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      Don’t Let Swimsuit Anxiety Ruin Your Summer—Here are 5 Ways to Love Your Body More

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      When you get that first taste of 70-degree days at the end of spring, the excitement of summer begins to build. But it’s also the time of year when I start to become more aware of my body. Through fall and winter, I live blissfully free of the anxious feelings surrounding what my body looks like. But like clockwork, as soon as the warm weather hits, bathing suit anxiety sinks in. Quite frankly, I am over it.
      Bathing suit anxiety is bigger than just not feeling confident in a bikini. The truth is that the way we view our bodies can have a serious impact on how we live our lives, and developing a positive relationship with our bodies is important for our well-being. According to the Dove Global Beauty and Confidence Report, women and girls are more likely to opt out of important life activities when they don’t feel good about the way they look, and 17% of women claim they won’t even go to a job interview when they’re not feeling good about their appearance.
      We’ve grown up in an era where talk of having a “summer body” is common jargon, but every body is a summer body. Despite what we may have been told, doing workouts you don’t enjoy or trying trendy diet plans isn’t the path to loving your body more. To have an anxiety-free summer, we have to learn to love our bodies by going inward, and these are the steps to take that will help you get there. 

      1. Connect to your body
      Like most things in life, it’s hard to connect with something we don’t fully understand, and your body is one of them. Our bodies do amazing things for us every single day: They allow us to move, breathe, nourish, and pleasure ourselves, yet we often don’t notice it. There are a lot of different ways to connect to our bodies and appreciate them more. One way is through the breath: Breathing is something we do subconsciously (thank you, body!), but taking time every day to scan the body and notice how breath moves through the body can be so powerful. This practice allows you to further understand your emotions, lets you notice where you feel things in the body, and helps you develop a stronger connection to it.
      Another fun way is through self-pleasure. Masturbating means you value yourself enough to give yourself pleasure and reminds you that you deserve pleasure. It can be one of the most powerful ways to show your mind that your body is beautiful and worthy of love. If you don’t already, start incorporating masturbation into your routine. The best way to develop self-love is by practicing it.

      2. Find a workout you love
      If you dread waking up every morning to go to your workout class, why are you going? Exercise does not have to be (and should not be) something you dread doing. There are so many forms of workouts available to us today, from online classes in the comfort of your home, running groups, spin, pilates, yoga, boxing—the list goes on and on. Similar to food or taste in clothes, not everyone will like the same things and it takes time to find what you enjoy. Moving your body and breaking a sweat should be fun; after all, exercise releases endorphins. Our bodies feel good after we exercise (while maybe a little sore), and changing our mindset around working out to be viewed as something we look forward to will help us love and appreciate our bodies even more.

      3. Change the narrative
      For a long time now, women have been told that they have to look a certain way to be happy, find love, and be successful. So it’s no wonder we have anxiety around what our body looks like. We have to unlearn everything we were taught early on and relearn what body positivity is; we have to change the narrative. Sometimes, this can involve real inner work with a therapist to look at why we don’t love our body or internally replacing critiques with compliments, but no matter where you are on your self-love journey, there are some simple steps you can take to create a healthier narrative around your body. 
      The moment you have those negative thoughts about what your body looks like, push them out. Give yourself a list of affirmations to resort to whenever you are not feeling great about the way your body looks. Some examples are, “I am worthy of love in this body,” “I am beautiful,” or “I deserve to be happy in this body.” Tell yourself over and over again how much you love this body until you start to believe it.

      4. Wear clothes that make you feel good
      Fashion is a great way to boost your confidence, but there are also times when clothes can make us feel less than great about ourselves. Get rid of any item in your closet that doesn’t make you feel good when you wear it, whether it’s because it is uncomfortable, no longer fits right, or doesn’t make you confident. Every time you get dressed this summer, choose clothes that make you look in the mirror and say, “I love my body.” It’s the same when shopping for swimsuits or dresses: Choose items that make you feel good and will not have you worrying about the way you look. Fun fact: I only buy high-cut swimsuits now, after years of being miserable in low-cut ones. Fashion should only ever make you feel better about your body, and if it’s doing the opposite, it’s not doing its job. 

      5. Cleanse your social feed
      Your social feed is yours and no one else’s. It should be a place you go to feel inspired, laugh, and be entertained. If you feel worse every time you close an app, it’s time to cleanse your feed. It’s time to say goodbye to those workout videos that make you feel like you’re not “toned” enough or the supermodels and celebrities who have you thinking twice about how you look. If these posts are making you feel worse, it’s not worth it.
      Instead, build your feed with accounts that inspire you, motivate you, and make you laugh. Find one account you love and build from there. You can even make it a habit to cleanse your feed once a month, so if anything negative makes its way in, you can quickly remove it. If the apps altogether are too much, try taking a break for a little while. Social media has a strong impact on our mental health and the way we view our bodies—make sure it is a positive tool for self-love and not the opposite.

