending time in bed than anywhere else, perhaps it’s time to seek professional help.

      If, however, there is nothing alarming about your behaviour and you function just as well when you’re not cooped up in bed, Molalogi-Makau, suggests setting time limits to how much time you’re going to spend ‘bed rotting’ could be a good idea. For instance, are you going to use that time catching up on to-do list items that you didn’t get to in the week or are you immersed in a book whose storyline literally transports you to another world?

      “Just be careful not to indulge in anything that could upset you, stress you out or make you feel like your bed is safer than being out there in the world,” warns Molalogi-Makau.

      A February 2023 study by the University of Bath found that “long-term inactivity significantly increases blood sugar levels even if you reduce your food intake to avoid gaining weight.” While another pilot study published in the National Library of Medicine found that there was a correlation between “sleeping or lying in bed all day and an increased risk of stress and depression, systemic inflammation and other psychological and cardiovascular ailments.”

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      Bed Rotting Done Right?

      Durban-based psychologist Lindani Mnyaka believes that there’s nothing sinister with bed rotting – provided it’s done once in a blue moon, as opposed to regularly. He does, however, add that nothing adds meaning to our lives such as kicking that duvet cover and being up and about creating a life of meaning. He also highlights the importance of constantly checking in one’s mental health state, so as to avoid sinking into a mood disorder without being aware of it.

      Changing your sleep schedule drastically ultimately does more harm than good for your mental and physical health, says Mnyaka. Per a 2019 Harvard Health report, “too much sleep can lead to too little energy.” Why is that? “Because it appears that any significant deviation from normal sleep patterns can upset the body’s rhythms and increase daytime fatigue,” according to the report. That said, Mnyaka agrees with Molalogi-Makau re: setting a limit to how much time time you’re going to spend in bed, as well as mapping out exactly what you’ll be doing.

      Among some of the activities he suggests are reading, watching a series, colouring in, sewing in buttons (time to own a sewing kit!) or a catch-up video call with a loved one. “It’s also very important to mention that just because a health trend has attracted billions of views doesn’t necessarily make it a healthy solution. People really need to start scrutinising

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      A Problematic Title, Maybe?

      Perhaps worth asking is – why is resting referred to as rotting, when the former is actually a good thing (and especially when self-care/resting comes in many forms? What’s self-care to one person may not work for another individual and such is the case with many subjective practises. TikTokers are probably rolling their eyes this very minute and thinking – what’s in a name, anyway? If there’s anything that we should take away from the bed rotting trend, it’s that aimless and unplanned rest – especially in a culture that praises busyness over relaxation – is completely healthy and okay. We’re allowed to take care of ourselves, the best way we know how. More

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      6 Energy-Boosting Hacks That Are Simple To Integrate

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      Tiredness is that feeling that we all seem to know a little too well. Perhaps it’s waking in the morning and desperately wanting to hit the beckoning snooze button. Or maybe it’s the feeling of that ominous 3pm slump, where our brain fog creeps in as our sugars dip post-lunch. Or perhaps it’s a more figurative feeling of tiredness; that you’re struggling to keep family, friends and yourself topped up, and that the demands of life and communication can feel at times exhausting. 

      Well, you’re not alone, with one of the most common complaints brought to clinicians cited as being tiredness. After all, if we aren’t functioning at our best, we often feel like we’re not committing fully to our work, enjoying life to the most and sleeping well. 

      So with that in mind, the happy news is that a few simple tweaks will pay great dividends. Get ready to be electrocuted into life. Here are 6 easy hacks. 

      Exercise 

      When you’re tired, exercise is usually one of the first things to be given the boot in favour of a lie-down. But people have caught on to the benefits of exercising to boost your energy – something which at first glance could be seen as an oxymoron. In fact, the folks at Harvard cited a study where sleep-deprived volunteers compared against three different interventions: caffeine, stair-climbing and placebo. Ultimately they found that just 10 minutes of exercise boosted participants’ energy levels far more than caffeine (50mg) did.

      Soak up some sunshine (safely) 

      Feel more energetic on a sunny day than you do on a cloudy one? There’s some science to it. One of the best-known benefits of sunlight is vitamin D, which contributes to immune health, bone health and hormone production. Some studies have also suggested an association between sunshine and serotonin production, which helps regulate mood, hunger, sleep, learning, memory and your libido—so it’s possible to for sunshine to provide a natural energy high. Just be sure to soak it up at times when the UV index is low and wear SPF 50+ on any exposed skin. 

      Refuel with fermentation 

      We’re all aware to the fact that gut health is incredibly important to our overall health, influencing our immune system, heart, brain, mood, skin, sleep and overall digestion. We call it our second brain for a reason – it impacts our body overall in significant ways. So to keep our gut healthy it’s important to eat prebiotics and probiotics, limit processed foods and alcohol, drink plenty of water and minimise stress. A great place to start? Ferments. The likes of kimchi, sauerkraut, kefir, tempeh, natural non-flavoured yoghurt, miso and kombucha are your first ports of call. 2,4,6,8. 

      Prep your snacks 

      Drink, sorted. But what about snacks?! When hunger strikes, reach for ones that will keep you fuller for longer. We’re talking protein, good fats and fibre. If you’re in the mood for an apple, why not slather some peanut butter over it to ensure a slower release of energy? Or if you’re feeling like you need a top-up, protein goes a long way, after all, it’s the most satiating macronutrient. We’re talking yoghurt, tuna, trail mix, hard boiled eggs, a slice of cheese – the list goes on.

      Also, there are studies to suggest that starting the day with a savoury breakfast will help you manage your blood sugars and stay fuller for longer – and more energetic – throughout the day. 

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      Stick to a wake-up time 

      If you’re sleeping in one or two days of the week to try to ‘catch up’ on some energy, it may actually be having the opposite effect. A growing body of research shows that waking up at the same time every morning can not only help you sleep better at night but make it easier to get out of bed in the morning. This is because the circadian rhythm is reinforced, and the body knows what to expect, knowing when to release melatonin (the hormone that induces sleepiness). 

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      Turn up your favourite tunes 

      Listening to music has been linked to a reduction in stress levels, as well as a rise in serotonin and dopamine. Of course, it helps if it’s music that you love, so try creating a playlist for your morning commute rather than relying on the radio. The combination of lower cortisol levels and mood-regulating neurotransmitters can provide an energy boost while promoting focus and motivation. 

      Consider a supplement 

      We know that vitamins and minerals are essential for our bodies to function at their best. They influence our metabolic pathways and support fundamental cellular functions. And studies have shown that supplementing with vital vitamins and minerals is highly likely to result in health benefits in the areas of physical and mental fatigue. 

      Carla Oates of The Beauty Chef had some interesting insights into supplements, too, stating that, “Certain herbs, such as astragalus, have been traditionally used in Chinese Medicine for years to promote energy levels and increase vitality.” 

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