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      Could Intermittent Resting Be The Key To Your Fatigue Problems?

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      Ever randomly left your desk mid-morning to bask in the sun, head buried in a racy novel? Or taken a quick post-run nap on your lawn? You’re in tune with your body’s needs and on the right track, according to experts. There’s a term for these regular breaks — Intermittent Resting.
      You’re probably already familiar with the term Intermittent Fasting — cycling between eating what you like and restricting your food intake via techniques like the 5:2 and 16:8. For the uninitiated, the theory goes like this: by giving your body a break from food you can not only lose weight, but potentially improve your metabolism and reduce your risk of certain diseases such as heart disease and diabetes.
      Now, health and fitness experts are talking about Intermittent Resting, the idea that the body also needs to cycle through small bursts of inactivity (activity fasting, if you will) in order to perform at its best. So, can scheduling rest with the enthusiasm you usually reserve for scheduling workouts really support your health and fitness goals?
      REST AND DIGEST
      Nahid de Belgeonne, a former fashion industry employee and owner of a London-based fitness studio Good Vibes started creating deliberate pockets of rest throughout the day — a kind of deliberate down time — once she discovered the power of rest.
      That she felt happier, healthier and more productive as a result of her new regime will come as news to nobody. But she also credits intermittent resting with making her fitter, stronger and improving her quality of movement. She now trains others in the art of snacking on rest via her yoga-meets-meditation technique, The Human Method.
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      RHYTHM AND SNOOZE
      Nahid explains that her theory is based on the body’s ultradian rhythms. The sister science of circadian rhythms – which control your 24 hour sleep-wake cycle – ultradian rhythms refers to the cycles that the systems in your body move through during the waking day. The concept is nothing new; it was proposed in the 1950s by sleep researcher Nathaniel Kleitman, whose contribution of the field of shut-eye is such that he’s often referred to as the ‘father of sleep’.
      That the wellness industry is finally sitting up and taking notice doesn’t surprise Dr Kat Lederle, chronobiologist and sleep coach at the sleep education platform Somnia. “We’ve seen significant scientific interest and progress in nutrition, fitness and sleep — circadian health is the next big topic,” she explains.
      While much of the focus in recent years has been on how your behaviour impacts your ability to fall – and stay – asleep, your behaviour impacts your waking function, too. “The body clock is made up of two clusters of 50,000 cells in the hypothalamus and we refer to that as the suprachiasmatic nucleus (SCN),” Dr Lederle explains. “The SCN is like a conductor, setting the timings for everything else that happens in your body, so while your ultradian rhythms vary from system to system, your body clock ensures they’re working in harmony together. If your internal rhythms become misaligned, that can lead to all sorts of problems.”
      It’s thanks to a raft of circadian rhythm research that we now understand that the repercussions of this ‘misalignment’ extend far beyond a night spent tossing and turning. A disrupted body clock has been shown to interfere with everything from your appetite to your co-ordination and mood. Extreme disruption, the likes experienced by shift workers, has even been linked with depression.
      But if the behaviour that contributes to a broken body clock sits on a sliding scale, with the shift workers whose livelihoods depend on keeping variable hours at one end. On the other, you’ll find the kind of habits you know you shouldn’t do, but you probably do anyway — working through your lunchbreak, doing a HIIT session when your body is begging for yoga and reading the internet instead of your book come bedtime.
      It’s these everyday behaviours, Dr Lederle explains, that present an opportunity to optimise your circadian health. “By becoming more aware of your body clock and adopting behaviours that supports its optimal functioning, as opposed to railing against it, you can not only reduce your risk of various diseases, but improve your day to day functioning.”
      Essentially, it’s about practising sleep hygiene, but for the waking day, too. And among the tools in Dr Lederle’s ‘wake hygiene’ toolkit is a habit that sounds a lot like Intermittent Resting. Regular rest, it transpires, is the backbone of good body clock behaviour.
      “I call them ‘mini breaks’, but they amount to the same thing — taking a break of up to 20 minutes every 90 minutes or so. For me, it’s sitting back for a moment and bringing an awareness to my breaths. But I think the key is doing something in that time that you enjoy. It’s not paying your bills or contacting your accountant — it’s something you’ve chosen to do.”
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      PAUSE FOR EFFECT
      What seems to elevate Intermittent Resting from your average work break is its intuitive nature; the idea that tapping into the times when your body is best primed for activity and rest could be a useful tool for those in the business of incremental gains. “Mini breaks are just one example of how aligning your schedule with your body clock can support your health goals,” adds Dr Lederle, who gives the example of planning when you exercise.
      If the idea of taking a 20-minute break every 90 minutes makes your heart race (not the goal), even breaking for five or 10 minutes can help. “I’m a huge believer in doing your own experiments and seeing for yourself what works for you,” adds Dr Lederle. “If you’re truly free to plan your life in the way that suits you, the repercussions on your health and wellbeing could be huge.”
      READ MORE: How To Get Better Quality Sleep
      Make Intermittent Resting Work For You
      Take a chronotype holiday
      Dr Lederle suggests taking a five-day trip with the goal of tuning into your natural waking and sleeping hours. Go to sleep when you feel tired, rise when you’re ready and avoid sleep saboteurs like screens. “By day five, you should know what your natural sleep timings are, and ideally you’ll start sleeping in that time window every night.”
      Find out your MEQ
      By now you’ll already known what hours you like to sleep, but for a more scientific approach, take the Morning-Evening questionnaire. There are 19 questions designed to tell you where you sit on the sliding scale of morning person and evening person.
      Keep an energy diary
      You’ll know intuitively when your energy ebbs and flows throughout the day by the times you usually reach for a coffee or a snack. Start consciously tuning into your feelings, and noting them down. Look out for the obvious signs, like yawning, as well as how engaged you feel in a task. Keep it up for a week and see what patterns you notice. This will guide you to your own Intermittent Resting breaks.
      Make it stick
      Your body clock is like a baby – it loves routine. “Anything you do that’s part of a routine will help your body clock to know what to expect, be that the time you do a workout or when you eat your lunch,” adds Dr Lederle. Once you’ve identified your energy peaks and troughs, schedule your breaks accordingly, and stick with it.

