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    Normal Sleep – Turns Out, There Might Be No Such Thing

    When we think about sleep, almost anyone will tell you that getting eight hours is ideal. However, how many people have you met who swear by only getting six? Or those who get 10 or even 11 each night?

    Dr Alison Bentley, Restonic Sleep Specialist, cautions against the idea that only eight hours can be considered normal and in fact, healthy. Dr Alison Bentley has been seeing patients with bedtime problems for 30 years and helped to run the first diagnostic sleep laboratory in South Africa. She believes that there is some room for deviation from commonly cited “normal sleep” in terms of three main components: duration, timing and solidity.

    “What is normal sleep?” asks Dr Alison Bentley, Restonic Sleep Specialist. “It’s not a strange question, really. But while books and Google insist that normal sleep is 7-8 hours long, in one go from 10pm to 6am, how many of us actually rest like that? I find that people whose rest differs from this ideal often believe they have a sleep disorder. However, that’s not necessarily the case.”

    While on average, sleeping can lie between seven and eight hours, that’s not to say the norm is the only kind that’s healthy. There are people whose bedtimes are only five hours long. Dr Alison says that while a sleep disorder could be in the realm of possibility, that person could also just be a naturally short sleeper. “The difference lies in how they function during the day,” notes Dr Alison. “The naturally short sleeper copes well and doesn’t feel tired, while the person with insomnia feels tired and fatigued with a deficit in attention resulting in poor concentration and memory difficulties.”

    The sweet spot

    So how can you tell if you’re getting optimum zzz’s? Dr Alison says you need to pay attention to how you feel after waking, and during the day. “The most important thing is that you need to feel that you have had enough when you wake up – that you are not fatigued or tired during the day,” she says. “Being able to concentrate and focus during the day on important tasks is also an important measure of enough rest. Good daytime function is a better measure of sleep rather than the right numbers at night.”

    Timing your zzz’s

    While many people catch naps between 10pm and 6am, there is variation in terms of timing. “Some people are like larks and go to bed early and wake early – feeling refreshed and ready to go to the gym at 5am,” says Dr Alison. “Others are owls, preferring to stay up late and sleeping in a little later as well. Whether you are a lark or an owl is also genetically determined.” You can always try and override your natural sleep timing but this would leave you feeling tired.

    Duration

    Naturally, nap for a short period of time and wake up ready to hit the gym? You’re a naturally short sleeper. If you naturally prefer a lie-in and like going to bed later at night, that’s your natural duration. “It is important to accept the duration of your rest, otherwise it is can lead to a lifetime of medication with no real change in your sleep,” says Dr Alison.

    Solidity

    Lastly, Dr Alison says there’s also a misconception that zzz’s happens in one solid block – uninterrupted from start to finish. “Solidity of sleep refers to the expectation that rest during the night should occur in one solid block,” she says. “However, that never really happens because we actually wake up every 90 minutes.”

    According to Dr Alison, these wake-ups are very short and good sleepers don’t even remember them. It is believed that we wake up just to check the environment – an evolutionary “safety feature”.

    “If you extend your duration by an hour, those wake-ups are also likely to expand, meaning that when you wake up normally you may stay awake for longer,” she says. “Sometimes, the first three hours of bedtime stay intact with multiple awakenings after that.”

    While many assume that any period spent awake during the night must be abnormal, Dr Alison says that literature from centuries ago suggests that it was normal to go to sleep as soon as it got dark, followed by a few hours spent awake during the night and another few hours of sleep before starting the day. “So, sleep would be in two pieces – and that was normal,” she says.

    What about tech?

    While you might be using blue light blockers to minimise your blue light exposure before bed, what about smartwatches that track your zzz’s? Dr Alison says it’s a useful tool to use. “Smart devices can give us lots of information about our sleep,” she says. “Analysis has been done on many of them looking at how accurate they are compared to the gold standard – a full overnight sleep test. They match up quite well but can be up to 40 minutes off when analysing sleep stages.” So don’t go overboard when using them as the absolute truth of your rest – it might be off by a few minutes when letting you know how many hours you’ve slept.

    They can also give valuable insights in sleep apnoea and heart rate levels during rest, says Dr Alison. “If your heart rate during the night is high and your oxygen is very variable – that is not normal.”

    Our top sleep-tracking watches

    Huawei Band 7

    With 96 workout modes and a two-week battery life, you can’t really go wrong. It tracks sleep and can identify up to six sleep-related issues.

    Fitbit Sense

    Track your time spent asleep in various sleep stages and use the app to create a personalised wind-down routine that’ll keep you accountable.

