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    How To Handle Your Crush On A Colleague In A Professional Manner

    If only life was like the set of the Netflix series The Bold Type. A magazine fashion assistant falls in love with the company’s in-house attorney. After fooling around for months, anxious that they’d get caught, the pair decide to go public with their relationship. Except, Sutton the assistant is worried that she’ll be branded ‘The girl who slept her way to the top’. Both move on, but still wondering what would’ve been had they given their office romance a shot in a normal setting.
    Unfortunately, life is no reenaction of a TV story line. When it comes to shooting your shot in a real-life office setting, telling your colleague you’re ‘feeling them’ and then promptly diving into their mouth tongue-first isn’t the best idea… especially since you’re going to see them every day, whether or not things work out the way you fantasized at your desk.
    Playing it subtly is key when water cooler conversations turn flirtatious, says Dr Jane Greer, a relationship expert and author of What About Me?.
    Here’s how to handle crushing on a colleague:
    1. Check in on company policy.
    Dust off that employee handbook and learn whether or not relationships between employees are even allowed, Greer says.
    “It’s totally fine to have a crush on a coworker, but it’s all about how you handle it,” she explains. Before you offer up your heart and soul, know whether doing so could put your career in jeopardy. If it can, you might want to try some dating apps instead.
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    2. If you choose to proceed in secrecy, know the risks.
    “Sometimes you can’t help if you fall in love with somebody,” says Greer. “The problem with that is everybody feels the energy, and people will know.” Resentful colleagues might threaten to expose you, the stress of keeping your relationship under wraps might cause strain, and if a superior finds out, you might get knocked off the promotion track, or worse, get fired.
    So, instead of violating company policy, take stock of your options. If you want to act on your feelings that badly, consider moving to a different department, or switching to another company entirely before betting your job stability on a crush.
    But hey, if love conquers job, Greer says, do you. Just remember, you’ve been warned.
    3. If coworker relationships are allowed, turn up the flirtation—but keep it cool.
    “Show them behaviorally that they’re on your mind,” says Greer. You might ask them what kind of coffee they enjoy and later bring them a cup, strike up brief conversations about upcoming local events, or ask them about their latest work project, so you can establish a rapport.
    Basically, you want to be thoughtful, but super subtle in your flirting—call it micro-flirting, if you will. “You don’t want to engage in anything that is overt or seductive or that can be misinterpreted as sexual harassment,” says Greer. Whatever you say needs to be suitable for the workplace.
    And once your coworker feels comfortable around you, and maybe even initiates conversation, you can move on to the next step.
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    4. Take it outside.
    While you can (internally) thank your boss for inadvertently playing matchmaker, limit the budding romance to outside office doors. Hopefully, through the thoughtful gestures, Greer says, your crush might warm up to the idea of getting to know you after hours.
    To keep the pressure off, invite them to something casual. Greer suggests asking them to join you for a post-work cup of coffee or drink. “Depending on their response, that gives you an idea of whether they’re even remotely interested in getting to know you better, or not,” she explains.
    5. If they’re into it, go for it.
    While a date with your office crush is super exciting, remember you’re going to be face-to-face with them—at work—in a less than 24 hours. You’ve established your workplace camaraderie, sure, but your romantic chemistry is still up in the air.
    Greer wants you to “let your hair down,” but keep in mind that, unlike a blind date or casual hookup, the two of you are now straddling two environments—work and personal life—that you’ll need to engage in. If things work out according to your fantasies, eventually navigating between the two will feel like second nature since you’ll have established ground rules on how to engage in the office. But for now, tread lightly.
    6. If they’re not, bow out.
    As it turns out, not all crushes are reciprocated (who knew? Jk, I did).
    If your crush doesn’t want to go out for drinks, or if they agree and after aren’t interested in doing it again, don’t push it, says Greer. Doing so would “put you in a potentially vulnerable position and put the other person in an extremely uncomfortable one.” What you might see as trying to “talk it out” might make your crush uneasy and could even motivate them to alert a supervisor about your behaviour.
    Instead, “continue being friendly and demonstrating thoughtfulness, but tone it [waaayy] down,” says Greer. She also recommends giving your crush some space.
    And in that time apart, take care of yourself. “Limit your encounters so that you’re not putting yourself in a position of feeling rejected or disappointed by their lack of interest,” says Greer. Soon enough, your crush will go back to being just another person at your office.
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    5 Daily Non-Negotiables of Women Who Are Always Confident