      The article Can Intermittent Resting Help You Reach Your Goals? was originally published on Women’s Health UK.

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      6 Changes an OB/GYN Wants You To Make RN

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      We’re flooded with health tips on a regular basis (“Don’t eat this!”, “Buy this supplement!”, “Work out more!”), and figuring out how to keep our bodies healthy can feel overwhelming. Between influencers, specialists, and bestselling books, it’s difficult to know who to listen to and what advice to take. At The Everygirl, our mission is to make wellness less overwhelming (because taking care of your body should be easier and feel more natural than asking for a raise or cultivating a killer wardrobe). As the resident wellness editor, I’m on a mission to bring you only the top experts (who know their stuff) and advice that will actually help improve your well-being instead of causing you stress, anxiety, or guilt. 
      While you might know that eating veggies and moving the body are crucial daily habits, so is tending to your sexual health—and most of us aren’t paying enough attention to it. So I asked a leading women’s health expert and gynecologist the most basic tips that everyone with a vagina can adapt today to become a bit healthier by tomorrow. Dr. Mary Jane Minkin, MD, OB/GYN, is basically your neighborhood gynecologist who also happens to be a leading professor at Yale University and has been honored by The Connecticut Women’s Hall of Fame for her significant contributions to the care and well-being of women (NBD). Here are six easy changes she recommends everyone can make for better health. 

      Meet the expert
      Mary Jane Minkin, MD, OB/GYN
      Gynecologist and Clinical Professor at Yale University

      Stop…
      1. Relying on “Dr. Google”
      PSA: Call your doctor with questions and concerns instead of typing it into Google. Besides the common WebMD anxiety (Googling a small headache or minor pain can spiral into major health anxiety), Dr. Minkin also warned that there’s a lot of false information that can be damaging. “Don’t believe everything you read on the internet,” she advised. “Googling your questions can be helpful at times, but it’s always a good idea to check with your health care provider instead.” In other words, feel free to search for things like how to naturally improve energy if you’re feeling a slump (eating an apple, getting outside, or moving the body can’t hurt!), but for making conclusions about your health and symptoms? Leave that job for a professional, not a search engine.
       
      2. Waiting for a reason to see your gyno
      Abnormal symptoms, family planning, painful periods, and switching birth control methods are all great reasons to visit your gyno, but they’re not the only reasons. In fact, you should make regular visits to your doc even when you don’t have a reason at all. “Wanting to be healthy is the only reason you need to see your OB/GYN,” Minkin encouraged. “It is absolutely necessary to schedule routine appointments to monitor your health as you age.” The general rule of thumb is an annual gynecological checkup, but talk to your doctor about what frequency makes sense for your body, symptoms, and lifestyle.
      Minkin also advised that it’s most important to feel comfortable with your provider. While you still need appointments with a gynecologist to receive the recommended pap smears, exams, etc., regular checkups with a knowledgeable physician’s associate, nurse practitioner, or midwife is fine, as long as you feel safe, heard, and comfortable with them.

      3. Using scented soaps, washes, tampons, etc. “down there”
      While vanilla-scented wash or tampons with a “fresh” floral scent might sound alluring, they’re probably not good for you. For one reason, vaginas are not supposed to smell like vanilla or florals—they’re supposed to smell like vaginas (and that’s OK!). If you notice an abnormal scent coming from your period, discharge, or the general “down there” area, Minkin recommended talking to your doctor to rule out infections and evaluating what hygiene products you’re using. “A lot of products (especially scented) throw off the vagina’s pH balance,” she warned. “To balance yeast and bacteria in the vagina, swap the fancy soaps for a non-toxic, unscented, and pH-balancing external wash. A healthy vagina is an acidic vagina!” PS: That goes for toys, condoms, and anything else that might come in contact with your vagina. Unscented is best.
       

      And start…
      4. Tracking your cycle
      If you don’t have a go-to app or old school calendar method to keep track of your cycle, you need to (even if you don’t think there’s a “reason” to know when you’re getting your period). “It’s important to keep track of your menstrual cycle to know your timing of ovulation, whether or not you are trying to conceive,” Minkin said. “When you are familiar with your cycle, you’re better equipped to recognize when something might be wrong or irregular.” Knowledge is power, and that goes for your fertility cycle too. Use an app like MyFlo to record symptoms like migraines, PMS, cramps, and acne, or simply mark on your calendar the first and last day of bleeding so you can look for any irregularities. And if you don’t get a regular period, tracking any symptoms can help you identify patterns and possible causes. 
       
      5. Examining your breasts regularly
      Putting on a face mask and dry brushing might be regular acts of self-care you know and love, but I’d like to suggest a new self-care practice to add to your routine: examining your breasts. Whether it’s before bed, any time you’re in the shower, or once a week, turn feeling yo’self into a regular habit so you know what your breasts feel like and can detect any changes or abnormalities early on (for how to perform a breast exam, click here).
      “Although OB/GYNs aren’t supposed to officially recommend breast exams, we do promote ‘breast self-awareness,’ so make sure you know what your breasts feel like and report any changes you notice to your health care provider,” Minkin said. The point is not to worry about every lump, bump, or tenderness but rather to know your breasts so well that you know when you feel something abnormal. Knowing your body is the most powerful tool for our health we have access to, so start practicing self-awareness with regular breast exams. 
       