    Garmin Venu Sq 2

    Understand how your body is recovering with our improved sleep monitoring feature. After waking up, you’ll receive a sleep score as well as breakdown of your sleep stages. More

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    Wall Pilates: The Low-Impact Workout Everyone Is Obsessed With

    You’d be hard-pressed to find a workout that boasts low-impact exercises that benefit both physical and mental health (hello, mind-body connection) like Pilates does. Before you brush the fitness modality aside because reformer Pilates classes are out of your budget or you think you don’t have what it takes to become a Pilates girl from home, TikTokers stan the new version of the workout (the 6.6 billion views say it all) that you don’t want to sleep on. Enter: Wall Pilates, FitTok’s latest obsession.
    Forget any large, expensive equipment—all you need is that bare wall you’ve been meaning to dress up in order to work up a sweat. The best part? It won’t make a dent in your wallet. Whether you use it as added support or a way to level up your mat practice, consider the four walls in your home office or living room the only accessory you need to get your Pilates on. Let’s dive into what Wall Pilates is and six no-equipment-necessary workouts that’ll leave you feeling better and stronger. 

    What exactly is Wall Pilates?
    If you’ve gotten a taste of any form of Pilates, you’ve likely powered through glute bridges and the classic Pilates move that is the hundred. Well, replace the ball, band, or reformer machine with a wall as your prop to perform the exercises, and voila, you’re a Wall Pilates girlie. Translation: Wall Pilates is a variation of mat Pilates that entails pressing one or more body parts (mainly your feet) against a wall while you carry out movements like the hundred, wall squats, or plank. The wall is there to not only provide balance and stability, but also add resistance. And while your glutes and core will feel most out of the burn in Wall Pilates routines, with standing exercises that target your arms and chest (think: wall push-ups and planks), your upper body won’t get left out of the sweat sessions. 

    @blissedhappiness
    Use the wall as your Pilates prop 😁 #pilates #pilatesinstructor #pilatesworkout #abs #bodytransformation #abschallange
    ♬ Vegas (From the Original Motion Picture Soundtrack ELVIS) – Doja Cat

    How to try it for yourself
    Ready to give Wall Pilates a go? Start with these six workouts courtesy of YouTube to check off a week of movement. 

    If you’re looking to a get taste of what Wall Pilates is…
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    Just starting out on your Pilates journey? Look no further than this 10-minute, beginner-friendly workout with certified Pilates and Barre instructor Callie Jardine. Expect a glute-bridge burner, leg lifts, crunches, and some stretches to round it out. 

    If you want to focus on core, glutes, and quads…
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    Grab a mat and your favorite wall for a 20-minute routine from Pilates with Donna Finnie. You’ll ease into the flow with a round of slow plank walk-outs and work your way to the core of the workout with wall sits, bird dogs, and more. By the end of sweat sesh, your form will be *chef’s kiss*, thanks to Finnie’s detailed instruction throughout. 

    If you’re all about abs…
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    In the mood for a total ab scorcher? Follow Rachel’s Fit Pilates‘ 15-minute workout for a variation of the hundred, bicycles, side planks, and much more core work on and off the wall. Talk about a quickie, but goodie. 

    If upper body is more your thing…
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    Meet Pilates with Donna Finnie once again on the mat (and wall) to enhance mobility and increase strength. You’ll start with breathwork, followed by arm exercises like arm rotations, wall push-ups, and kneeling plank push-ups. This workout (just shy of 24 minutes) will highlight any imbalances you may have (i.e. having one arm or shoulder that feels stronger) and hone your awareness on how your body moves and feels.

    If you’re looking for a full-body workout…
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    For a full-body training, join Trifecta Pilates in standing exercises (think: single-arm wall push-ups, leg lifts, and split squats) and floor work that includes a glute bridge variation that gives major Miley Cyrus vibes (see: her “Flowers” workout) and an ab series. By the end of the 40-minute class, you’ll feel it everywhere—I mean everywhere. 

    If you’re ready to take it up a notch…
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    Wild Waves Yoga guides you through a 20-minute intermediate to advanced Wall Pilates yoga fusion workout in this video. After a proper warm-up, you’ll work the booty, legs, and core with exercises such as a bridge series, heel lifts, split squats, downward dog, finished off by a dolphin plank hold (spoiler: it’s no joke). But don’t worry—the last few minutes reward you with satisfying upper and lower body stretches. Ahh… More

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    At-Home Test Kits: From Ovulation To STDs, Here’s How To Get Results At Home

    Ah, technology. We’ve come a super long way from sitting in stirrups for test results to now, where we can simply buy an at-home test kit to know our status. From finding your fertile window to knowing your STD status, these at-home test kits are well worth the purchase, especially when you’re feeling uncertain and don’t want to sit in a queue at the clinic.