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      The Summer Wellness Trend You Should Try, Based on Your Enneagram

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      As a new season fast approaches–one filled with warmer weather, beach days, and hopefully a few long weekend getaways–it’s the perfect time to switch up your wellness routine and add something new to the mix. Wellness trends have been popping up everywhere (#grateful that TikTok introduced us to the Hot Girl Walk back in 2021 and YouTube showed us the 12-3-30 workout that had everyone running to buy a treadmill). The list of wellness trends to try is endless and continues to grow, but not every trend will be the right one for you. To make it easier, we’ve broken down the hottest summer wellness trends and picked out which one you should try based on your enneagram.

      CBD Oil
      Type Ones are all about getting things done. They are purposeful, self-controlled, and rational, and while they are known to excel at the office, they may need a little extra help relaxing and chilling out, which is why CBD oil is the perfect trend for a Type One. Whether you’re adding a few drops to your morning coffee or taking a roller on the go, CBD oil is perfect for helping to ease the nerves and relax a little during high-stress moments. Everyone needs a little help in managing stress, but especially for a Type One, CBD will be their new best friend.
      To try our favorite, use code THEEVERYGIRL for 20% off your first order!

      Facial Massage
      Type Twos are known to be very caring and generous, but it’s time to put some of that care back onto themselves. The perfect wellness trend for a Type Two involves a little indulgence and pampering, like giving yourself a facial massage. Invest in an ice roller, gua sha tool, or a jade roller, and set aside some time each week for a facial massage. Not only will it feel incredibly relaxing, but these tools can also help with lymphatic drainage, puffiness, and wrinkles. Talk about a win-win!

      12-3-30 Workout
      Type Threes value wellness activities that make them feel good and challenge them to better themselves. As a driven and success-oriented Type Three, the ever-popular 12-3-30 workout is an easy choice for their fitness routine. The workout involves setting a treadmill to a 12 percent incline and walking at 3 miles per minute for 30 minutes. It may sound easy, but do not be fooled–this workout can be intense. Type Threes will love incorporating it into their new routine and feel accomplished after completing the workout and seeing their progress. 

      Guided Journaling
      Type Fours can be sensitive and withdrawn while still being expressive. This combination makes guided journaling the perfect wellness trend for them. It is a creative practice that allows them to express their inner thoughts and emotions in a safe place, with equal parts guidance and imagination. There are many different types of guided journals available: The Five-Minute Journal, gratitude journals, or even Q&A journals, which ask introspective questions. Type Fours will be eager to try out this creative wellness trend. 

      Adaptogens
      As the perceptive and innovative one of the group, Type Fives are known for being curious and willing to try new things. Adaptogens (the plant-based herb known for reducing stress) are right up their alley. While this wellness trend has been circling on Instagram and TikTok for quite some time now, it has roots in Traditional Chinese Medicine and Ayurvedic healing traditions. Try adding the powder to juices and smoothies, or find in a tea form as well.

      Meditation App
      The best wellness trend for a Type Six is a meditation app. Sixes are known to be security-oriented, responsible, and sometimes anxious. Creating a meditation practice will help any Six remove anxious feelings and incorporate more zen into their life. There are so many meditation apps to choose from–Headspace, Unplug, SuperHuman–and each one has lots of options for any situation (walking meditations, sleep meditations, five-minute meditations, etc.). Start a 30-day challenge and see how it goes.

      Digital Detox
      Type Sevens are busy, spontaneous, and sometimes a little scattered. With the chaos of day-to-day life, a digital detox is just what they need to unwind and relax. Taking a break from all social media platforms for a week or simply unplugging for an hour every night before bed will do wonders for a Type Seven. In a world that is deeply attached to technology, unplugging for a period of time can have vast benefits on sleep and mental well-being. 

      Cold Therapy
      Type Eights are powerful, willful, and not afraid to back down from a challenge. So naturally, something challenging like cold therapy is a great fit for their confident spirit. There are different ways to practice cold therapy, like plunging into a cold pool or shower or in a cryo-chamber, but either way, cold therapy can boost the metabolism and help reduce inflammation, swelling, and sore muscles. This wellness trend is an intense practice and can have great results, but it’s important to make sure it is done safely, so talk to your doctor about the best cold therapy methods for you.

      Hot Girl Walk
      As the easy-going, agreeable, and receptive type, a Hot Girl Walk was made for Nines. The premise of a Hot Girl Walk is that each day you go for a walk outside for about one hour, and you think about three things: What you are grateful for, what you want to achieve, and lastly, how hot you are (duh!). They are simple and a great way to get into a positive, healthy mindset. The Hot Girl Walk was coined by TikToker Mia and is a wellness trend made for those warm summer days ahead.