      6. Taking safe sex seriously
      I don’t know who needs to hear this, but your use of protection should not be determined by your possibility to get pregnant. Whether you’re on oral birth control, have an IUD, are with someone of the same sex, or cannot get pregnant for whatever reason, you should still use protection when having sex with a new partner or multiple partners (you can never be too safe). If you’re unsure, ask your doctor about what safe sex method is best for you and when a form of protection is necessary. Also, Minkin recommended regularly getting tested for STIs (at least annually if you’re using protection, but the best practice is to both get tested before any new partner). Minkin’s slogan? “There is a Trojan for everything.” Always have some form of protection on hand, just in case. 

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      9 New Products for Your Vagina That Will Transform Your Sexual Health

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      Growing up, learning how to use a tampon was the extent of my knowledge of vagina products and sitting through sex ed was my only understanding of the inner workings of the vagina. Every time the word was mentioned, I turned red with embarrassment. Thankfully, gone are the days of keeping any talk of “the vag” reserved for awkward and often misleading education that makes you want to leave the room.
      Thanks to revolutionary, female-led companies leading the charge in redefining sexual wellness, the once hush-hush topic is not only openly and honestly discussed but also celebrated (as it has always deserved!). From innovative menstrual products to refreshing hygiene offerings we never knew we needed, these brands have all of our “down-there care” needs (and wants) covered. Read on for nine feminine care finds you’ll want to “Add to Cart.” Spoiler alert: There’s something for everyone.

      The Period Company
      Period Underwear
      Being on your period and feeling sexy (and comfortable) never belonged in the same sentence—that is, until now. Stylish and functional, the Period Company’s panties feature toxin-free, moisture-wicking fabric, four-layer absorbency, and leak-proof technology. Choose from heavy, sporty, light, and overnight styles. Whether you’re ready to swear off pads and tampons because of the negative impact they have on the environment or they’re annoying and messy (I could go on and on), these eco-friendly substitutes prove you don’t have to sacrifice hot girl vibes for protection. Period.

      Heating Patch
      We all know that riding the crimson wave comes with bloating and painful cramping. Enter: these heating patches that give off soothing warmth to help relax your muscles and provide relief from nagging cramps and uncomfortable bloat. Did I mention they’re made with botanical oils that won’t mess with your hormones or skin? No harsh chemicals here.

      Feminine Wipes
      You know that so-fresh-and-so-clean feeling you get after washing your face? These plant-based, pH-balancing wipes will leave you with that same feeling down there. What’s more, they’re equal parts convenient and versatile—use them after a gym sesh, before or after having sex, or when you’re on your period. Your “honeypot” (vagina, ICYMI) will thank you.

      Vaginal Balance Capsules
      Sexual health is not only about what’s on the outside. Feeling and functioning at our best means taking care of our insides too. If you could use a little help in that area, talk to your doctor about adding these supplements, which support your urinary tract health and balance your vaginal pH to your wellness regimen. With ingredients sans GMO, gluten, harmful fillers, and artificial preservatives, you can rest assured that you’re giving your vagina the right kind of TLC.

      Elvie Trainer
      The pelvic floor (made up of the muscles between the tailbone and the pubic bone) is having a moment, and rightfully so. From bladder and bowel movement control to better sex and core stability to prenatal and postpartum well-being, the muscle group has a lot of crucial functions, and it’s about time we give it the time and attention it deserves. The Evie Trainer helps you do just that. Inserted like a tampon, the app-connected device will lead you through targeted exercises that’ll give your pelvic floor a workout—consider it your new personal trainer. Before trying, make sure to talk to your gynceologist or pelvic floor specialist to see if it’s right for you.

      Natural Cycles
      NC° Birth Control
      Birth control that is hormone-free and side effect-free sounds too good to be true, but this new birth control method is changing the game. Using an app and your basal body temperature, this FDA-cleared digital contraception tool tracks your fertility status and tells you when to use protection to prevent pregnancy. Offered as a monthly or an annual subscription, the app boasts a 98% effectiveness when used correctly. As always, talk to your gynecologist about a birth control plan that’s right for your lifestyle, health goals, and body.

      Finger Vibrator
      PSA: Self-pleasure is a form of wellness, and this finger vibrator does the trick. Meant to be worn on your finger, its design is as versatile as it is sleek. Whether you favor the flat and squishy angle or use the device before, during, or after sex, the Fin Finger Vibrator lets you call the shots. The best part (other than the “O” you’ll get, of course)? It’s small but mighty and discreet enough to take on the go.

      Travel Size Lube
      Small enough to throw in your carry-on and tuck away in your nightstand, this lubricant duo is TSA- and bedroom-approved (because you never know when the mood will strike). The organic lube is moisture-boosting and both device- and condom-friendly, while the silicone alternative boasts long-lasting lubrication and is best used with condoms. They’re vegan and cruelty-free with no added fragrance or parabens, so the only thing you have to worry about is deciding which one you’re more in the mood for.

      Author: Nadya Okamoto
      Period Power
      Though not a product you can use on your vagina, this book is a must-have, whether you’re a “menstruator” or not. It takes a deep dive into menstruation, the stigmas and inequities surrounding it, and how to break down the silence, shame, and stigmas to change the conversation around periods. To continue her advocacy, author Nadya Okamoto launched August, a period care company and community that promotes honesty, transparency, inclusivity, and diversity in relation to menstruation.

      Please consult a doctor before beginning any treatments, supplements, or product routines. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read in this article.