    Zoie HPV Self-Test Kit

    HPV remains one of the biggest risks to women’s overall health since it’s a major precursor of cervical cancer. South Africa has really high rates of cervical cancer. Since testing can be tedious, get results at home without visiting the clinic.

    VIVOO V3 Advanced Urine Test

    Think of this as your all-in-one health test kit. It’ll measure your levels of Magnesium, water, vitamin C, calcium, pH levels (alkaline diet, anyone?), ketone, protein, oxidative stress and sodium. There’s also an app tie-in so you can make sense of the numbers and what it means for your body, right now.

    Easy@Home Ovulation Test Strips

    This test identifies your fertile window with a whopping six days of opportunity with 99% accuracy. A complementary app lets you compare all your test results, with interactive graphs that lets you track your menstrual cycle.

    Clearblue Digital Ovulation Test

    This test identifies your two most fertile days – and it works. The digital test gives you a cute smiley face when it’s ovulating. Plus, it gets to work in just five seconds.

    DNX Medical UTI-AID Test Strips

    With accurate results in just 60 seconds, this is the same kind of kit used by doctors. Use the colour chart provided to see how your urine holds up.

    Exacto Vaginal Infection Rapid Self Test

    Gets to work in seconds. Simply insert the test into the vagina, press it onto the vaginal walls for ten seconds, then remove. Compare your result to a colour chart and get your results. Easy peasy.

    ESO Test Syphilis Rapid Screen Test

    This is an antibody test, which tests for the presence of antibodies in the human body that are produced in response to the TP bacterium. Results are delivered in 15 minutes.

    INSTI – HIV Self-Test

    Keen to know your HIV status but scared to visit the clinic? Get yourself tested at home with this quick kit. The INSTI kit provides accurate results in 1 minute, and is used by healthcare professionals, too.

    ESO Test Herpes Rapid Screen Test

    You’ll need one to two drops of blood for this test, but that’s negligible. Results are delivered within 15 minutes – no lab testing required.

    ESO Test Gonorrhoea Rapid Screen Test

    This is an antigen test, which tests directly for the presence of the gonorrhoea bacteria in the body, with high clinical accuracy. Expect results in less than 15 minutes. More

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    Everything You Need to Do Lymphatic Drainage at Home

    Amongst the workout trends taking over FitTok are countless TikTokers massaging their way to de-puffing and sculpted bliss. ICYMI, I’m referring to the uber trendy concept known as lymphatic drainage massage, AKA the holy grail of naturally flushing out toxins, revving up the immune system, rejuvenating cellular function, and minimizing excess fluid retention and bloat.
    So how does it actually work? Think of the lymphatic system as the body’s “sewage system,” whose purpose is to help detoxify and get rid of damaged cells, bacteria, or toxins (read more about the lymphatic system here). With the helping hand of a gua sha, dry brush, or your literal hands, you can manually manipulate specific areas of your body to encourage the flow of (read: drain) lymphatic fluid toward the lymph nodes where it’s filtered and fed back into the bloodstream. Bottom line: You can take a DIY approach to boosting the health of your lymphatic system with simple tools. Read on for a mini tutorial on trying it for yourself—be it your face or body—products and all.
     
    Face
    Bye bye, swelling and puffiness. Hello there, cheekbones and defined jawline! Moving excess fluid out of the facial area translates to a de-puffing, swelling-reduction, dullness-combating effect (albeit temporary). Proponents of facial lymphatic drainage massages can’t get enough of the wellness trend thanks to the glowing, healthier-looking complexion it leaves (if it’s a J.Lo-worthy glow, consider me sold). Other benefits include aiding in improving blood circulation, bringing fresh nutrients to the skin through blood flow, supporting healthy cell production, and taking time for self-care. To give some TLC to your face, use the tips of your fingers or a massage tool to work your lymphatic system, starting in the middle of the face and working up and out towards the ears, before gently bringing it down the neck. 
     

    @yurileeeee
    I’m not a specialist in lymphatic drainage, I’ve seen this technique on TikTok, and internet how to open lymphatic nodes. I’ve recently started doing it, but i only do it when I have extra time🥰 #guasha #lymphaticdrainage #slimmerface #stayyoung #lookyounger #massage
    ♬ original sound – Skinfluencer

     
    Full body
    You’ve likely seen before-and-after pics of lymphatic drainage massage recipients (namely their abdomens) and that alone was enough to convince you to take a stab at it (I don’t blame you). The reasoning behind the contoured look? Lymphatic drainage may help reduce water retention and bloat, which may have a temporary visual slimming effect. And the perks don’t stop there: throw in enhancing the immune system, stimulating the digestive system, and potentially minimizing PMS symptoms like headaches and pelvic pains. 