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      On Your Period? Here’s a Self-Care Guide for That Time of the Month

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      It’s that time of the month when cramps, bloating, fatigue, and other unglamorous symptoms rear their ugly heads. That’s right–I’m talking about what Cher Horowitz refers to as “surfing the crimson wave” (see: Clueless), otherwise known as being on your period. The good news? With some TLC for your mind and body, you can turn the dreaded week into an opportunity to tune in to yourself and your needs and just go with the flow (pun intended). Read on for period self-care practices to incorporate during the week of your menstruation to honor, celebrate, and get in touch with your body.
       
      1. Nourish your body with iron-rich foods
      You’ve likely heard of cycle-syncing, or making lifestyle adjustments according to your hormonal fluctuations that occur throughout the month. In other words, The Cycle Syncing Method® suggests changing up your routine to support your body’s needs based on the different phases of your menstrual cycle.
      During your period (AKA the menstrual phase), your hormone levels drop, leaving you feeling anything but energetic. Now is the time to load your plate with nutrient-dense and iron-rich foods and ensure you’re consuming enough calories. For protein sources, think wild salmon, beef, chicken, or turkey. Vegan or vegetarian? No problem! Stock up on lentils, chickpeas, or pinto beans. And we can’t forget veggies, of course. Consider dark, leafy greens like spinach, chard, and kale to be your best friends this week. Finally, add herbs and spices like turmeric, ginger, and cinnamon, to your dishes for a boost of anti-inflammatory goodness.

      2. Stay hydrated  
      You know that motivational water bottle you’ve been saying you need to get (because a little encouragement never hurts)? Well, now’s the time to “Add to cart” (Amazon Prime FTW) because hydration is key, especially during this stage. Give your coffee maker (or barista, if we’re being honest) a break this week, and swap your cup of joe for non-caffeinated teas, such as red raspberry leaf tea. Red raspberry leaf is packed with nutrients, including vitamins A, C, and E, as well as calcium, iron, and potassium. Still not convinced? A study showed that red raspberry leaves may reduce the menstrual cramping caused by the spasms of pelvic muscles (excuse me while I go clear out Whole Foods’ entire inventory of raspberry leaf tea). 
       
      3. Go easy on your workouts
      Ever notice how enticing your bed becomes with the onset of your period? While cozying up in bed all week isn’t realistic (a girl can dream), listen to your body and avoid putting your body through any strenuous exercise. Hit pause on your HIIT workouts, marathon training, or any Rocky-inspired sessions. Instead, opt for lighter, low-impact forms of exercise, like walking, stretching, Pilates, or restorative yoga. Or get your endorphins going while soaking up Vitamin D by heading outdoors for a low-key hike, jog, or swim. Sure, staying active during your period has many benefits, like lessening fatigue and mood swings, but if you’re feeling especially drained, there’s nothing wrong with taking a rest day or two. 

      4. Schedule time in your calendar for R&R
      When you’re accustomed to a fast-paced, go-go-go lifestyle, it can be hard—even uncomfortable—to allow yourself to rest. You may be used to pulling a 6o-hour work week or double-booking your calendar, but this week is not the time to go full speed ahead. Rather, take the week to slow down and make time for yourself. Lighten your schedule with fewer work meetings and social obligations; block off time to take a warm bath or get a massage; get sexy if you’re up for it, or romance yourself with some self-love if sex isn’t in the cards; step outside and connect to the earth through grounding; and optimize your Zzz’s by keeping your bedroom cool and resisting that “just one more episode” urge. 

      5. Let go of what may be holding you back
      Just as the uterus sheds its lining during the week of your period, it’s time to self-reflect and release anything that’s no longer serving you, whether it be people, habits, beliefs, or a job. According to Alisa Vitti, the creator of The Cycle Syncing Method®, this phase is the optimal time to evaluate your life and process your reflections because your level of clarity and intuition is at its peak. What can you let go of that’s keeping you from being your highest self? And by doing so, what can you create space for? Try implementing journaling, manifestation, or meditation to guide you toward living your best life. 

      6. Consider alternative menstrual products
      As convenient as tampons are, they’re not budget or eco-friendly, and using them seems counterintuitive when the point is to release and let it flow. With many innovative and sustainable substitutes to traditional period products available today, making the switch has never been easier. Before your “Flo” comes around again, consider reaching for feminine care alternatives like period underwear, menstrual cups, or menstrual discs. And if you find yourself in a pinch and scrambling to the nearest drugstore (we’ve all been there) or you just prefer to use tampons, go the organic route (sans chemical additives). Because being mindful of your body and the planet doesn’t have to be mutually exclusive. 