    I came into this world with certain attributes that took no effort: my almond-shaped eyes, my obsession for anything peanut butter and chocolate, and my more-than-I-care-to-admit muscular calves (thanks, Dad). Confidence, on the other hand, is a trait I can say, without a doubt, I was not blessed with from day one. In fact, self-esteem is an unfamiliar feeling I struggle with. But confidence is a learned skill that takes practice, much like riding a bike or mastering a new language—something I gleaned from Jessica Chang-Irish, founder of Jessica Chang Consulting and a coach who trains women to speak and carry themselves more confidently.
    So how does Chang-Irish define confidence? “Confidence isn’t about being self-assured all the time,” she stated. “Rather, it’s a practice of self-awareness, acknowledging your value and gifts as well as your insecurities, and having the courage to break through those insecurities and do the hard things anyway—whether it be getting a new job, putting yourself back out in the dating scene, or recovering from an injury. Being a confident person also means being vulnerable. Confident people aren’t afraid to be vulnerable because they know they’re still valuable while being human and imperfect.” 
    It turns out, even confidence pros who exude major boss vibes have to work on their self-confidence every. single. day. Ahead, Chang-Irish’s daily must-haves to finding your inner power and confidence. Hint: They’re not your average tips. 

    Meet the expert
    Jessica Chang-Irish
    Speaking with Confidence Coach
    Jessica Chang-Irish is an Emmy-award winning news reporter turned public speaking coach who empowers women looking to build their influence through in-person or on-camera speaking. By combining her experience on camera and in marketing, she helps women who feel nervous about public speaking by equipping them with proven strategies and frameworks to boost their speaking skills and confidence.

    1. Remember your “why”
    Knowing your “why” (AKA your purpose) is the first step in tapping into your confidence. Why do you get out of bed every morning? Why do you do what you do? “Your why is your Northstar to turn to when you feel unsure or you’re being tested,” Chang-Irish explained. Author and speaker Simon Sinek agrees that when you start with your why (versus how and what you do), you have the ability to inspire those around you and yourself.
    Think of your why as your mission statement. It doesn’t just have to apply to your career— it could be for your personal life too. Then, write it out. You can start with: “In everything I do, I believe …” Chang-Irish shared hers: “In everything I do and everyone I work with, I believe each and every person is capable of finding their voice and shining in the spotlight, and that I can empower and equip them to become a more confident version of themselves.” Once you’ve jotted down your why, post it up somewhere you frequent every day as a friendly reminder (think: your desk, fridge, bathroom mirror). 

    2. Surround yourself with a tribe of like-minded women
    Let’s face it: We’re our own worst critics. I don’t think twice about complimenting a stranger for her on-point ‘fit, but when it comes to myself, I nit-pick and dwell on my imperfections. Enter: friends or mentors who can empathize with you but don’t let you wallow in the “what ifs” and all-or-nothing thinking. Oh, and they give you a good kick in the butt to keep at it. Chang-Irish pointed out that your tribe could comprise of your friends, sisters, cousins, co-workers, or even communities on social media who share your interests. Be intentional about building your circle—each person may bring something different to the table, but they all should help you stay aligned with your purpose and your most authentic self. 

    3. Pay attention to your inner voice
    PSA: What you tell yourself matters. Whether you realize it or not, your self-talk can make the difference between gaining confidence and standing in your own way. The seemingly harmless narrative—”I’m not good/smart/pretty enough” or “I can’t”—you’ve been telling yourself creates your reality. On the flip side, fostering an optimistic monologue in your mind boosts your self-confidence and bids negative emotions adieu. In fact, people who can master positive thoughts and beliefs are more confident, motivated, and productive.
    “It’s up to you to develop your own inner voice of encouragement,” said Chang-Irish. “Or maybe you’ll find that voice in someone from your tribe. When you hear that voice of doubt in your head or feel the fear rising up, rewrite those limiting thinking patterns and remind yourself that you can do hard things. When you practice shifting your inner voice of doubt to a voice of encouragement, your confidence will flourish.”

    4. Prepare for the important interactions you’ll have 
    Think back to your college days or an interview you recently had. How confident were you walking into a final or your dream company and having put in the effort to study and do your research? My guess is way more confident than had you not prepared. In the same vein, laying the groundwork for the important conversations you’ll have in your day ahead will set you up for success and give you the opportunity to flex your confidence muscles.
    “Whether it’s a date, meeting, job interview, or networking event, think about what you’ll say in the five to 10 seconds you have to introduce yourself, how you’ll keep the conversation going, and what’s in it for the person or people you’re talking to,” Chang-Irish recommended. “While that first impression catches their attention, how are you going to keep their attention? One of the best ways to do that is to ask them questions. Do your homework about the person or people you’ll meet and come up with questions about their interests that genuinely interest you.”

    5. Listen to podcasts that fill your soul and lift you up
    Much like your tribe reminds you of your purpose and worth, the right podcast can be just the friend or voice you need for your daily dose of confidence. And, sure enough, there is no shortage of motivational podcasts that are just a tap away. Chang-Irish’s go-to’s are  “Oprah’s Super Soul,” “The Marie Forleo Podcast,” and “How to Fail With Elizabeth Day,” where you can expect open dialogue and sage advice from industry experts and celebs. And did you listen to The Everygirl Podcast yet? The episode with confidence coach, Regina Bonds, has such great insight into truly loving yourself and showing up as your most confident self. 
    Adding a few inspirational programs to your queue will not only give you a shot of self-belief but also a reprieve from the usual suspects—the “nevers,” “what ifs,” and “can’ts” (ruminating, who?). So go ahead and take that podcast out for a spin (read: walk) and get ready for an extra pep in your “hot girl” step. 