     
    And if you don’t want to buy anything at all…
    Your hands and some body oil can get the job done too (a mirror might be helpful as well, especially if you’re new to the technique). When performing a lymphatic self-massage, using slow, gentle, and rhythmic strokes and applying them in the direction of the lymph node, or upward, are key. According to a Vogue interview with lymphatic massage expert Flavia Lanini, begin by pressing on the area just below your collarbones to get the drainage started, then press the armpit three times on both sides. Next, shift your focus to the arms and stroke from the elbow to the shoulder on both sides.
    To give it a go on your stomach, Rebecca Faria, a licensed lymphatic drainage specialist and founder of Detox By Rebecca, gave a how-to in an interview with InStyle: Start by opening your lymph nodes with light presses, then make circular, clockwise movements around your navel, followed by consecutive up-and-down movements, from your stomach to your lymph nodes. “Then, turn to one side of your body and, using both hands, make pushing movements from the side towards the lymph nodes,” she explained. Don’t forget about the other side!
    Finally, to massage the legs, lay the palm of your hands right at the crease of one thigh, and move upwards toward the navel in a wave-like motion. Repeat on the other leg. 
    And because nothing is more satisfying than sweating it out, give your lymphatic system a leg up by using an infrared sauna blanket before your hands-on treatment. By stimulating your lymphatic system first to detox through sweat, your body is better able to remove toxins at a cellular level while preparing your lymph nodes for more effective drainage. 
     

    @gracie_norton
    lymphatic drainage stomach massages have made such a big difference in my swelling, water retention, & inflammation! I feel the best results when I do this lying down so that my stomach is completely relaxed 💛 I always make sure to drink plenty of water after this too! #wellnesstok #wellnesshabits #wellness #healthyhabits
    ♬ Storytelling – Adriel

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    We Need To Talk About Hysterectomies And How They Really Affect Women

    Hysterectomies affect millions of women of all ages. Yet, receives almost no attention. A newly released book and podcast by Melanie Verwoerd under the title: “Never Waste a Good Hysterectomy” aims to break this cycle of silence.

    How common are hysterectomies?

    The Stats

    Estimations are that 1 out of 5 women will have a hysterectomy by age 55. In America, the procedure is performed on 600 000 women annually. There are approximately 20 million American women at any stage who have had hysterectomies. In the EU, about 1.5 million hysterectomies are performed per annum, compared to 55 000 in the UK, 700 000 in India and 41 000 in Canada.

    There are no statistics available in South Africa.

    “We know that hysterectomies affect women of all ages,” says Melanie. “However, if we look at the patterns globally we know that the majority of hysterectomies are performed on women over 40 and it increases over 50.”

    That’s not to say that young women don’t get hysterectomies. There are medical reasons to undergo the procedure, with Lena Dunham opening up about her procedure and the fallout. For some, hysterectomies might be necessary when dealing with endometriosis or fibroids.

    Dealing with hysterectomies

    Having a hysterectomy is a radical, invasive operation. It involves removing the uterus, meaning a woman can no longer give birth. It also has an impact on a woman’s hormones, since the uterus is the housing station for hormones like oestrogen and progesterone.

    For Melanie, her hysterectomy happened when doctors discovered a growth in her uterus. “When an ovarian growth is detected (usually through an ultrasound), they will usually (if you can afford it) do a CT or MRI scan. If they can see that it is a hard mass of a certain size – and not a fluid-filled cyst, they get more worried,” she explains.

    “The sad and infuriating thing is that the only way they can then determine whether it is malignant or benign is to do surgery to remove the growth and for pathologists to look at it.

    “However, because they don’t want to do another surgery if the growth is indeed malignant, they will almost always do a pre-emptive radical hysterectomy. (Where they remove, the ovaries, uterus, some ligaments, and the cervix.) They usually also remove part of the omentum, which is a fatty curtain that protects your organs – but where cancer cells like to hide.  They will usually do an abdominal cut (as opposed to laparoscopic or vaginal procedure) because they don’t want parts of the tumour to chip off and “seed” in your abdomen if it is cancer. This of course means that it is a much bigger operation that involves a much longer recovery period.”

    The Research

    What’s infuriating for Melanie is that so little money and time is spent on research in the women’s health space that detecting and treating conditions such as hers ends up being invasive, costly and mentally and physically draining.

    “For example, more than double the amount of research funding globally is spent on prostate cancer. Thus, today, prostate cancers can be detected through simple non-invasive blood tests,” Melanie says. “Unsurprisingly, the 5-year survival rate for ovarian cancer is around 29% compared to over 95% in prostate cancer.”