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      5 Things We ALL Do To Avoid Germs, That Are Actually Useless AF

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      Ah, the world pre-Covid. Where we needed to be reminded by a new study that public places are completely covered with bacteria. Health alert! And if the pandemic taught us anything, it’s how to avoid germs – or at least try. But do any of these germ hacks actually reduce your exposure to nastiness? We spoke with microbiologist Philip Tierno about some of the more worthless (sorry) germ-fighting manoeuvres.
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      1. Using Your Foot To Flush The Toilet
      Unless you can figure out how to open and lock the bathroom stall door handle – a major germ zone – without using your hands, expect to leave the stall with contaminated paws anyway. Using a tissue to get in and out of the stall may help, but your best bet is to thoroughly wash your hands with soap and warm water after relieving yourself and use a paper towel or your elbow to exit the restroom.
      2. Holding Your Breath When Someone Nearby Sneezes
      “Unless you can hold your breath for a really long time, this isn’t going to help,” says Tierno, since those little respiratory germ droplets can linger in the air. But if you can hold your breath and run in the other direction (without, you know, offending your sneezing boss in a meeting) you might be spared, as saliva and mucus droplets can only travel up to 1.5 metres or so.
      READ MORE: What General Health Checks You Should Be having, According to Your Age
      3. Wiping The Lid Of A Shared Drink
      This tactic’s just so-so. “It is somewhat helpful, since you’re cutting down on some of the salivary secretions, but there’s nothing foolproof here,” says Tierno. Even a good wipe could leave behind strep or the stomach flu, which is never worth a single swig. Lie and say you have a cold if someone else is asking to try your drink.
      4. Putting Gloves On To Touch the ATM
      Germs will transfer to your gloves and not your fingers… for the moment. But the minute you use your hands to pull off your gloves (or touch your gloves to your face), you’re back in contact with those nasties, says Tierno. The good news: most cold and flu germs die off after a day, so as long as you lay your gloves out to dry (anything wet is a breeding ground for bacteria), you won’t carry around a cesspool of bacteria day after day.
      READ MORE: What Is Holotropic Breathwork—And What Can It Do For Your Mental Health?
      5. Hovering Over The Toilet Seat
      Who wants to put their bare ass where thousands of other bare asses have been before? Nobody. But pressing your cheeks against that cold porcelain really doesn’t raise your risk for infection, says Tierno. “People worry about STDs, but they don’t thrive in that environment – and the seat would have to be crazy contaminated (visible grossness like poo and vomit) for you to somehow get sick.” Hovering can, however, raise the risk of splash-back (that terrible sensation of being splashed by toilet bowl water), and we can confirm that’s very gross.
      The bottom line: your best germ-fighting plan is to wash your hands (heck, soap up twice), use hand sanitiser, keep your hands away from your eyes, nose and mouth and steer clear of sniffly germ perpetrators.

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      I Tried Jennifer Aniston’s Favorite Salad—Here Are My Thoughts

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      As a regular content consumer, I’ll admit that I’m easily influenced by most products on the internet. And when it comes to convenient, nutritious recipes splashed across my feeds, you bet I’m writing down the ingredients and running to the nearest grocery store. So it should come as no surprise that when I discovered the Jennifer Aniston salad, it was an immediate “I must make this now” situation.
      You see, I was watching an excessive number of YouTube videos (anyone else obsessed with Vogue’s celebrity makeup tutorials?) when I saw a video recommended for me titled something along the lines of “I ate like the Friends cast for a day.” A “what I ate in a day” video combined with an iconic TV show? Intrigued is an understatement. In the video, I watched as the creator made this delicious-looking bulgur salad and reported that this was what Jennifer Aniston, Courtney Cox, and Lisa Kudrow ate together for lunch every day on set for 10 years. I’m not sure I’ve ever committed to anything for that long, so obviously this salad had to be good. I’m never going to turn down the chance to try a new recipe—especially one that came from Jennifer Aniston herself.
      As I scoured the internet for an exact recipe, I learned that this salad was not in fact the one the Friends actors ate for 10 years (that, allegedly, was a doctored up Cobb salad). This salad, now known as the Jennifer Aniston salad, was what she shared when she did a takeover for Living Proof in 2015 showcasing a day in her life, including her meals. Regardless, that didn’t deter me from trying this at home, and here’s how you can too. 

      Source: Eating Bird Food

      How to make the Jennifer Aniston salad  
      Assembling the salad is pretty straightforward. I used this recipe and its measurements, but there are plenty of variations online. First, cook your bulgur according to the package directions. Bulgur is a hearty whole grain with a texture similar to rice. From personal experience, bulgur can be hard to track down at the grocery store, so I think that any other whole grain such as quinoa, brown rice, or farro would work well here. While the bulgur is cooking, chop your red onion, mini cucumbers, mint, parsley, and pistachios. Once the bulgur is finished and cooled, it’s just a matter of throwing all the prepared ingredients together, topping it with a can of drained chickpeas, feta cheese, olive oil, lemon juice, salt, and pepper. Toss the salad together and there you have it! 