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      I Asked an Abundance Coach How To Have the Best Year Ever, and Her Tips Will Change Your Life

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      Not sure what an “abundance coach” is? I grilled one for deets, and her tips might just be the key to actually changing your life. Every January, we all say, “This will be my year,” as if changing the calendar magically brings us healthier habits, a more successful career, or our dream relationship. But then we make it to the end of the year without much changing, and we swear that the following year will be the one that will change our lives. Sure, we’re consistently growing and changing, but most of us never reach our best selves or dream lives like we swear we will on Jan. 1. I’m over the pointless New Year’s resolution cycle, so I asked Jocelyn Kelly Reid, an intuitive abundance coach and feminine energy healer, how to make this year different from any year before.
      Reid is an expert on using energy to attract abundance and manifest success, which means her strategy is way different from the typical “Get a promotion” or “Work out five times a week” goal-setting that only points out what we haven’t achieved yet. Scroll down to read Reid’s best tips you can implement today in order to make 2022 your most successful, abundant, and joyful year ever (actually). 
       

      Meet the expert
      Jocelyn Kelly Reid
      Intuitive Abundance Coach and Feminine Energy Healer
      Reid is an Intuitive Business & Abundance Coach who has taught countless women to manifest their best lives. She has been featured on top-rated manifestation podcast EXPANDED as well as publications like MindBodyGreen and SheKnows.

      1. Practice intentions over resolutions
      Instead of worrying about a New Year’s resolution, claim an intention. When we set resolutions, we tend to set them 10 steps ahead of our current reality and then quickly feel defeated when we can’t manage this new way of living because we haven’t allowed ourselves to take the proper steps first. I have found that intentions have a much higher success rate than resolutions, which typically make us feel overwhelmed, stressed out, and unaccomplished. Write down your intention on a piece of paper or put it on a Post-it somewhere that you look on a regular basis like the fridge, bathroom mirror, or on your desk.
      For example, my intention a couple years ago was to be more intentional with each decision that I made, and it truly changed my life. I was more intentional about who I was spending time with and how I was spending my time (even down to the smallest moments). It made me live more “on purpose” rather than continuously operating on cruise control. Even the basics like fun and rest (which are major priorities for me!) were amplified. By making this simple adjustment, I created what is now nearly a seven-figure business—when I had no plans of starting a brand the previous year. Because of this intention, I was able to be extremely proactive with how I lived my life and in turn created a business with a hell of a lot more ease and flow. Setting an intention is life changing! 

      2. Get present with yourself
      Rather than rushing out of bed in the morning, take 15 minutes to sit in complete stillness and allow your thoughts, feelings, and scattered energy to drop out of your body and into the floor, seat, or surface beneath you. This practice supports you in emptying your energetic body of anxiety-inducing thoughts and helps you stay calm and centered throughout the day. Life happens in the “now,” so the more anchored you are into the present moment, the more capacity you have to create magic.

      3. Practice gratitude
      Every day, write a list of 10 things that you are grateful for. The list can be truly anything on your heart: people, experiences, pets, or the gratitude that you have for simply living another day. A regular gratitude practice sounds simple, but when practiced consistently, it increases your baseline for feeling good, in tune, and in flow with life. Over time, it also reduces the occurrence of your brain dropping into a negative thought pattern. The better you feel, the more abundance will be drawn into your life.

      4. Make your body your priority
      …and not for the sake of looking good but to feel good. While fatigue, anxiety, sleep deprivation, or bloat seems common, it isn’t meant to be your natural state. The human body is intended to thrive. Make it a practice to check in with your body throughout the day to see what you need. Some easy adjustments include drinking lemon water in the morning, taking naps, getting regular massages, or taking supplements that are right for you. Also, walking more helps get our bodies and lymphatic system moving (especially if you’re sitting at a desk all day).
      Remember this is not about losing 20 pounds (unless you are doing that from a place of love for yourself); it is about creating a peaceful, nourishing atmosphere within. The calmer you feel, the more you’ll be able to receive your manifestations and the more capacity you will have to walk through life powerfully.

      5. Expand your mind
      We often look to others to show us what’s possible, but I’m a big believer in showing yourself what’s possible. The biggest mistake that people make in manifestation is staying in their current energy, actions, and environment and waiting for big things to drop out of the sky. This is not how manifestation works: You have to start moving toward what you desire, sometimes in non-linear ways. Book the trip that you’ve been dying to take or spend a weekend at a hotel that you love to really shake things up. Buy that fancy perfume you’ve always wanted or redecorate your home into the palace of your dreams (of course, all within—I’m not telling you to spend your entire paycheck! You can start small and build up). The moral is to do whatever feels luxurious and expansive for you to inspire growth toward your desires. The more expansive you allow your life to get, the more you will see that you are stepping into an entirely new reality.

      6. Forgive yourself
      We spend far too much time in the space of regret. When you actually forgive yourself, you create more energetic space for good things to come in. I recommend laying down and putting your hand on the part of your body that feels full of emotion (whether it’s a metaphorical association like your heart or where you physically feel tension like raised shoulders). Then, allow those emotions to melt away. While you’re doing this, reaffirm that you love and forgive yourself. This can be very powerful for situations that feel deeply regretful—we are humans and are allowed to make mistakes. Let yourself feel those emotions and finally move on to the better things in life.

      7. Do something today that your future self would thank you for
      You will become the highest version of yourself that “has it all” by consistently taking mini action steps toward your dream life. Your dream life is laid brick by brick, so the more you “build,” the more you invite magical moments into your reality that you wouldn’t have anticipated otherwise. IMO, “waiting on life” is a fool’s game. Instead, reframe this to “Life is waiting on you.” Start acting like whoever your highest self is. What is their morning routine like? What do they eat? How do they approach meetings or dinner plans with friends? Start acting in those ways now rather than waiting for a dream job, dream group of friends, dream bank account, etc.