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    Deal Alert: This Thrusting Happy Rabbit Vibrator We Love Is 25% Off RN!

    So. Rabbit vibrators. Thus named because of the two little “ears” that are designed to stimulate your clitoris, while the main shaft of the toy finds your G-spot. Simple enough. And more than effective enough at producing orgasms. What more could a girl want? Turns out, the people at Lovehoney asked themselves that exact question and really pulled a rabbit out of the hat with the Happy Rabbit Thrusting Vibrator.
    Why We Love The This Happy Rabbit Vibrator
    I can see your eyebrow rising in interest at the word “thrusting”. Of course, all vibrators have thrusting abilities – all you need to do is move your hand – but this toy actually does the thrusting for you because it has built-in thrusting technology (sounds super sexy) that delivers real-feel stimulation to imitate real-deal sexual relations.
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    The shaft has three thrusting speeds and the “happy ears” have a powerful motor with three speeds and six patterns, all of which promise to provide you with intense, spine-tingling blended pleasure. The toy is covered with velvet-soft silicone and is waterproof so you don’t need to limit your fun to dry land. It’s also USB rechargeable and has a nifty travel lock to make sure it doesn’t hop into action as you’re making your way through customs.
    This rabbit is pretty big, so it could be a bit intimidating to those brand-new to the toy game, but it’s super-simple to use (it only has two buttons) so you don’t need a PhD in engineering to get yourself off. If you’re looking for something new and exciting that will take you down a rabbit hole of fun, this Happy Rabbit vibrator is just for you. And as always, a good water-based lubricant is a must.
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    I Grilled a Life Coach and Her Tips Will Transform Your Anxiety

    Racing thoughts, pounding heartbeat, heaviness in my chest, the all-consuming, sometimes debilitating sense of fear—just some of the unnerving ways anxiety shows up like an unannounced, unwelcome guest. If you’re one of the 40 million adults in the U.S. who experience anxiety like me, said symptoms are hard to shake off. While it may be comforting to know we’re in good company, having a handful of coping mechanisms at the ready to work through bouts of anxiety can make all the difference. Because–let’s be real– sometimes no amount of logic will cut it. I turned to Alana Warlop, a psychotherapist and life coach, to get the lowdown on her anxiety tips for reclaiming your calmness when it strikes. We got this. 

    Meet the expert
    Alana Warlop
    Life Coach
    Alana Warlop is a spiritual psychotherapist and transformational coach who has guided countless women into next levels of leadership and impact. From traditional transpersonal therapy to utilizing breathwork and meditation, she has spent much of her life learning what it means to heal and experience a life beyond limits.

    What is anxiety exactly?
    Sure, I could try to pinpoint the all-too-familiar ways that anxiety manifests itself for me, but it looks different for everyone. For some, it’s constant, and for others, it’s triggered by a stressful situation (looking at you, health scare) or creeps up out of nowhere when everything was coming up roses. Putting into words what anxiety really is can help us identify and take control of it, no matter the person. “[Anxiety is] a crafty way of distracting your attention and holding the energy of your awareness hostage in a never-ending search for a ‘solution’ that alleviates the discomfort that you are experiencing,” explained Warlop. “We perseverate in hopes that we can find a logical reason why we feel hurt, depressed, judged, shamed, guilty, blamed, or self-critical. And, if we know why, then we think the reasoning will justify our feelings and they will settle.” Warlop warned that that approach rarely works, and if it does, it’s only for the short-term.
    But why doesn’t reasoning work, you ask? “Anxiety is a product of stuck, stale, or stagnant emotional energy and incomplete trauma patterns pent up in the nervous system,” Warlop elaborated. “Emotions and traumas that are unresolved stay stuck in our bodies and build in their power to hijack the limbic and nervous systems, which control our behavior above and beyond any logic you could ever muster.” Long story short, at the root of it, anxiety is the mind’s natural defense against having to feel or experience something painful. While you should always talk to your doctor or therapist if experiencing anxiety, Warlop lets us in on some hacks you can try to not only manage anxiety but to heal from it so it doesn’t get in the way of living your best lives. 