      My review as a registered dietician
      Upon first bite, I was genuinely impressed. I would never have thought of pairing pistachios and mint together in a salad, but both flavors worked really well together. The veggies gave a nice crunch, and the simple dressing of lemon juice and olive oil kept the salad feeling fresh and light. I ended up having seconds and then a few more bites after because it was just that good. I know this wasn’t the exact salad that the cast of Friends ate for 10 years, but that doesn’t mean I wouldn’t eat it every day for lunch.
      I was originally interested in making this salad because not only did it seem super easy, but it’s also a filling, plant-based meal. The veggies and bulgur pack a fibrous punch, the olive oil and pistachios provide heart-healthy fats, and the chickpeas make a great plant-based protein source. Plus, if you want to make it completely vegan, you can omit the feta or use a plant-based cheese instead.
      What I really loved about this salad (aside from the fact that Jennifer Aniston eats it) is that it is completely customizable. While I love all the ingredients as is, I could also switch out the bulgur for a different grain, add additional spices, or throw in some more veggies. Given how easy it is to make ahead of time, it also makes for a great meal prep dish to add to your weekly rotation. 

      The final verdict
      It truly makes me wonder if the secret to Jennifer Aniston’s glowing success is healthy hacks like throwing together this salad. While I don’t think eating this salad daily or even weekly is going to turn me into her, a girl can dream, right? Regardless, I am definitely recommending this salad to everyone I know for an easy, nutrient-dense, meal prep recipe.

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      How to Have a Better Relationship, According to Your Enneagram

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      Let’s be real: Relationships can be complicated. The good news? They don’t have to be. Thanks to the Enneagram, we can show up as our best and most authentic selves in our relationships while better understanding ourselves and our other halves, no matter how different they are. And the result is deeper connection, mutual respect, and empathy. Grab your partner and read on to learn the strengths, differences, and motivations of each Enneagram type and find out where you fit. 

      Type Ones are great in relationships because they always have a sense of their priorities. It’s rare you’ll meet a Type One who doesn’t have a grasp on what it is they want in a relationship and where you fall in line with their other duties and identities. They’re also known for being faithful, helpful, and dedicated in relationships, meaning you can expect them to be all-in. 
      On the other side, Ones are known for being perfectionists, which can mean they’re critical and have overly high expectations of a partner. Type Ones should be aware of their expectations and work on finding a medium with their partner. Instead of expecting your partner to have the dishes done when you get home (without asking first) or wondering why they haven’t asked about your weekend plans yet, ask for what you want. I know, this goes against basically everything in your nature as a Type One, but unless your partner can read minds (we’re all jealous), there’s no way for them to know what you want and, in turn, meet your expectations. 

      The Helper is all about doing what they can for their loved ones. They know how to make you feel loved and appreciated, and they’re great at validating the feelings of others (even if it means doubting their own). 
      Because Type Twos are so focused on what the other person wants or needs, they often struggle to get their own needs met in a relationship. Instead of worrying about what your partner wants for dinner or how they’re feeling after a fight, ask for what you need. If your feelings were hurt or you feel like they’re not taking your ideas into consideration, this is your chance to tell them how you feel and exactly how they can support you too. A relationship goes both ways, and because a Two is so focused on their partner, they often forget to prioritize their needs too. 
      Twos can also be possessive at times, causing them to show an excess of love to their partner in an attempt to woo them or keep them in their lives. Talk to your partner about how they personally want to feel love (might we suggest the Love Languages test?) so you can give them exactly what they want too.

      If you’re familiar with Love Languages, Threes almost always feel loved through words of affirmation. They like knowing their partner is proud of their achievements, whether it’s something big, such as a promotion at work, or small, like finding the best new restaurant for date nights. Threes love to feel appreciated, and because of this, they enjoy giving to their partner too. 
      Because Threes put so much of their worth into their career, they often bring that into relationships. Talking about work over dinner, being absentminded when you’re together, and putting your work-related stress onto your partner can make your partner feel like they’re not as important to you as your career. To combat this, create work-free times with your partner. Much like some of us are with our cell phones (guilty), Threes can often be that way about their career. Give yourself two hours when you’re out to dinner or just catching up on Bridgerton where you occupy yourself with your partner. No work, all play. 