      8. Have fun
      No, seriously! Having fun acts like a magnet when it comes to attracting your desires. Often, when we feel stalled or stuck, we simply aren’t having enough fun. Sure, we’re meant to learn a lot of lessons and work hard for what we want, but the best part about being human is getting to enjoy the things that only humans can experience (like going on trips, eating delicious food, hosting parties, meeting new friends, laughing hard, being spontaneous, and planning adventures). I encourage you to make the decision to live. Learning to create joy, no matter what is happening in the world, is why we’re all here. Take advantage of your human existence (without feeling guilty)—I promise, it feels good.

      9. Get out of your comfort zone
      Get out of your comfort zone, and better yet, do something that scares you. It’s hard to receive more if you’re only doing what you already know. If you stay the way that you have always lived, how do you expect your life to change? Remember that living a bold, glorious life is also full of taking bold, glorious risks. The most successful people in the world are big risk takers. Believe in yourself and go for the gold. 

      10. Don’t take life too seriously
      We tend to take life far more seriously than we need to, and it creates a lot of stress and overthinking and less sound decision-making. For example, we often slip into being more offended than is needed by something someone said or did or judgmental about someone else’s life choices. Remember that people are just doing their best with the tools that they have and that their best may not be your version of their best. We’re all doing this thing called life together. Keep everything in perspective and it will feel far easier.

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      The 16 Best Mental Health Podcasts To Help You Cope With Anxiety, Depression, And More

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      Podcasts are incredibly popular these days, and there are so many to choose from. From politics to pop culture this type of audio entertainment covers almost everything you can think of and is a great way to pass the time and learn something new. But that’s not all it’s good for – mental health podcasts, in particular, can boost your emotional wellness and be an effective form of self-care.
      Shelby John, a clinical social worker who specialises in addiction, anxiety, and trauma, loves mental health podcasts because they are not only extremely accessible for most people, but they are also free. “The freedom to be able to listen to episodes whenever and wherever you want is incredible,” she says. “This allows people who maybe otherwise would not go to therapy or hire a coach to access knowledge and practical skills from professionals.”
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      The information you consume has a direct impact on how you behave, feel, and think, says Amy Morin, a therapist and the host of The Verywell Mind Podcast. “If you listen to podcasts that share stories, strategies, and tips that can improve your mental health, you can learn how to improve your psychological well-being,” she explains. “A podcast might affirm the information you already know, which can reassure you that you are on the right path. A podcast might also help you feel less alone. This is especially true if you hear stories and interviews with guests you can relate to. You might also learn new things or discover strategies you can try to reduce your anxiety or boost your mood.”
      Most mental health podcasts feature experts in a specific field, such as behavioral scientists, psychologists, therapists, or other types of pros with unique and helpful insights to share.
      How To Choose A Mental Health Podcast That Is Right For You
      The host will be your constant companion, so look for one whose personality and voice mesh well with you. You should also make sure the podcast you’re listening to is produced by a licensed and legitimate mental health care provider, advises Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Licensed Master Social Worker Kayleigh Parent. “Even then, just because someone is licensed does not mean they are competent or using evidence-based practices,” she says.
      Another factor to consider is whether you are part of the target audience. Of course, anyone can listen to any podcast, but you may be able to benefit more if you tune into ones that you feel a kinship with, whether it is because of the age group, ethnicity, gender identity, or mental health issue they address.
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      Know that many of the conversations that take place on podcasts are based on personal experience. The host and guests may touch on sensitive topics that trigger you. If you’re not comfortable with what will be discussed on a podcast (read those episode blurbs beforehand!), it may not be right for you.
      Remember: Podcasts are not a replacement for therapy. If you struggle with issues such as addiction, eating disorders, domestic violence, self-harm, suicide, or trauma, seek help from a medical professional.
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      5 Manifestation Hacks I Learned From Gabby Bernstein

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      Manifestation is not a new concept. The idea can be found in ancient practices and, more recently, the likes of the Law of Attraction and teachings by thought leaders like Gabby Bernstein (more on her below). If you’ve ever created a vision board, meditated, repeated affirmations, journaled about what you’re grateful for, or prayed, you’ve put into practice the principles behind manifesting. Call it woo-woo, but Oprah Winfrey swears by it (if it works for Lady O, it’ll work for me too, right?). 
      As somewhat of a newbie to manifestation, I looked to Gabby Bernstein, New York Times bestselling author, manifestation thought leader, international speaker, and podcaster, and her 2022 Manifesting Challenge to guide me through the practice. The first thing I learned was that the common misconception about manifesting is that you receive what you want with the snap of a finger. According to Bernstein, manifesting isn’t about controlling outcomes or attracting short-term goals like getting a promotion, finding “The One,” or buying the designer purse you’ve been saving up for. “True manifesting isn’t even about getting what we think we want. It’s about receiving what is of the highest good for all,” Bernstein explained. Ready to give it a shot? Read on for five hacks I learned from Gabby Bernstein on how to manifest your dream life (here’s to 2022!). 

      1. Be clear about what you want to attract
      The key to starting your manifesting journey is to clearly define what you want to bring into your life. There are no right or wrong answers here—the only requirement is that whatever you set your sights on, make sure it makes you feel good. “That good-feeling energy is what attracts your desires,” Bernstein said. Ask yourself what it is you want, and be specific. Is your heart set on buying a house? What does it look like and where do you see yourself living? If you’re a visual person like me, write down your specific goal(s) or create a vision board depicting it.
      Once you’ve decided what it is you want to manifest, determine your “why.” Why do you want that house? Is it because you’re ready to put down roots or because your friends are house hunting and you feel like you should too? Also, what good will come of buying a house and do you feel excited when thinking about buying a house? As much as you may want that house, Bernstein warned that you may be blocking your heart’s desire with feelings of unworthiness. Whether you feel undeserving or have the nagging thought of “this is too good to be true,” letting go of any mental and emotional hindrances is another important step of manifestation. “To truly manifest from a place of power, you must bring in positive energy,” Bernstein said.

