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    7 of the best spots in Dubai for a cup of hot chocolate


    by Sarah Joseph
    3 hours ago

    As the Christmas trees begin to light up, all we can dream about is a cup of hot chocolate as we’re all wrapped up watching a festive film.
    With one heavenly sip at a time, this winter drink serves as the perfect comfort beverage to cater to all crave something richer from time to time.
    For all the hot chocolate aficionados, we’ve curated the ultimate guide of where devour a warm cup with your loved ones.
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    The cast of Friends pay a loving tribute to late actor Matthew Perry


    by Ruman Baig
    30 mins ago

    On October 28, actor Matthew Perry, popularly known for his portrayal of Chandler Bing on ’90s sitcom Friends, passed away.
    The news shocked the entertainment fraternity and his fans across the globe. His cast-mates of a decade from the show, including Courteney Cox, Jennifer Aniston, Lisa Kudrow, Matt LeBlanc and David Schwimmer were seen grieving their sudden loss at his funeral.
    After weeks of processing this tragedy in private, the OG 5 from Friends took to Instagram to share their thoughts and pay a loving tribute to the late actor.
    Starting with Joey, followed by Monica, Phoebe, Rachel and Ross – the beloved group from the Central Perk coffee house, mourned their loss. Their words about the actor went beyond the camaraderie they shared on-screen – let’s take a look at each of their heart-warming posts.
    Matt LeBlanc

    “Matthew, It is with a heavy heart I say goodbye. The times we had together are honestly among the favorite times of my life. It was an honor to share the stage with you and to call you my friend. I will always smile when I think of you and I’ll never forget you. Never. Spread your wings and fly brother you’re finally free. Much love. And I guess you’re keeping the 20 bucks you owe me.”
    Courteney Cox

    “I am so grateful for every moment I had with you Matty and I miss you every day. When you work with someone as closely as I did with Matthew, there are thousands of moments I wish I could share. For now here’s one of my favorites. To give a little backstory, Chandler and Monica were supposed to have a one night fling in London. But because of the audience’s reaction, it became the beginning of their love story. In this scene, before we started rolling, he whispered a funny line for me to say.
    He often did things like that. He was funny and he was kind. ️”
    Jennifer Aniston

    “Oh boy this one has cut deep… Having to say goodbye to our Matty has been an insane wave of emotions that I’ve never experienced before. We all experience loss at some point in our lives. Loss of life or loss of love. Being able to really SIT in this grief allows you to feel the moments of joy and gratitude for having loved someone that deep. And we loved him deeply. He was such a part of our DNA. We were always the 6 of us. This was a chosen family that forever changed the course of who we were and what our path was going to be. For Matty, he KNEW he loved to make people laugh. As he said himself, if he didn’t hear the ‘laugh’ he thought he was going to die. His life literally depended on it. And boy did he succeed in doing just that. He made all of us laugh. And laugh hard. In the last couple weeks, I’ve been poring over our texts to one another. Laughing and crying then laughing again. I’ll keep them forever and ever. I found one text that he sent me out of nowhere one day. It says it all. (See the second slide…)
    Matty, I love you so much and I know you are now completely at peace and out of any pain. I talk to you every day… sometimes I can almost hear you saying “could you BE any crazier?”
    Rest little brother.You always made my day…”
    David Schwimmer

    Thank you for ten incredible years of laughter and creativity.
    I will never forget your impeccable comic timing and delivery. You could take a straight line of dialogue and bend it to your will, resulting in something so entirely original and unexpectedly funny it still astonishes.
    And you had heart. Which you were generous with, and shared with us, so we could create a family out of six strangers.
    This photo is from one of my favorite moments with you. Now it makes me smile and grieve at the same time.
    I imagine you up there, somewhere, in the same white suit, hands in your pockets, looking around—
    “Could there BE any more clouds?”
    Lisa Kudrow

    “Shot the pilot, Friends Like Us, got picked up then immediately, we were at the NBC Upfronts. Then…You suggested we play poker AND made it so much fun while we initially bonded. Thank you for that.Thank you for making me laugh so hard at something you said, that my muscles ached, and tears poured down my face EVERY DAY.Thank you for your open heart in a six way relationship that required compromise. And a lot of “talking.”Thank you for showing up at work when you weren’t well and then, being completely brilliant.Thank you for the best 10 years a person gets to have.Thank you for trusting me.Thank you for all I learned about GRACE and LOVE through knowing you.Thank you for the time I got to have with you, Matthew.”
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    Which Taylor Swift song describes you according to your zodiac sign?


    by Ruman Baig
    7 mins ago

    In the recent few days, if you’ve repeatedly watched a clip of Taylor Swift running into the arms of NFL player Travis Kelce during her Argentica show on your timeline, you can probably fathom the extent of her dominance on pop culture.