    Hysterectomies take looong to recover from

    One of the things not spoken about enough is the long recovery time, as well as the emotional toll it takes on women. “Women are often told that it takes a maximum of 6 weeks to be back to your old self again,” says Melanie.

    “I have not met a single woman who felt that way. Although vaginal and laparoscopic hysterectomies have much shorter recovery times than abdominal cuts, it can take months for women to feel 100% fine again in all aspects. “

    The Psychological Ramifications

    “It is not only physical but there are a lot of psychological ramifications as well,” explains Melanie. After having undergone such a procedure, it’s common for women to feel depressed. Then there’s how the hysterectomy affects young women who have yet to enter menopause.

    “If ovaries are removed in pre-menopausal women it will of course put them into immediate menopause and so they have to deal with the intense hormonal crash,” says Melanie. “Many women also find that they gain weight, which is most probably more linked to hormonal changes than the actual operation and some find it very difficult to get their sexual groove back.”

    Then there are all the other physical changes that happen post-op. There can be complications post-op, like prolapse (when organs start to exit the vagina), incontinence (urine leakage), bleeding and general pelvic floor problems. All of these take a long time to resolve, from months to a year, if there’s adequate and rigorous treatment. And it can affect a woman’s sex life in a big way.

    Melanie’s hope with the book and accompanying podcast is to shed light on the matter and press for further research into the issue, so that women aren’t faced with such dire odds in the doctor’s office.

    Never Waste a Good Hysterectomy: The Podcast (available on all major platforms) features interviews with health and medical experts. Common questions such as: “Where did my pelvic floor go? How to get my sexual groove back? What happens on the day of the operation? How much bleeding is normal? Why are my hormones playing havoc? How to recover emotionally and get your partner to wash the dishes and cut the lawn during your recovery” are answered.

    The podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and all other major podcast platforms. More

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    Ditch Crunches: 9 Moves That Target Your Pelvic Floor and Seriously Tone Your Core

    Crunches may be the most basic ab workout, but it is not the most effective at getting results or building strength. With traditional crunches, you’re isolating only the muscles on the front and sides of your abdomen, but you’re leaving out the most critical part of the abs: the pelvic floor muscles. The pelvic floor muscles form the base of the group of muscles commonly called the “core.” These muscles work with the deep abdominal, back muscles, and the diaphragm (breathing muscle) to support the spine. When it comes to your workouts, targeting the pelvic floor may be the secret to actually seeing results. 
    That’s right: You can yoga-pose and Pilates-girl your way to better abs, and celebrity trainer Lia Bartha is going to show you how. Bartha, the founder of B The Method, has worked with supermodels and actresses alike to strengthen, restore, and protect their bodies through her own method that involves pilates-based, low-impact movements. Read on to get the 411 from Bartha on the moves she recommends to target your pelvic floor.

    Meet the expert
    Lia Bartha
    Celebrity Fitness Instructor and Founder of B The Method
    A former dancer with scoliosis and multiple injuries, Bartha created B The Method, a mix of highly unique pilates-based, low-impact movements—with inspiration from dance and swimming—to strengthen, restore, and protect her own body. Since becoming a fitness expert, she has trained celebrities such as Martha Hunt and Aubrey Plaza.

    Why is the pelvic floor so important?
    When your pelvic floor is either too tight or too weak, it can cause many symptoms from pain with sex to the inability to orgasm to a leaky bladder or constipation. People don’t put enough emphasis on caring for this muscle group because they don’t know what it is, where to find it, and why it matters. The pelvic floor is a hammock of muscles located between the tailbone and pubic bone in the pelvis, and your workouts can have a huge impact on the health of your pelvic floor.
    High-impact exercises, lifting heavy weights, jumping, clenching while working out, and not breathing properly can cause the pelvic floor to become too tight. This can lead to so many issues within the body. The same goes for not putting any care and emphasis on strengthening this muscle group. Therefore, you need to pay attention to both strengthening the pelvic floor (for many benefits, including toning those ab muscles) as well as stretching or lengthening the pelvic floor. Try these nine moves below that Bartha recommends for a variety of both toning and stretching the pelvic floor muscles. 

    Nine moves to target your pelvic floor

    1. Happy baby
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    Lay down on your back with your knees bent and feet in the air. Hold your big toes with your fingers, and press your tailbone down to the floor in a neutral pelvis. This position will actively stretch your pelvic floor and force it to relax. 

    2. Open butterfly stretch on a ball
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    Sit on top of a small stability ball, like this one, with your legs open wide. Lay your chest forward toward the ground with your arms straight on the floor. Rock your hips side to side on the ball. This position will actively stretch your pelvic floor while stimulating blood flow.