      2. Your energy creates your reality 
      As the saying goes, “Like attracts like.” If we give off positive vibes, we’ll experience like-minded people and positive circumstances in return. But when we put out “low-vibe energy,” we attract negative experiences. The good news? Bernstein said that we can raise our vibration simply by being aware of our thoughts and making subtle shifts in our perception. The trick to flipping the script whenever we’re not feeling our best (read: negative energy) is noticing your thoughts and energy, forgiving yourself for having them, and consciously choosing “the next best-feeling thought.”
      For example, if you’re thinking, “I’m never going to find the right partner,” take a step back and ask yourself, “What is the best-feeling thought I can find right now?” Then, choose a thought that feels realistic and within reach (you’ve got to believe in it!): “I’ll join Bumble and set up my dating profile,” “I’m going to focus on self-love and doing things that bring me joy,” or “I’m grateful for the love I already have in my life.” To take it a step further, you can try creative visualization, which is picturing (in detail!) what you want. Imagine the life you’ll have with your partner and tune in to all the senses associated with it.  

      3. Trust the process
      You’ve established exactly what it is you want to manifest and you’re vibing at an all-time high. Now what? Remember, manifestation is not magic—you can’t make something you want appear instantly with a snap of a finger. It takes time and patience. Bernstein teaches us to surrender the outcome, let go of any feelings of control or resistance, and allow your manifestations to come into form. “When you make your happiness and sense of safety dependent on a specific outcome, you disconnect from all the infinite possibilities that could occur,” Bernstein explained. It’s easy to grow impatient and question whether manifestation works when you’ve put in the work but nothing seems to be happening or become fearful that something bad will happen if things don’t go as planned. When those thoughts and feelings start to come up, return to the practices above and commit to feeling good. 

      4. Lean toward joy and follow the fun
      Between work deadlines, family obligations, taking care of your home, and navigating relationships (#adulting), we’re constantly thinking about what’s next and playing the “I’ll be happy when…” game. Bernstein stressed that we’ve got it backwards. The most important step of manifestation is having fun. “By having fun and leaning toward joy, we manifest our desires with much less effort,” she said. “An energy of joy is the fastest way to achieve success.”
      When your “manifestations” aren’t going as planned, you may be tempted to give up. Instead, find ways to incorporate joy so much that you don’t want to give it up. Are you manifesting a new job? Sprinkle in walk breaks with your work wife at your current job. Are you trying to attract more wealth? Focus on the abundance already in your life and all the fun you’re already able to do with it (trying out new restaurants, going on quick getaways, shopping for a date night outfit, etc.). In other words, joy, excitement, and enjoyment are all signs you’re on the right path.

      5. Cultivate abundance for others in order to cultivate abundance for yourself
      When you think of the word “abundance,” you probably think of it in terms of receiving. But Bernstein suggested that giving is the fastest method to release an energy of lack. “Amplify your own abundance by doing something kind for someone else,” Bernstein recommended. Though simple, it’s one of the most powerful manifesting practices. Call a friend to see how they’re doing. Volunteer at your local dog rescue. Pay for the person behind you in the Starbucks drive-through line. “When you genuinely want others to be abundant, you expand your own ability to receive,” Bernstein explained. That goes for celebrating others’ successes, too. Bernstein reminded us that there is more than enough to go around. View their successes as a reflection of what you’re ready to receive. “Wanting more for others puts us into an energy of abundance because it feels good to want others to flourish.”

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      I Grilled a Top Los Angeles Trainer on Her Tips for a Better Workout Routine

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      The holidays have come and gone, and with them, so has my fitness routine (anyone with me?), leaving me in desperate need of some fresh workout tips. Even though it’s the beginning of the new year when everyone is hitting the gym, the mere thought of picking up a dumbbell has me looking for any excuse not to work out.
      As a fitness enthusiast who used to look forward to hitting a new squat or practicing my left hook, this less-than-enthusiastic-to-exercise energy has me feeling defeated (because all the #fitspo pics on Instagram aren’t doing the trick). So I turned to Los Angeles-based master trainer Cathy Prince to let me in on her hacks to getting out of a fitness rut and back in the workout saddle. Read on for her top five workout tips that will get you off the couch and breaking a sweat. 

      Meet the expert
      Cathy Prince
      Personal Training Manager at Equinox, Los Angeles
      A former actor, Prince is a top personal trainer at Equinox in Los Angeles. After being a top-tier coach, she was promoted to personal training manager. In addition to fitness, Prince has also been trained in behavior change, sleep coaching, and nutrition coaching.

      1. Set smaller, more attainable goals
      It’s that time of year for the obligatory New Year’s resolutions. You know the kind: lose weight, give up sugar, try Dry January. While you deserve lofty aspirations, you can also be setting yourself up for failure if your goals are too lofty. “Whatever your goal may be, break it down into smaller chunks that are more manageable and attainable. If you want to lose a total of 50 pounds, make your first target to lose five, then another five, and so on,” Prince suggested. “The feeling of success when you hit your smaller goals will motivate you to continue, so you’re more likely to reach your ultimate goal.”
      Aiming for micro goals that are more realistic can help you get past any mental obstacles (not to mention any lack of motivation) that could stand in your way. The small wins will set you up for success and give you the confidence to stick with it. Break up goals into weekly or monthly goals, like sprinting for an extra 30 seconds or lifting another five pounds, instead of focusing on an end goal.