    Tips to help during moments of anxiety:
    Bring awareness to your breath
    There is no shortage of “take a deep breath” memes floating on the world wide web, but it’s for good reason. The practice has become the go-to method in times of stress, and Warlop emphasized that it’s one of the best things you can do when experiencing anxiety. “Feel the breath move in and out of the body so that the attention from the mind goes into the body,” she instructed. “Let the body know that it is safe to experience all that is there and then ask, ‘What am I afraid to feel?’” 
    Warlop also suggested moving your attention to the heart: “Imagine breathing a beautiful, warm, golden energy into the heart space with every breath. Let this light grow in size and calming power inside you. This will also move you forward into soothing yourself, instead of wasting energy searching for a solution to an unanswerable (and, most of the time, made up) problem or insecurity.”

    Feel your feelings
    Having feelings is as natural and involuntary as breathing, but Warlop clarified that feeling is simply a physical sensation and anything beyond that are stories and perceptions that we attach to the feeling. “We are conditioned to think about our feelings instead of actually feeling them, so many people I work with have no idea that they don’t actually know how to feel feelings without telling stories and attaching meaning to them,” she stated. On the other hand, shifting your focus from what’s going on outside of you to your internal experience of your senses, energy, and emotions (AKA “felt sense”) will bring your awareness to the present moment. The result? There is nothing that you cannot truly feel, and allowing yourself to really feel everything that comes along with anxiety will help kick it to the curb.

    Don’t judge your thoughts
    I’m no stranger to thoughts taking over my mind and spiraling further into an anxious episode. You know, like “What if things don’t work out,” “Nobody likes me,” or “I’m not good enough.” Warlop advised giving myself space to be curious about those beliefs and distracting myself from them, rather than reacting to them: “Carry around an essential oil you love to smell when you can start to feel yourself going in the direction of repetitive and worrisome thoughts. Brush your fingertips along the skin of your arm or face, and focus on the pleasant sensation. Put on calming music and focus on the sound frequencies.” In other words, tap into all of your senses—sight, smell, touch, taste, and hearing—to instantly bring you back to the present moment.  

    Take care of your basic needs every day
    PSA: Anxiety is the body’s way of letting you know that it is in distress and needs more care. Call it self-care or creating a solid, foolproof routine, but prioritizing basic health and wellness habits is Warlop’s non-negotiable. If you’re not catching enough Zzzs, I’ve got (bad) news for you: Lack of sleep makes the list of top culprits of anxiety. Warlop suggested forgoing your daily nightcap or the next episode in your Netflix cue and letting your body reset. “7-9 hours of sleep, good nutrition, nature time, and working out are essential in shifting the inner landscape,” she stressed. “And for added bonus points, try meditation. Consistent meditation is a game-changer in resetting your nervous and limbic systems.”

    These tips are not meant to serve as treatment for anxiety disorder. If you are struggling with anxiety, please reach out to your doctor, a therapist, or another trusted professional for support.Crisis Textline: text CONNECT to 741741

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    Stress Can Mess With Your Vaginal Health–Here’s What You Should Know and How To Deal Accordingly

    It’s no secret that stress can take a toll on your body, so it’s unsurprising that it can mess with your vaginal health too. Now, I know what you’re thinking: Another thing I have to worry about?! Trust me, I get it—sometimes you get so caught up in trying to ward off  stress that you end up stressing yourself out even more because you’re stressed about not being stressed. It’s a vicious cycle and one that’s easy to fall into. That said, taking the time to learn about how stress truly affects your body can help you manage stress and its effects, or might even know what signs and symptoms to look out for that your body might be trying to tell you.
    A brief disclosure: If you’re experiencing any of the symptoms mentioned below, scheduling an appointment with your OB-GYN is never a bad idea. If stress is the root cause (or you feel a lot of stress, even if it’s pre-symptoms), make sure you’re also carving out time for yourself to practice self-care and using healthy outlets, such as meditating, journaling, or exercising as ways to manage stress. At the end of the day, finding what works for you and nourishing your mind, body, and soul is going to keep both you and your vagina happy and healthy. Keep scrolling to learn five major ways stress can mess with your reproductive health and how to deal accordingly, along with tips and tricks to de-stress so you can better take care of your mind and body.

    1. Changes in discharge and increased risk of infection
    Stress can suppress the immune system and may seriously disrupt the pH levels in the vulva. When this happens, you may notice discharge that smells funky, is thicker than usual, or darker in color. This occurs because your body’s defense mechanisms are lowered and your vagina has more difficulty weeding out bad bacteria, making it more susceptible to infection. Although discharge is totally normal and changes throughout your cycle, think of it as a window into your body’s overall health: If there’s an abrupt, drastic change in it, it’s usually a telltale sign that something more is going on.
    It may be an isolated incident or an infection, like bacterial vaginosis or a yeast infection. Talking to your doctor about any changes in discharge or concerns about possible infection is always a good idea as they may be able to provide you with a prescription or over-the-counter remedy. You could also talk to your doctor about trying over-the-counter supplements and vitamins like probiotics or vitamins D and C. Some types of probiotics may help the vagina maintain a healthy pH level, while vitamin D and C can help strengthen your immune system.