    3. Tabletop legs on your back
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    The tabletop position is a go-to for working the deep layer of the abs in Pilates, and Bartha’s variation has an extra intense focus on the pelvic floor. Start laying on your back and lift your legs up at a 90-degree angle, one leg at a time. Follow the sequence (starting at around one minute into Bartha’s guided workout video, above) to work multiple muscles in the pelvic floor. 

    4. Circle gut massage
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    Lay down on your stomach with the ball placed under your low abdominals and pelvis. It will fit right in that “v” muscle area. Circle your hips five times in one direction and then switch directions. This will stretch, massage, and reset the gut, hips, and lower abdominals.

    5. Bent leg circles
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    Lay on your back in a neutral pelvis and spine. Lift your legs into a tabletop position. Either lying flat or lifting your neck and shoulders slightly with hands clasped behind your head, start to circle your legs in opposite directions from each other. Then, repeat in the other direction. This move will strengthen the pelvic floor and inner thigh muscles while loosening up the hips. 

    6. Moving frog plank
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    Get into a child’s pose with your feet tucked underneath. Lift your knees and press out into a plank position with a slightly externally rotated hip. Your toes are apart, and your heels are squeezed together. Now, push back on your arms and into a child’s pose position, but keep the knees hovered. This move will both stretch and strengthen the pelvic floor in a single exercise.

    7. Core bridging
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    Lay on your back with your feet and knees in parallel. Start to tuck your hips up into a bridge but make sure not to clench the glutes. Lead the exercise from the lower abdominals, pelvic floor, and inner thighs. You won’t be able to lift as high, but you will definitely understand why this is good for orgasms when you get into the position. You will feel the connection to that pelvic region. 

    8. Standing leg lifts
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    When you engage your core while standing, you’re also able to work your balance, which is targeting your core on an even deeper level. Try bending your leg and bringing your knee as high as you can so you feel your core activate. You can go from a lunge position into a knee lift, or do a slow march in place (try Bartha’s routine starting at 15 minutes in the workout above). 

    9. Bear plank
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    Start on your hands and knees with your wrists directly underneath your shoulders, your knees directly underneath your hips, and your spine in a neutral position. Engage your core and lift your knees one inch off the ground. Hold for a few breaths and then lower the knees, repeating a few times in a row.  More

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    I Have a Small Friend Group, and TBH, It’s Lovely

    When I was nine years old, I watched Aquamarine on repeat in my room because TBH, I didn’t have any friends. The characters that Emma Roberts, Sara Paxton, JoJo, and Arielle Kebbel played were the girlfriends I always wanted and needed. But after moving with my family to a new state, I was, for lack of a better term, a loner. The new girl in town. And somehow, I haven’t ever escaped that title.
    Between the ages of nine and 24, I moved seven times across three different states. Starting fresh is something I kick ass fat, but what I struggle with is making new friends and maintaining long-distance friendships. I envy the girls I know who have had the same best friend since kindergarten (my sister) and the girls I know who had like a million bridesmaids (none of them ever being me). The friends I have had throughout my life have been 1) people from school, 2) friends of my family members, 3) friends of my partner, and 4) coworkers. So, they all have fallen under the category of obligated or temporary.
    At this point in my life, I’ve accepted the fact that long-standing, close friendships, might always be unfamiliar to me. And after many years of thinking something was wrong with me or that I should be embarrassed by that, I became OK with having a few here and there. That doesn’t mean I’m not still envious of those who do have those types of friendships, it just means I have learned to value the friends that I do have, no matter how they came into my life, how long we stay consistent friends, or how “close” I consider them to be.
    Most of the time, it’s not as sad as it sounds. I don’t consider myself “the girl with no friends” anymore, but I’ll be honest when I say I’m still “the girl with no plans.” My friends and I are like ships in the night. We try to make plans more often than we do but our schedules differ, our lives get in the way, and we end up sending “we need to get together soon!” or “let me know what you end up doing Saturday!” texts that we forget to follow up on. It does make the time we spend together IRL incredibly special, but those times are few and far between.
    If you can relate and need a reminder of the good that can come from having a small friend group, I’ve done some serious reflecting and am outlining the silver linings below:

    The Perks of Small Friend Groups
    I’ll be the first to admit that having a small friend group can be really lonely at times, but it’s not all bad all the time. There are some pretty good perks on the flip side of it like being able to form stronger bonds, only having to remember a handful of birthdays, and more noteworthy advantages:

    There’s less drama
    There’s no room for he-said-she-said when there are only a few of you. The drama that comes with a big friend group is practically non-existent in a small friend group, and when you’re in your late twenties like me, that’s a true blessing. That’s not to say that everything is perfect all the time, but there is less friction than there probably would be if our friendship dynamics were shared with more people.