      2. Find a source of accountability 
      Despite your best intentions, sometimes your lack of motivation takes over and the battle between couch vs. gym ends up in favor of—you guessed it—the couch. Enter: your accountability partner. Whether that looks like a non-refundable Pilates class, self-reward (I have my eye on a new Alo set), or a cause you care about (charity run, anyone?), find a strategy to stay accountable. Prince’s favorite trick to ensure she stays is to put money on the line (even if it is just pretend). “Schedule your workouts in advance and treat them as if you’re meeting a personal trainer who you’re paying $300 per hour to train with.”
      If mindset alone is not enough, enlist a friend who is down to invest in an online workout subscription with you or train with you for the 10K you have coming up. “If you don’t show up, you’re not only letting yourself down but also your friend,” Prince added. And just like you would a doctor’s appointment, work meeting, or GNO, mark your workouts in your calendar and make it a point to show up (for yourself). Bonus tip: Prince also said that scheduling in recovery (think: sleep, massages, a restorative yoga class, a gentle walk around your neighborhood) is just as important as the workout.  

      3. Choose a specific, measurable benchmark
      Sure, we all want to “get stronger” and “more fit,” but what that means to you is likely different from what it does to anyone else. Let’s say you want to improve your body-weight pull-up game. Setting a goal of doing three by the end of the month makes it more achievable since it’s more specific than “get stronger.” Looking to boost your back squats? Strive to up your weight by 10 pounds in two weeks. “Picking a specific performance benchmark will not only help focus your efforts but also measure your progress as you go,” Prince said.
      Having a plan for reaching your fitness goal lays a foundation that will create discipline and allow you to check in with yourself. But PSA: If you’re just shy of getting that third pull-up rep come Feb. 28 or not quite squatting that extra 10 pounds at the end of two weeks, that’s OK. Instead of beating yourself up for it, reevaluate your plan and readjust as needed. Your body should be your #1 guide, not the goals you set. 

      4. Drink up
      We all know we should drink more water, but do we actually do it? I’ll admit there are days I down more matcha lattes than I do water. But staying hydrated doesn’t have to be a dreaded chore. “Whether it has a cute pattern or motivational sayings on it, grab a reusable water bottle that will give you a nudge to drink up,” Prince suggested (anyone else taking that as an excuse to shop?).
      If you need some extra help in the hydration department, set a reminder on your phone every couple of hours, throw in a squeeze of lemon for some flavor, or track your water intake with an app like Waterlogged (yes, there’s an app for that). As for how much you should be drinking? Prince recommended shooting for a minimum of 50% of your total body weight in ounces (and upping that amount when you work out or eat more salt).

      5. Make your workout fun and challenging 
      I used to force myself to endure bike intervals for the muscles (and calorie burn) they promised. Today, that exercise won’t get me out of bed in the morning, so I won’t do it. Pilates classes and weightlifting are my go-to workouts because I find them enjoyable and challenging, not to mention that they make me feel strong and confident. “Find something you enjoy doing to make it easy for you to show up and do it on a regular basis,” Prince agreed. If you’re on the hunt for a fun workout that speaks to you and gives you a physical and mental boost, try a more complex activity like a dance class, a yoga class that centers you, or a community-based run club. “The ultimate goal is to be present in your workout,” Prince added. Take that as your sign that your workout routine needs to feel like self-care in order to actually be self-care. Choose exercise accordingly. 

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      17 Unromantic Signs This Person Might Be ‘The One’

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      Everything from the classic love affair in Pride and Prejudice to the will-they-or-won’t-they drama of Ross and Rachel teaches us that love is supposed to be extraordinary, make it impossible to sleep or eat, and always ends with a “happily ever after.” As much as rom-coms and the Twilight Saga would have us believe, romance is not actually always about flowers and love poems or grand gestures and public declarations when you find “the one.”
      In real life, the rom-com doesn’t end at the “I do” scene, but it keeps going: through paying bills and tax season, through toddlers and newborns preventing your sleep for days, and through terrifying health scares, boring daily chores, and deaths of the people you love.
      The one you choose to spend forever with is not just your personal romantic comedy—it’s the most important interview of your life. A happy life is about more than love letters and PDA, so you better make sure there’s more to your relationship too. Here are 17 signs the person you’re with might be “the one” that have absolutely nothing to do with butterflies, grand gestures, or romance.

      1. You don’t have to pretend to be interested in them or wish they would be more interested in you
      It’s likely that you and your partner will have many different interests—in fact, you should, or else dating another you would just be boring! You may not always be interested in their passion or hobbies, but you’ll want to learn more because you know how much it matters to them, and you’ll genuinely want to be able to share what they love. You also won’t have to pretend you don’t love broadway musicals as much as you actually do or feel like you can never talk about the latest fashion trends that you know your partner couldn’t care less about—they’ll want to love everything you love and talk about everything you want to talk about.

      2. Errands are kind of… fun
      Going to the grocery store, picking up prescriptions at the pharmacy, and cleaning the house are all part of the mundane routine we have to keep up with through the rest of our lives (sounds depressing, doesn’t it?). But when you do it together, there’s something inherently fun and enjoyable about the tasks that are usually mundane and tedious. Something about your partner makes even the boring feel fun and the average seem exciting.

      3. You don’t have to think twice about asking them for help
      Whether it’s to pick you up from the airport, unclog your drain, or give you advice on a problem you need their perspective on, you don’t have to think about asking your partner for help—you just do it. You trust their opinion, their advice, and their desire to care for you without having to question it for a minute.

      Source: @jessiebbernhardt

      4. They’ll pick up your slack without being asked
      Maybe you came home to your clean laundry that they just threw in with a load of theirs or they bought you a new face serum from CVS when you mentioned you ran out a couple of days ago. It’s more than just the household chores the two of you divide up—it’s the little things they don’t have to do but do just to make your life a little easier and your day a little better.

      5. You can share annoyance, anger, and doubt without worrying about their reaction
      There are absolutely no more deal breakers, and you know it—you can be in a horrible mood without feeling like they’ll think less of you or not want to be around you, and you know they’ll be supportive of your feelings before being defensive of their own if you experience any doubts along the way. You can be more honest with them than you’ve ever been because bigger than anything you’ll ever say or do, you both have a shared understanding that you’re in this life together.