    UC Berkeley will soon offer a college course to study the meteoric rise of Taylor as a singer, songwriter and an influencer with an unmatchable chokehold on this generation.
    Her music always draws a parallel to her life – following her joruney through the teenage days, her ’20s and now ’30s. People, especially women have found her music to be cathartic and relatable. Each of her album (now known as an era) defines a time in her life and the vulnerability with which she lead it.
    Being a Taylor fan is not just about loving her music, it’s about being a part of a community in the girl world. If you’re a Swiftie, you believe in signs, you manifest, you wish when it’s 11:11, you hold girlhood sacred  and follow everything that makes you a dreamer in the larger scheme of things.
    To play further into the karmic connection between this popstar and your actual stars, we’ve decoded the the celestial symphony of TS’ discography, and how each song resonates uniquely with the essence of different zodiac signs.
    From the fiery Aries to the dreamy Pisces, let’s explore the cosmic connections that bind Taylor’s lyrics with the spirit of each astrological sign.
    Aries (March 21 – April 19): “Shake It Off”
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    Aries, the bold trailblazers of the zodiac, find their anthem in “Shake It Off.” With lyrics like “Players gonna play, play, play, play, play,” Taylor encourages the confident and resilient Aries to embrace their individuality and rise above any challenges.
    Taurus (April 20 – May 20): “Wildest Dreams”
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    Taureans, known for their sensuality and love for the finer things, connect deeply with the romantic allure of “Wildest Dreams.” Swift’s enchanting lyrics mirror the Taurus longing for a timeless, indulgent love affair.
    Gemini (May 21 – June 20): “Blank Space”
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    Geminis, the social butterflies of the zodiac, can relate to the ever-changing narrative in “Blank Space.” Taylor’s witty lyrics capture the duality of Geminis, who navigate through relationships with a playful and adaptable spirit.
    Cancer (June 21 – July 22): “Love Story”
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    The nostalgic and nurturing nature of Cancers align seamlessly with “Love Story.” Taylor’s classic tale of love against all odds resonates with the sentimental hearts of Cancers, who crave a fairy tale romance.
    Leo (July 23 – August 22): “Look What You Made Me Do”
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    Bold, theatrical Leos find their anthem in the defiant “Look What You Made Me Do.” With lyrics like “I got a list of names, and yours is in red underlined,” Taylor empowers Leos to stand tall and embrace their regal presence.
    Virgo (August 23 – September 22): “Style”
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    Virgos, with their keen attention to detail and refined taste, connect with the sophisticated allure of “Style.” Taylor’s lyrics capture the subtle nuances of Virgo’s meticulous approach to love and aesthetics.
    Libra (September 23 – October 22): “You Belong with Me”
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    Romantic Libras, driven by a desire for harmony, resonate with the sweet yearning in “You Belong with Me.” Taylor’s lyrics echo the Libran pursuit of balance and a perfect, mutual connection in love.
    Scorpio (October 23 – November 21): “I Knew You Were Trouble”
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    Passionate Scorpios find resonance in the intense emotions of “I Knew You Were Trouble.” Taylor’s lyrics mirror the Scorpio experience of navigating the complexities of love and embracing transformation.
    Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21): “Fearless”
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    Adventurous Sagittarians connect with the fearless spirit of “Fearless.” Taylor’s lyrics capture the bold optimism and free-spirited nature of Sagittarians, who fearlessly chase after their dreams.
    Capricorn (December 22 – January 19): “New Romantics”
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    Ambitious and disciplined Capricorns resonate with the determination in “New Romantics.” Taylor’s lyrics inspire Capricorns to approach love with a strategic yet open-hearted mindset.
    Aquarius (January 20 – February 18): “Welcome To New York”
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    Eccentric Aquarians find their anthem in the unconventional vibes of “Welcome To New York.” Taylor’s lyrics capture the Aquarian spirit of embracing change and celebrating individuality.
    Pisces (February 19 – March 20): “Enchanted”
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    Dreamy Pisceans connect deeply with the enchanting melodies of “Enchanted.” Taylor’s lyrics mirror the romantic and ethereal nature of Pisces, who seek a connection that transcends the ordinary.
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    Emirates Dubai 7s: Everything to know about the upcoming three-day event


    by Sarah Joseph
    4 hours ago

    The countdown officially begins to one of the biggest events of the season!
    Dubai’s highly anticipated Emirates Dubai 7s event for everyone from sporting fans to festival goers, families, fitness enthusiasts, and more is all set to take place next month.
    Where will it take place?
    This year-ending spectacle will take place at Dubai’s Sevens Stadium, making it the ultimate event weekend for all during the National Day holidays.
    This extravagant affair will take place from Friday, December 1 to Sunday, December 3, 2023.
    The Emirates Dubai 7s packed schedule also includes a number of Invitational tournaments for the sporting extravaganza. Across the three days, there will be 16 rugby tournaments, 6 netball competitions, 3 cricket and fitness tournaments, as well as 8 padel events, attracting nearly 5,000 athletes. Invitational schedules will be released on the Emirates Dubai 7s website in the coming weeks.
    To view the full schedule visit here.