      Fours are known for being creative, but in relationships, they are playful, fun, and spirited. They are open to new experiences and love getting to share their creativity and passion with someone else. They are typically emotional and have a strong idea of who they are. In relationships, this means they’re romantic and intuitive. They love sending love notes, cards, and gifts to their loved ones, and they feel loved when their partner understands and compliments their self-expression (such as their art!). 
      In a relationship, a Four can be a little overbearing at times. They can be moody and have a hard time separating their emotions from their day-to-day lives. As a Four, it is important to remind your partner that they aren’t to blame for your emotions. Fours do not like being called overdramatic or being told they’re overreacting in a situation; therefore, it’s important to talk with your partner about your emotions instead of closing them off. You don’t have to be alone with your feelings!

      Fives love to approach situations with data on hand. They’re natural teachers who observe their surroundings and analyze situations deeply before committing or speaking up. Unlike Fours, they take time alone to process and understand their emotions before acting on them, which can make a partner think they’re uninterested or uninterrupted by a conflict (which isn’t usually the case). They have a thirst for knowledge and love to learn, making them a great companion for intellectual dates, such as going to new exhibitions, museums, libraries, and events in your city. 
      In their quest for knowledge, Fives can seem somewhat withdrawn or even contentious or irritated with a partner. While they are generally introverted and prefer to stay in, they can get frustrated when a partner always wants to pull them out of their comfort zone. Similar to Type Three, create times with your partner to discuss your lives without judgment. Your partner wants to know what you’re learning and what is interesting to you at the moment, so don’t be afraid to geek out about your latest project. They love that side of you too!

      We all know Sixes are all about commitment, making them perfect for long-term relationships. They’re loyal and feel content knowing their relationships are safe and secure. They can be introverted and extroverted, so they’re easy to open up to but also to have fun with. Helping others is important to a Six, and they feel irresponsible when they think they haven’t fulfilled that duty. They are also independent, so they’re able to do their own thing once in a while without worrying about their partner.
      Sixes are some of the most trustworthy people; however, they’re not quick to trust others themselves. This can make them seem self-conscious, nervous, and even defensive in relationships where the other person doesn’t feel trusted or accepted. Trusting another person is hard at first, but it takes being confident in yourself and your relationship to get you there. Spend some time every day focusing on building up your own self-confidence. You can’t be the best version of yourself with a partner if you’re constantly worrying about how you look or if they still like you (you look great, and, yes, they do!). Then, start building trust by allowing yourself to be vulnerable at times. Open up to your partner about your insecurities in the relationship, and discuss from there.

      The adventurers of the Enneagram, Sevens are all about a party. They’re upbeat and positive, knowing how to find the good in most situations. They almost always seem happy and carefree, which can sometimes seem stressful to a partner who’s another type. 
      Although Sevens are the life of the party, they can also seem narcissistic and distracted in relationships. They have a short attention span, which is great for having fun but stressful for discussing issues in a relationship. We know it’s hard, but Sevens, you have to slow down. Allow your partner to get serious every once in a while. Being an optimist doesn’t have to mean you never discuss negativity or the stress and anxiety each other goes through. However, make sure you’re letting your partner speak up. While they certainly love your center-of-attention personality, they also want to feel understood and heard too.

      Eights are confident and outgoing, but this can also manifest itself as arrogance and competition. They are natural leaders who view life’s challenges as exciting, and they’re never afraid of conflict. When issues arise in a relationship, they’re the first to be honest and ready to discuss what’s going on with their partner. 
      A reminder to Eights: It’s OK to show your vulnerable side. Eights feel like they have to have everything together all the time, and they can’t share the tender side of themselves without getting angry or frustrated first. To make this easier, practice active listening with your partner. No more trying to come up with a response before the other person is even finished (as an Eight, I totally understand this!). Listen to your partner as they speak, and empathize with whatever they’re going through, no matter how big or small it may seem to you. You’ll be able to relate to them on a deeper level while also prioritizing some quality time.

      Nines can often be mistyped as Twos because they are overly accommodating in relationships and can be people-pleasers. However, what makes them different from Twos is their drive to keep harmony and peace in their relationships. Known as the peacemakers, they are active listeners and sensitive to other people’s emotions. 
      Nines will do anything to avoid conflict, which can sometimes cause situations to never reach a solution (the opposite of Eights!). Instead of your usual, speak up about what’s going on with you and your partner. Whether it’s about your sex life, someone forgetting to take out the trash, or something bigger, be honest with your partner about how you’re feeling and what’s going on. Remember that not all conflict has to be disruptive; there is such a thing as productive conflict. 

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      The Everygirl’s Summer of Wellness Checklist—15 Ways To Have Your Healthiest Summer Ever

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      Whether it’s barbecuing on a patio while drinking rosé or lying on a beach with a good read, summer was made for indulging in the greater joys of life. It’s easy to ditch the gym when the weather is nice or forget to drink enough water when you’re busy hanging with friends (we’ve all been there), but a summer of wellness doesn’t mean you have to stick to your same healthy routines; it just means adjusting based on what your body needs for the season.
      The good news is that having your healthiest summer ever also means having your best summer ever. We’re not here to give a list that takes away from enjoying everything summer offers; this checklist is here to enhance every moment, so you can soak up the sun and head into fall feeling better than ever. Here are 15 ways to have the healthiest (best!) summer yet.