    2. Vaginal dryness
    Stress can reduce the amount of blood flow to the vagina, which in turn can reduce moisture and cause dryness. “With stress on your mind, hormone levels will begin to shift—as cortisol rises, testosterone (essential for your libido) will dip,” Dr. Alyssa Liguori, an OB/GYN based in Georgia, wrote for Northside Hospital. “Your body won’t be sending enough blood down there to increase moisture, so vaginal dryness and/or discomfort is more likely.” This dryness can also cause painful sex and an inability to orgasm—two things you definitely do not need in your life.

    3. Low libido
    When you have a huge work deadline looming, student loans to pay off, and a packed social calendar, sex is probably going to be the last thing on your mind. It’s normal, but it turns out there’s a medical reason for it. Because your testosterone levels dip as cortisol levels rise, you not only experience vaginal dryness, but may experience low sex drive as well, since testosterone is essential for libido. However, getting it on can actually destress you: orgasming regularly can improve your mood, release stress hormones, and keep your vagina from getting depressed (who else remembers the Sex and the City episode where Charlotte announces at lunch her vagina has depression?). Even if you’re not totally in the mood, it may be worth reaching for your vibrator to try to destress. However, if you’re experiencing zero interest or changes in sex drive, always talk to your doctor (remember that libido is an important vital sign!)

    4. Changes in menstrual cycle
    If you have a menstrual cycle, its completely run on hormones (the different changes in your cycle are due to estrogen and progesterone levels). If your stress hormones are out of whack, your menstrual cycle can become irregular, those notorious PMS symptoms can intensify, or you may skip a period altogether. This can also cause fertility issues since irregular periods can distress ovulation schedules and make getting pregnant more difficult. If you’re experiencing painful or irregular periods and have felt extra stressed, your cortisol levels could be to blame. As always, if you experience any changes in your menstrual cycle, always talk with your doctor to get to the root cause.

    5. Tight pelvic floor
    The pelvic floor is especially important for women with uteruses since it’s responsible for bowel and bladder movements, and provides support to the reproductive system. A strong pelvic floor makes sex more enjoyable and orgasms stronger. When we’re stressed, however, we can physically seize up (think: clenched jaw or fists) and that tension can reach our pelvic floor.
    A few early signs of a tight pelvic floor are constipation, pain during sex, and lower back pain. Hip, back, abdominal, or leg pain, a feeling of heaviness as though the pelvic floor is dragging, strain with bowel movements or emptying your bladder, or inability to completely empty the bowels or bladder, and a strong urgency to run to the restroom are also signs of pelvic floor dysfunction. If you’re experiencing any of these symptoms, consider seeing a pelvic floor physical therapist.

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    5 Things Successful Women Do Before Bedtime

    We all know what we shouldn’t be doing during our bedtime routine: losing all track of time on TikTok, abandoning our skincare regimen, drinking caffeine, texting our ex, etc. These things don’t set us up for the get-up-and-go energy we need the following day, and when we have things to do and goals to meet, who has the time for that?
    I love a productive morning routine as much as the next girl, but let’s not forget that a bedtime routine that prepares you for the next day is just as important—if not more. By adding in just a few things before bed, you can get miles ahead of where you would be otherwise come morning. But what are some steps we can take to set ourselves up for success instead of scrolling Instagram? I’m glad you asked—because we’re diving into the five things successful women do before they hit the sheets.

    1. Unwind
    We spend all day long responding to emails, answering our coworkers, completing tasks, and doing #allthethings that by the end of the night, a deep breath is not only well deserved but is needed for overall well-being. Can I get an amen?
    To increase rest and relief, we love to incorporate products from our favorite CBD brand, Equilibria, while we unwind. CBD can help regulate mood, reduce stress, and leave you feeling more balanced overall, so Equilibria’s Rapid Calming Melts, Daily Drops, Mindful Mineral Soak, and Sleep Gummies are just a few of the products that our editors are constantly reaching for to make the most of their unwind routines.
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    2. Tidy Up
    A clear space is a clear mind. Who’s with me? Before you head to bed, spend 10-15 minutes tidying your main living spaces (kitchen, living room, bathroom, and bedroom). I am not telling you to go into full-on Marie Kondo mode, but her philosophy rings true even in small ways: When you declutter, you create room for clarity. By putting away dishes that are in the sink, straightening up any loose papers or mail that are cluttering the countertops, pushing in chairs, folding blankets in the living room, etc., you will feel fresh waking up in the morning instead of distracted by the piles of items laying around that you’ll have to get to later.
    Plus, when you do a little bit of tidying every night, you’ll prevent bigger messes from piling up, and this will ultimately save you from an entire afternoon of cleaning over the weekend—praise.  Tip: If something will take 60 seconds or less to put away, do it right then and there. Right before bed is not the time to reorganize your junk drawer, but it is the time to put rogue pens that are sitting on the counter back in the junk drawer. 