      6. You both have your own thing
      Whether it’s Bachelor Mondays with the girls, painting classes, or hiking trips a couple times a year, you’re both supportive of the other pursuing their own interests and having their own time alone. Time apart doesn’t make either of you insecure, and you should feel like your partner supports you pursuing your passions over their own needs. Plus, you’ll be so excited to tell them about your time apart, whether it’s to rehash the latest gossip between your friends or what you learned in painting class (remember #1?).

      Source: Ron Lach | Pexels

      7. They’ll ask about your day every day
      Perhaps one of the most important pieces of advice I’ve ever received is to be with someone who will ask about your day every day and—wait for it—actually want to hear about it. If the first thing they do when they get home or the first thing they ask when they call is “how was your day?” every single day, you’ve found one of the good ones. Trust me.

      8. You can look at them and, for no reason at all, they make you laugh
      The best friendships are the ones that make you silly for no reason at all—where you just can’t stop laughing, right? If you’re going to spend your life with someone, it better be the best friendship you’ve ever had. If your partner brings out your silliest self and can make you laugh at nothing, you know they’re going to keep you laughing when things get hard, boring, or mundane. Life should be about enjoyment—make a lifelong commitment with someone who brings out the most fun in you.

      9. Bodily functions don’t make you blink
      You should be able to complain about your heavy flow or let out an *accidental* bodily function post-Taco Bell without it feeling like the end of the world. In fact, when you start doing gross things like shave their back or have them pop your pimples (it gets real) and you’re still just as turned on by each other as ever, that’s when you know.

      10. You can talk openly about money
      Besides just being a crucial conversation to have with the person you’re going to be spending your life with, if you’re able to talk about such a tough topic, it’s a good sign that you trust each other. While nothing is less sexy than the money talk (except maybe shaving that back hair), if you can share your financial past, goals, and current habits openly and honestly and you two share financial values similar enough that you don’t go into anaphylactic shock when you hear about theirs, you probably have a pretty strong foundation.

      Source: Ron Lach | Pexels

      11. They call you out when you need to be called out
      “The One” will be the person who is fully dedicated to helping you live your fullest, best, happiest life. This means that they will check you on your destructive habits and hold you accountable when no one else would. They’ll be honest with you—for the sake of making you better, not for the sake of putting you down. They’ll also stand by you, encourage you, and support you when you’re working through issues or going through hard times without any judgment.

      12. Your PDA is less PDA-y
      You don’t necessarily need to go make out on a park bench like you’re teenagers or feel the need to post collages on Instagram with paragraph-long captions about your oh-so-perfect relationship to celebrate every monthiversary. Instead of overt PDA, you display affection by mere accident—exchanging smirks across the room or holding hands under the table. Instead of the public make outs, fondling, or displaying your love all over social media, you publicly tease each other, brag about each other’s accomplishments, and maybe steal a kiss or hug when you don’t think anyone is looking.

      Source: @sassyredlipstick

      13. Date nights out are great, but you have the most fun at home
      When you can sneak away for a night out, of course it’s fun to dress up and go somewhere new or exciting. But if we’re being honest and if we’ve found The One, the most fun “date nights” are sitting at home with a bottle of Trader Joe’s wine, laughing at The Office, talking for hours, or playing the same card game—again. The things that would sound boring to anyone else are the things you find yourself preferring over those fancy dates.
      Anyone can get in the mood for romance when fancy clothing and candlelight are involved, but when it’s just the two of you, with sweatpants and take-out, and it’s somehow the best night ever, you know you could do it for the rest of your life.

      14. You’ve developed your own language no one else can understand
      If your daily conversations are laced with inside jokes or you consistently refer back to movie quotes or moments that will have you both dying with laughter, this person will certainly have you laughing the rest of your life. You share more than the same life and relationship—you share the same humor, and that can make all the difference in the length of a lifetime.

      Source: @hikarimurakami

      15. At the worst times, you want them there
      For most of your past relationships or crushes, it’s likely that they’re the last person you would’ve wanted to be present when you’re hunched over the toilet with food poisoning or crying in your room with a bad panic attack—so embarrassing! But if this partner is the right one, you’ll find yourself calling them when you’re having a panic attack or wishing they were there when you’re really sick (and not just because you know they’d clean up your vomit). Maybe you’ve even considered putting them down as your emergency contact—you know that when anything bad is happening, you’ll feel more comforted and protected with them there.

      16. You don’t question or second guess how they act when you’re not around
      When a friend’s Bachelor/Bachelorette party in Vegas comes up, you don’t feel a pit in your stomach or worry they won’t behave; you’ll just be excited to hear the funny stories when they get home. You also don’t doubt that as nice and wonderful as they are to you is exactly how they act when you’re not around too. You believe with all your heart that however they act, out in the world—whether it’s to other girls or people they don’t have to be nice to like waiters or servers—they treat all other people with the utmost respect and graciousness and will always do you proud.

      17. No matter what mistakes you make or how bad you look, you know they’ll still think of you the same
      In the end, you can be your truest self knowing that’s the you that they love the most. You can make a mistake or say something mean, and they’ll still think the world of you. You can wear second-day leggings and not wash your hair for four days and know they’ll still look at you the same as when you’re in a fancy dress with a blowout. The most romantic moments of our lives are often what happens in the most unromantic times—the bad times, the hard times, the gross times, the lazy times, and the boring times. The One will still see you in those times just as they would in the best times.
      Find the person who loves you for exactly whatever you are—good, bad, grumpy, bloated, messy, scattered, anxious, unfiltered—and to use the quote from Juno that taught me the most about love: “The right person will still think the sun shines out your ass.” Now that’s romantic.

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