      1. Exercise outdoors
      If the sun is shining, you might as well be soaking it up. Summer is a great time to take your workouts outdoors, whether it be running, playing tennis, doing yoga in the park, or hiking. You’ll not only be breaking a sweat but also be soaking up vitamin D and getting the fresh air your body is desperately craving after a winter indoors. 

      2. Protect your skin
      SPF should be your best friend this summer, and—lucky for us—there are some amazing brands to choose from that are lightweight and perfect for everyday wear. If you haven’t already, start incorporating sunscreen into your daily skincare routine. After all, UV rays are stronger than ever, and we all want to maintain flawless skin year-round. 

      3. Eat in season
      Not only is eating in season more nutritious, but it’s also more affordable and leans into what your body is craving. This summer, choose fruits and vegetables such as strawberries, peaches, cherries, cucumbers, corn, beets, and radishes. You can even go one step further and shop for it locally.

       
      4. Shop locally 
      Ditch the grocery store and hit up the local farmers market instead. Summer is the best time to find fresh and local produce that usually tastes better than store-bought. Shopping locally also means you get to support your community too.

      5. Take a vacation
      It’s time to put that PTO to good use. Everyone needs a vacation, and this summer, actually take one. Whether it’s a month-long trip or a weekend getaway, take some time to relax and unwind. Mental health is just as important as physical health, and taking some time away from your busy day-to-day schedule is necessary for overall well-being.

      6. Hydrate
      If you achieve one thing on this list to have a healthy summer, let this one be it. Drinking water can sometimes feel like a chore, but it’s so important to hydrate, especially as the weather gets warmer. You can even try adding fresh mint, lemon, or lime to boost the flavor and nutrients.

      7. Stretch more
      Stretching is a highly underrated activity that we should all be doing more of and not just after workouts. Stretching can not only help strengthen your muscles and reduce the possibility of injury, but it can also help with digestion. Try taking 10 minutes every day to stretch and slowly see the difference it makes in your body.

      8. Upgrade your cocktails
      Who doesn’t love a summer cocktail? You can find me on a patio with a glass of frosé all summer long. But this season, try upgrading your summer cocktails by opting for vegan and organic wines, less-sugary cocktails, or even a mocktail. You’ll wake up Sunday morning hangxiety-free.

      9. Try a new hobby
      Always wanted to take a painting class? Or maybe try out paddleboarding for the first time? This summer, start a new hobby—something you’ve always wanted to do but never had time for. A healthy summer is all about balance, which means prioritizing time for yourself and pursuing passions, interests, and new adventures.

      10. Buy a swimsuit you love
      This summer, find a swimsuit that makes you feel confident because beach days should be something you look forward to and not something you stress about. But swimsuit anxiety is real, and the #1 way we can combat it is by loving our bodies more, so make it your mission to find the swimsuits that make you feel as amazing and confident as you already are.

      11. Unplug from tech
      If there was ever a time to unplug from our phones and computers, it’s during the summer. Try spending a whole day without social media and plan to read a book at night before bed instead of watching TV. Bottom line: Take some time to live in the moment and away from screens. 

      12. Exfoliate
      Whether you wax, shave, laser, or simply spend a lot of time outside in the sun, our skin can become very dry in the summer. Taking the time to exfoliate can help lock in moisturizer and reduce the redness and bumps that may come from the many things we do to our skin. Our skin is our largest organ, and we must take care of it.

      13. Start an herb garden
      Embrace your inner green thumb this summer and start an herb garden. You can start one no matter the size of your home, and taking a couple of sprigs of fresh mint for a salad or cilantro for tacos will make you feel like a proper chef.

      14. Switch up your coffee order
      It’s iced coffee season, but instead of just switching your drink from warm to cold, try switching up the add-ons. An ingredient like cinnamon is full of antioxidants, and collagen is great for hair, skin, and nail health. Soon, you’ll be bragging about your coffee order to everyone.

      15. Manifest your healthiest summer ever
      Having your healthiest summer ever is really about embracing a positive mindset. Write down all the ways you will have a healthy summer (taking from this list and adding your own). Once you get clear on how and why you want to manifest a healthy summer, nothing will stop you from this being the best one yet.