    3. Make a To-Do List
    No more making mental to-do lists while you’re laying in bed at night. Instead, spend a few minutes during your bedtime routine writing down what you know you need to tackle the next day before you hit the sheets. Jot down everything that comes to mind (putting pen to paper is my preferred way of doing this, but if you prefer to use an app, go for it!), even if it’s as small as “buy paper towels,” so you can prioritize even the smallest tasks that need to be handled the following day.
    Not only does making a physical list or brain dumping help you get more restful sleep because you’re not kept awake by the thoughts of your growing to-do list, but when you have a better understanding of what needs to be done in your work life and personal life, you are more likely to 1) actually get them done and 2) not feel like you’re scrambling around to check all the boxes.

    4. Set Out Clothes
    Headed to a workout in the morning? Set out your matching set. Have an early meeting to get to? Set out your cool-girl office outfit. Especially if you find yourself spending far too long picking out what to wear (guilty) and running out the door because of it, this tip will totally transform the start of your day.
    Before bed, review your to-do list and your meeting schedule, and check the weather. What outfit will be the most put-together, professional, and practical? For example, if you work in the city and will be walking to a few meetings, plan your outfit around a supportive yet stylish pair of sneakers or slip-ons. This will prevent you from grabbing sandals in the morning and ending the day with swollen feet and blisters. No thank you.
    Spend 10 minutes during your bedtime routine choosing your outfit, and leave nothing for question. Set everything out from your socks (because no one likes searching for those at 6 a.m.) to your jewelry. If you want to take this a step further, get your bag together too, so you’re less likely to forget something in the morning.

    5. Unplug
    The end of the night is when you should be spending time relaxing and recharging, so by all means, put your phone away, or at the very least, turn it on “Do Not Disturb.” The saying is true: You can’t pour from an empty cup. When you want to show up as the best version of yourself, you need to show up for yourself first. This means that late-night text messages, emails, and to-dos that didn’t get done during the day can be handled in the morning. Make unplugging a priority so you don’t end up feeling depleted by the end of the week.
    Channel your inner zen-girl by kicking your feet up and watching your favorite show on streaming, turning the pages of another book on your TBR list, or listening to an episode of a podcast. Spending an hour or two (or more if you’re lucky!) before heading to bed doing nothing other than what brings you joy will restore the energy you need to hit the ground running in the morning.

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    The Hot Girl Walk Essentials Our Editors Swear By

    If I had a dollar every time that the words “too good to be true” traveled across my mind on any given TikTok binge, I’d have enough money to fund an all-inclusive Croatian vacation for me and 14 of my closest friends. From the winged liner hack that left me unironically resembling Julia Fox’s Paris-Fashion-Week-with-Kanye stint to the time someone swore that balsamic vinegar and sparkling water would serve as a healthy-yet-tasty alternative to Coca-Cola (many regrets), I’ve had my fair share of eye rolls. But if there’s one TikTok trend that took me by surprise and actually improved my life, it’s the infamous Hot Girl Walk.
    The Hot Girl Walk is a multitasker’s dream. There’s no better way to get your steps in, soak up some vitamin D, listen to a mood-boosting playlist, catch up on your favorite podcast, phone a friend, or get outside on a work-from-home day than by putting your favorite sneaks on and getting after it. If you’re looking for a low-impact way to get fit, improve your mental health, spend some time with yourself, and reconnect with the world around you, the HGW is the cure. Here are the Hot Girl Walk essentials our editors rely on:
     

    SeaChange LTT Sneakers
    When you’re walking for miles on end, there are two necessary shoe features that come to mind: comfy and cooling. With a cushioned memory foam footbed, soft, buttery smooth vegan corn leather, and cooling channels to promote airflow, these sneaks from SeaVees check all of our boxes. And it doesn’t hurt that they’re easy on the eyes.
    Use code EVERYGIRL for 20% off of your first purchase at SeaVees + enter our giveaway HERE to enter to win two pairs of SeaVees shoes of your choice, free!

    Adjustable Fanny Pack
    What’s a HGW without a belt bag that’ll help you keep all of your knick-knacks on your person—and look good doing it? We love this one from Amazon because it’s affordable, can be dressed down for a hot girl walk or up for a Sunday brunch with the gals, and it’s adjustable to guarantee the perfect fit every time.

    Retro Sunglasses
    As much as we love strolling on a sunny day, a blinding sunrise or sunset is a lot prettier to take in when you’re wearing a pair of sunnies that help to make the view a lot less painful. Protect your eyeballs without breaking the bank with this two-pack of retro sunglasses and thank us later.

    Airpods
    For your tunes, the latest and greatest episode from your podcast of choice, or getting all of the tea from your bestie, a pair of Airpods is the way to go. As much as we love a pair of noise-canceling, over-the-ear headphones, these in-ear ones help us to enjoy our audio while still being aware of our surroundings.