    You can have stronger connections
    You know when you’re at a party and you’re trying to circulate and talk to everyone? You might know a lot of people and consider them friends, but the conversations hardly ever go beyond the “how’s it going” stage. Now think about when you’re spending time with a few friends and how different those conversations are. We’re way more likely to open up, have deeper conversations, and really listen to each other. I know we’ve all heard this a million times, but friendships really are about quality over quantity.
    And I know this is small potatoes, but when you only have a handful of friends, it’s pretty easy to remember all of their important dates: birthdays, anniversaries, etc., and I always think that sets a good friend apart from a great one.

    You always have time for self-care
    My favorite perk of them all? The amount of time that I get to spend with myself. Sure, there are some nights I wish a friend was available to grab dinner instead of having no plans, but more often than not, I’m pretty excited to cuddle up on the couch, do a facemask, and shop online while I watch a rom-com. Spending more time with myself means I can spend more time working on myself. I’m trying new fitness classes, reading more books, becoming more self-aware, prioritizing my goals, and a million other things that have made me a better person. Because of this, I’m becoming a better friend to the ones I do have.

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    Are These “Bloat” Pills Worth the Hype? What I Learned on Arrae

    Editor’s Note: This article briefly discusses eating disorders and eating disorder recovery. Please take care of yourself if those topics could be triggering.
    What is five letters and on just about everyone’s lips? B-L-O-A-T, y’all. Everywhere I turn—socials, podcasts, and even text chats with friends—there’s talk of the persistent discomfort. We swap stories of leaving restaurants with our pants unbuttoned (I’m Team Elastic Waistband for life). We compare the foods that seem to set us off (cauliflower and I share a love-hate relationship). And perhaps much to older generations’ chagrin, discussing poop is no longer taboo (in fact, you can find the shortcode ‘BM’ thrown around as casually as a ‘lol’).
    Just as everyone’s talking about bloat, the convo is quickly followed by, “Have you tried Arrae?” When I first heard of the brand, I was quick to rope it in with other of-the-moment, social media-born brands. A quick spin around its website reveals a gradient of muted hues, buzzwords like “holistically,” “wellbeing,” and “filler-free.” My initial response? A mix of *rolls eyes* and intrigue. That’s probably why I pride myself on my approach to trending product deep dives: as a skeptic at heart, I love sorting through the BS to find the truth. And that’s exactly what I’m doing with Arrae today. Are their “Bloat” capsules really worth the hype? Let’s investigate.

    What are Arrae’s Bloat Capsules?
    Widely lauded by creators and trainers alike, it’s clear that Arrae is taking the wellness world by storm. Their bottles have even popped up at Erewhon (confirmation that a brand has truly made it, of course). “Bloat,” their hero product, is garnering fans including Melissa Wood, Molly Sims, and Hailey Bieber. This clinically-tested product is said to work in under an hour to decrease bloating, gas, or digestive discomfort, as well as optimize digestion. It achieves this through all-natural ingredients such as bromelain (for speeding up food breakdown), lemon balm (for gas prevention), and slippery elm (for digestive organ protection). It is said to reduce IBS symptoms (such as abdominal pain, acid reflux, and constipation) by 77%, and reduce bloating by 86%. The product has extremely impressive claims, so I wanted to see if there was any truth to it.

    Why I wanted to try them
    Because everyone’s experience with supplements varies, I’ll share a little insight as to where I’m kicking off my Arrae journey before diving into my experience. And because there’s no way around it, I’m going to get TMI with you. Based on conversations with my dietitian, it’s clear that my digestive issues are the result of a decades-long struggle with an eating disorder. However, I’m well into recovery and actively working to develop a kinder, healthier relationship with food. It did make me question, though, could the use of a bloat-reducing pill trigger symptoms of the disorder?
    After discussing this with my dietitian, it was clear that with my body image in a solid place, working with bloat-reducing pills was simply my desire to feel more comfortable and build up my confidence in eating foods my stomach didn’t agree with in the past (again, cauliflower). What’s more, there are a couple of key things to note about “Bloat” that made me feel confident in proceeding with the test:

    It’s designed to be used on an as-needed basis and is not habit-forming—the “Bloat” pills are not laxatives.
    “Bloat” is formulated with clean, natural ingredients that I could recognize, including ginger root, lemon balm, dandelion root, and peppermint.
    While it’s said to provide immediate relief within an hour, this was the kicker for me: it also supports your microbiome over time. And I knew my gut could use all the help it could get.