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      Why You Shouldn’t Have Cheat Days—And What To Do Instead

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      Warmer days are upon us, and hot girl summer is on its way. With the mini skirts and strapless bathing suits that come this time of year, unhealthy habits can start to arise with the pressure about our bodies, like falling into the cycle of restrictive eating and cheat days (or using the weekend to “cheat” with food) as a means of eating 100% “healthy” for the rest of the time. Moralizing our food and rewarding ourselves on one specific day by loading our bodies with foods we’ve been restricting has become normalized in mainstream diet culture and caused quite the disconnect between our minds and our bodies. 
      Trust me: Whether you want to lose weight, develop a healthier relationship with food, heal symptoms, or get out of the vicious cycle of eating healthy all week just to load up on “junk” food all weekend, you can achieve any goal by appreciating your body and stopping with the restrictions and binges. In other words, you can achieve the lifestyle you want without cheat days. If you’re constantly asking yourself, “Will this chocolate chip cookie set me back?” or you’re always saying, “I’m craving a Big Mac, but I’ll just save it for my cheat day,” keep reading to find out why experts recommend stopping with the cheat days and what to do instead.

      Why do cheat days do more harm than good?
      What seems like one day or weekend taking a simple “no rules” approach can actually be a detriment to your overall well-being. “In the short term, cheat days can cause physical discomfort, digestive upset, lethargy, and negative feelings of shame and guilt,” explained Miranda Galati, MHSc, RD. “In the long term, cheat days can disconnect us from our body’s signals of hunger and fullness and make it more difficult for us to eat the right amount for our unique body.” Personally, the idea of a cheat day has never sat well with me. Holding out for a certain day of the week where I can indulge in anything puts all of the power into what I’m consuming and how it will make me feel versus me claiming my own power to make choices for myself that make me feel good.
      Plus, putting food in categories of what you “should” eat and what you’re only allowed to eat when you’re “cheating” not only takes the joy out of eating, but it can also instill guilt and shame as well as binges and cravings. “‘Planned binges’ lead us to eat way more of the food we’ve been avoiding all week than if we just allowed and normalized them on a regular basis,” agreed Alana Van Der Sluys, a certified intuitive eating counselor. 

      What to do instead of cheat days:
      We can get so consumed in what foods are healthy and unhealthy that we completely dismiss what it truly means to be healthy. The relationships that you foster—including the one you have with food—play a huge role in your overall health. It’s important to consider your health in its entirety when considering your goals. With that being said, here are a few things to keep in mind that can help with ditching cheat days completely. 

      Prioritize moderation over perfection
      “Our health habits are not determined by one choice or even by one day—it is about patterns,” explained Johna Burdeos, a registered dietician. We’ve heard it time and time again, but the saying “moderation is key” really is true. Of course, there are foods that are more nutritious than others, but the goal is to develop a lifestyle that can be maintained rather than forming an unhealthy relationship with food. Before swearing off any one item or food group, ask yourself, Do I really see myself never eating [insert your favorite junk food here] ever again? Odds are, you’ll find it’s not sustainable to give up any one thing, so instead, think about how you can enjoy it in moderation (rather than expecting complete perfection). “When we aim for perfection, we are setting ourselves up for burnout, guilt, depression, and disordered eating,” Burdeos said.

      Opt for nutrient-dense foods
      Even what was traditionally deemed your “cheat day” foods can be nutritious! Instead of focusing your attention on what you need to eliminate when you’re trying to be “healthy,” prioritize how any snack or meal can be more nutritious. “If your favorite food is mac and cheese, maybe choose higher-quality ingredients like organic, grass-fed cheddar cheese, unsweetened non-dairy milk, or pureed steamed cauliflower, and add in some greens and fiber like chopped-up broccoli or green peas,” suggested Tara Bassi, MSc, CNS, LDN. Opting for more nutrient-dense foods can ensure you’re satisfying your cravings, fully enjoying your meals, and fitting in the nutrients that make your body feel good.

      Eat mindfully
      Eating can feel so mindless when you’re doing it in front of the TV, while you’re on your phone, or sitting at your desk. Galati suggested enjoying what you’re eating without any distractions so that you can fully enjoy it and are able to stop eating once you’re satisfied.

      Adapt a food freedom mentality
      Shift from an “all-or-nothing” cheat-day mindset to a food freedom mentality. “A food freedom mentality is where all foods are allowed any day of the week,” explained Kaleigh McMordie, MCN, RDN, LD. “It takes practice, but once your mind has shifted, eating a balanced diet with occasional treats becomes effortless and is much healthier in the long run.” More importantly, being in a position where you can choose what to eat, how much to eat, and when to eat is a privilege. Eating is not meant to be a punishment or a chore; it’s meant to be pleasant and satisfying.

      Take the pressure off
      What you eat is only one component of looking and feeling good—exercise, stress, sleep, and overall well-being are important factors to keep in mind that dictate your well-being just as much (if not more!) than what you eat. Speaking to yourself with compassion and approaching your health goals with gratitude for all your body can do for you works wonders for a sustainable healthy lifestyle. 

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