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    Adjustable Ankle Weights
    If you’re looking to add a bit of a challenge to your next walk, look no further than these adjustable ankle or wrist weights from Bala. Bala Bangles are an editor-fav for good reason: They’re sleek, fit super comfortably, come in so many colors, and help us to add a (very light and reasonable) bit of burn. 10/10 recommend.

    Audiobook Subscription
    Between new Netflix launches, pending book-to-movie or show adaptations, and the startling amount of Love Island (UK) episodes I need to catch up on, my TBR list has been absolutely suffering. I started listening to audiobooks on my Hot Girl Walks to help me to carve out some time to catch up on my ever-growing reading list, and it’s been such a game-changer. I get so caught up in the storyline that I end up walking for way farther than I anticipated which is always a pleasant surprise.

    La Roche-Posay
    Tinted Mineral Sunscreen
    The perfect HGW sunscreen exists, and it’s this tinted mineral sunscreen from La-Roche-Posay. If you’re worried about running into your ex when you’re out and about and want a subtle, effortless glow, this stuff is the way to go. This sunscreen is my personal favorite because it’s tinted and brings life to my face without being too illuminating (sorry Glow Screen, I just can’t do it), and helps me to protect my face while still feeling super lightweight.

    Collapsable Water Bottle
    There’s nothing that can ruin a HGW quite like having to hold something in your hand while walking for miles, so if you’re looking for a water bottle that’ll be ready when you are, consider this collapsable one from Amazon. It’s super affordable and folds so tightly that you’ll be able to fit it into your fanny pack until you pass a refill station when you’re ready to fill up. Once it’s full, it does have a strap, so it can hang from your index finger which is a 10/10 solution in my book.

    Matching Set
    No HGW is made complete without a matching set—sorry, I don’t make the rules. If you want to fully dive into the aesthetic surrounding the trend, this is a necessary add that will cary you from the couch to your nearest hiking trail and beyond. This ribbed tank-meets-sports-bra set is high quality, (I’m so sorry, I have to say it) buttery soft, and totally worth the investment. Plus, we love that you can choose separate sizes for your top and bottoms—tell us why all sets aren’t sold this way!

    Portable Charger
    It never fails that when I decide to go on my HGW after dinner, my phone is near death and threatening to turn off mid-walk—which is neither fun nor safe. I got this portable charger last month and absolutely love that it’s compact and doesn’t require a separate cord to plug into your phone. It’s been such a simple add to my routine that has made my life infinitely better, and I recommend it to everyone I know.

     

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    5 Inexpensive Ways To Become a Pilates Girl at Home

    There are trends that come and go (and should stay in the past—looking at you, sweater vests), then there are those that were so good that they come full circle. And if we’re talking about the feel-good world of wellness, there’s one workout that falls in the latter category. Re-enter: Pilates. ICYMI, it’s made a major comeback, and for good reason. Making its debut in the 1920s as a form of rehabilitation, Pilates is a low-impact workout that emphasizes core strength, flexibility, and mind-body connection. But don’t underestimate its effectiveness—it packs a punch. 
    It counts celebs like Jennifer Aniston and Hailey Bieber as devotees, and there’s no denying that they’re #fitspo. But Pilates isn’t just for A-listers with endless funds. While it’s traditionally performed on a reformer machine at fitness spots, you can easily adapt the discipline with just a mat. The best part other than firing up your core and getting a full-body experience? You can get your Pilates fix on a budget and in your very own dedicated gym space (AKA your living room), and we’re here to tell you how. Read on for five ways to affordably practice Pilates at home. 

    1. Take Pilates classes online
    Sure, you can flex your Pilates muscles at one of the many dedicated studios, but if the last couple of years has taught us anything, it’s that we can sweat it out with the best of them from the comfort of our own homes (and save some dough). Not sure where to start? Look no further than online fitness platform obé Fitness. Whether you have a few pieces of gear on hand or there’s no hand weight in sight, they’ve got you covered. You can filter obé’s Pilates workouts based on no equipment or what you do have. Only have a few minutes to get your body moving? Don’t sweat it (I can’t promise that you won’t break one though). obé has live and on-demand class offerings that range from five minutes to 60.
    What’s more, you can plank and leg-lift anywhere—from your bedroom to your balcony in Italy—with your favorite instructors cheering you on. No joke—you get first-rate instruction and the energy of a group fitness class from your digs. And if you want to take it up a notch, you have the option to combine Pilates with other types of workouts (think: HIIT, sculpt, and yoga) to get the best of both worlds. While in-person Pilates memberships can set you back a couple hundred dollars each month, you can stick to your hot girl summer reserve doing Pilates in your humble abode using code TEG50 for a 7-day free trial + 50% off your first month of obé!