    My experience using Arrae’s “Bloat” capsules
    When I’ve conducted similar product reviews, I’ve tested them over a seven-day period. However, because Arrae is designed to be used as needed, I’m reflecting on the benefits I’ve noticed and felt when using it as directed. And readers, I’ll tease my conclusion here with a zealous wow! Remember my initial eye roll? Well, I’ve been humbled by the magic that is Arrae “Bloat” capsules. Here are the main benefits I noticed over my trial period:

    I woke up feeling comfortable and energized after indulgent meals
    The first time I decided to use “Bloat,” it coincided with a particularly decadent meal made by my partner. He cooked two steaks perfectly medium-rare and topped each with a pan sauce that pulled out all the stops (butter, cream, and olive oil). We roasted rainbow carrots with a miso-maple syrup glaze. And to finish things off, a very full glass of red wine. As someone who prioritizes eating plant-based, I only eat meat a few times throughout the month. What’s more, I consider alcohol an occasional weekend beverage. Clearly, this meal was a bit out of the norm. As instructed by the bottle, I took two “Bloat” capsules right after eating.
    When they say that the relief is immediate—believe it. Within an hour, I had gone from feeling sluggish and beyond full to noticing an unfamiliar comfort settle in. What’s more, eating a rich meal so close to bed usually disrupts my sleep. But the next morning, I woke up feeling refreshed and without the I-swallowed-a-bowling-ball-last-night sensation. I may have turned away from these foods in the past, and turned down the opportunity to have a romantic dinner with my partner, but the experience—sans digestive drama—gave me a newfound sense of confidence around these once-triggering foods.

    I’m wearing my tight pants again
    That’s right, thanks to these “Bloat” capsules, I’m taking a sweats and leggings hiatus and actually wearing jeans again. While it may sound superficial or small, for someone who used to be afraid of that too-tight sensation after a meal, to comfortably and confidently wear jeans during the day is no small feat. A week ago, I went out for happy hour with a few friends. I was wearing a new favorite leather skirt that admittedly took a lot of hyping myself up to throw on. We ordered drinks and appetizers, and after a couple of hours, I realized I made it through the entire night without once wishing I could rip off my clothes. (Dramatic, but true.) 
    My secret weapon? In addition to the Bloat capsules, this was the occasion when I knew Arrae’s “Gut Boost” would come in clutch. As instructed, I mixed two dropperfuls into my water before our food and drinks came. In truth, it tasted a bit like an Aperol Spritz—a welcome surprise. The supplement is said to prime your digestive system, making it easier for your body to absorb nutrients and break down food faster. And while I don’t know all the scientific ins and outs behind it, I certainly felt them. Between the Gut Boost and Bloat capsules, I walked away from that happy hour standing up straight, feeling comfortable, and without the usual digestive drama I’d likely be feeling. 

    I’m—*ahem*—far more regular than before
    Now that I’ve had the experience of using both the “Bloat” capsules and “Gut Boost,” I’ve fallen into a comfortable rhythm that suits my digestion best. “Bloat” is still my go-to when I need it (read: after indulgent meals or foods like cauliflower I know will make me bloat), but I now take “Gut Boost” before every meal and have noticed a significant improvement in my digestion, reduced bloat, and yes—progress with my bowel movements. 
    If you’re a girlie who also understands the struggle of constipation, then you get me: there’s nothing more relieving than experiencing regularity. Nowadays, using the products in tandem, my digestion is the best it’s ever been. And honestly, there’s nothing better than feeling like my body is supported in doing exactly what it needs to help me feel my best.

    The takeaway
    Yes, my opinion of Arrae took a total 180 after trying its supplements. I’ll confirm (and scream it from the rooftops): I’m obsessed. Chronic bloat has set me back for much of my life, and in recovery from my eating disorder, it’s made it difficult to move forward. But with Arrae to lean on, I’m now comfortable with many of the foods and contexts that I once avoided.
    Of course, it needs to be noted: these products are expensive. I purchased the “Deep Digestion Duo” for $85, “Gut Boost” will run you $42, and the “Bloat” capsules are $48. (Note: Each is slightly less expensive if purchased as a subscription.) My dietitian suggested a cheaper alternative to sipping on digestion; supportive teas such as ginger or peppermint. For more accessible tips on beating bloat, consult this dietitian’s list.
    If you’ve been on the fence about whether or not to try Arrae, I’ll say this: for the comfort and relief I’ve experienced, I’ve found the products to be worth the price. However, if this is a barrier, by no means is it something you need to experience optimal health. After all, when it comes to wellness, simplicity reigns supreme. I encourage you to make empowered choices that come from a place of trusting what supports you best. For me, that’s Arrae.

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