    2. Invest in affordable Pilates equipment or use what you already have
    A solid Pilates workout doesn’t require any props, but if you want to level up and add variety to your sweat sessions, consider stocking up on a few pieces of equipment or find alternatives around the house.
    Mat
    The must-have accessory to have within reach? A trusty mat. With the wealth of choices out there, you could have one for every day of the week, every mood, and every matching set (if you want to be extra). Opt for a thicker one with a good grip to give added support when you’re doing your Teasers and Side Bends.
    For an easy mat back-up, pull a few towels or blankets out of your linen closet and layer them up depending on the amount of support you need. 

    Mini Pilates ball
    Don’t be fooled by the size and weight of this add-on. After a few minutes with it, you’ll feel muscles you never knew you had. Use it between your thighs to activate your pelvic floor or underneath your tailbone to make your core exercises more challenging. 
    Not ready to commit to the Pilates ball? Have no fear. Grab a throw pillow, put it between your thighs, and get to work! 

    Sliders (AKA gliders or discs)
    I’m going to bet you’ll develop a love-hate relationship with these guys. The closest thing to mimicking movements done on a reformer, gliders make it easy to slide your feet or knees out, in, and sideways while engaging your core. 
    You know those old towels you keep on hand for “just-in-case” moments? Well, now is the time to put them to good use. Substitute them for the sliders and clean your floors while you’re at it (it’s a clear win-win). And if you have a carpet-only sitch, swap in paper plates. 

    Weights
    Whether you go the hand or wearable weights route, the oh-so-good burn will sneak up on you. Great for strengthening your balance, enhancing coordination, and working your upper or lower body, you’ll maximize your sweat with 1-, 2-, or 3-pounders. 
    Don’t want to spend your hard-earned cash on weights? Grab some water bottles or jugs, canned goods, bags of rice or beans, et voilà—problem solved. 

    Resistance bands
    Throw in some resistance to your favorite moves with bands of varying levels, and you can easily switch up your Pilates routine. Inexpensive, yet effective, they’re ideal for building strength and flexibility. Place your band of choice around your thighs, ankles, or wrists for more intensity.
    If you want a no-spend option, dig out the old pairs of leggings buried in your dresser drawer and DIY some resistance bands. Tie the two legs of a pair together (this make take some trial-and-error) and wrap it around your knees, ankles, or wrists. 

    Pilates ring
    Simple in theory, this tool does a lot. Flanked by padded grips, you can squeeze in or push out to target your inner and outer thighs, chest and shoulders, and pelvic floor. Bonus points: It can give you a leg up on your posture and balance too. 
    Put your foam roller on double-duty and use it in place of a Pilates ring. Light and compact enough to hold or squeeze, it’ll do the job well. 

    3. Grab a book on Pilates 
    DIY your Pilates workout with the guidance of a good, old-fashioned book. No matter your level of experience, there’s a paperback for you. From restorative stretching to a series of compound movements (read: firing up more than one muscle group at a time), you can customize your Pilates practice. Look for titles that include clear illustrations and detailed descriptions of exercises to guide you every step (or squeeze) of the way.  
    If you’re a newbie, no problem! Picking up a book on the basics will give you an intro to technique and form, teach you the difference between the “Hundred” and “Swan Dive,” and give you a solid foundation to build your Pilates routine. Bottom line: You do you, and go at your own pace (no intimidation or judgment here). 

    4. Get the Pilates look
    I think we can all agree that there’s nothing like a new workout set to get you motivated for a good sweat. So make room in your “hot girl summer” budget and treat yourself to a ‘fit that’ll complete your Pilates girl look. A quick Amazon search of “workout sets for women” will give you endless scrolls of matching two-piece duds that won’t break the bank. Pro tip: Look out for those with the “Prime Try Before You Buy” option (a free seven-day try-on period where you’ll only be charged for what you keep). And I’d be remiss if I didn’t mention the Amazon Lululemon dupes our very own fashion editor, Maddie, put to the test (and gave her stamp of approval).
    When you’re on your third Target run for the week (anyone feel me?), peruse their JoyLab activewear section and you’ll find wallet-friendly, lust-worthy pieces to fill your cart. Then there’s Old Navy with a crazy-good, extensive workout collection that includes offerings in various fabrics and sizes XS-4X. So go ahead and don your newest workout set like you would going to the gym, light a candle, and hit “play” on your Pilates playlist for your next heart-pumping at-home sesh. 

    5. Follow Pilates influencers
    Thanks to IG and TikTok, you can make connections and immerse yourself in the world of Pilates with a few scrolls and clicks and for zilch. It may take some exploration to find your new favorite, must-follow Pilates guru and a community you vibe with most, but the good news? There’s no shortage of inspo, hacks, and tips to get your #fitspo fill. Find instructional videos, workouts that target a specific part of the body, and advice for the novice and pro alike. So on your next scroll, be on the hunt for the Pilates It girl to inspire your next workout.
     

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