    All set to ensure entertainment reigns supreme at the festival, the British dance-pop sensation, Becky Hill and American house DJ, MK promising to amplify the epic three-day-long experience. On Saturday, December 2, the double Brits award winner Becky Hill will headline on the Frequency on 8 stage, bringing her head-bopping chart-topping hits including Lose Control, My Heart Goes, Disconnect, and more. For the house music fans, DJ MK will also perform on the Saturday, taking to the Frequency on 8 stage with his top tracks including 17, Back & Forth, Burning, and more. Additionally, local artists will such as Rugby Rocks, Heineken Tavern, Beats on 2 and Frequency on 8, are ready to bring their best foot forward during the three-day galore.
    Ticket options for the sporting weekend include the ultimate Hangar Hospitality for an upscale and all-access experience, Weekend General Admission and Weekend Reserved Seating, as well as single-day tickets that are available in limited quantities. Children under 12 years of age gain free entry during the weekend. General admission for the entire weekend is Dhs550 and day tickets for Saturday and Sunday are Dhs425.
    For the ultimate VIP experience, the package starts at Dhs1,950 for the best views of all the sporting action, free-flowing food and drinks.
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    What’s transcendental meditation and how does it elevate your mind, body and spirit?


    by Amy Sessions
    3 hours ago

    Dr Maha Ema, Director of Transcendental Meditation, UAE, talks to Emirates Woman about how it elevates your mind, body and spirit.
    What does the first 30 minutes of your day look like, your morning routine?
    After your first TM session of the day, you’ll feel enthused and energised and actively looking forward to a super-productive day. There is a real joy that comes from being relaxed, happy, focused, and productive first thing in the morning and TM is key to achieving this.
    What is Transcendental Meditation?
    Transcendental Meditation (TM) is the simplest and most effortless form of meditation. It uses only the natural tendency of the mind to move effortlessly in the direction of more and more contentment. This means that no control, effort, or concentration is required. When you learn TM, you are learning the timeless technique of effortless transcending – of how to allow the mind access to the ocean of consciousness beyond the busy waves of surface-level mental activity. TM is taught by fully trained experts who will teach you how to dive deep within yourself to experience and harness the fabulous breadth and depth of our creative minds.
    How often should it be practised?
    The great advantage of TM is that we only need to practise it twice a day, morning, and evening, and for only 20 minutes a session, but the benefits will be long-lasting and be felt for the rest of the day, and then with regular practise, the benefits continue to compound and develop over your lifetime.
    What are the key benefits both in terms of mind and body?
    People who practise TM find that they have greater mental clarity and broadened comprehension. Focus and concentration levels are higher and there is a greater ability to draw on deeper reisserves of intelligence and creativity, making problem-solving and innovative thinking much stronger. TM produces unique levels of metabolic rest, allowing residual fatigue and deep-rooted stresses to be dissolved naturally, resulting in greater calm and inner serenity. The result is that we achieve more, more successfully with less negative consequences like burnout and anxiety. All TM’s benefits have been scientifically validated in over 390 peer-reviewed studies.

    Are there any indications of when you are successfully activating this practise — what can signify this?
    There are two main indicators. Firstly, the performance itself is easy, relaxed, and enjoyable. Those who practise TM look forward to their sessions because there are no preset demands to achieve outcomes. They can simply relax into it and enjoy it! The second indicator comes in the spontaneous growth of benefits across a wide spectrum of markers in cognitive development, mental health and in physical and emotional wellness.
    Will you feel sleepy afterwards?
    TM wakes up the mind and body, giving much greater energy and momentum. By providing deep rejuvenating rest, TM recharges depleted reserves, resulting in greater mental and physical resources at our disposal so that we can achieve our goals with less effort.
    How does this differ from other meditation practises?
    There are so many meditation practises out there and as a result, many people who come to learn TM have already tried another form of meditation. A very common remark of new TM-meditators is just how much simpler and fulfilling TM is to practise compared to other practised techniques. The reasons generally given are the absence of focus, concentration, and outcome-emphasis in TM.
    Why is it important to be guided by a certified Transcendental Meditation teacher and how long is the course of instruction?
    When someone learns TM, they are learning a valuable life-skill. Everyone owes it to themselves to learn from a properly qualified, accredited teacher, as this guarantees you’ll benefit from correct training from an expert and the advantage of a lifetime’s worth of support across more than 100 countries worldwide. The instruction course in TM requires four consecutive days of attendance of roughly 90 minutes per session.
    You’re given your own sound for life to use during this practice. What happens if someone forgets this?
    Any aspect of the training course can be refreshed at the meditator’s request. This is part of our follow-up programme and serves as our professional commitment to everyone we teach.

    What changes have you personally felt since including this practice into your daily habits?
    The greatest changes have been the feeling that anything is achievable. TM has been pivotal in resourcing my mind and body to go after the things I really want in life and know that they are always within my reach.
    What should we do if we break our routine?
    It is a very simple restart at your convenience. If you need help with this, we will support you fully to reinstate your practise and check its efficacy so that you are sure that you are practising TM correctly and getting results.
    Is there a certain time of day we should or should not be practicing?
    TM is very flexible in that you can practise your twicedaily sessions at any time of the day. Ideally though, the first session is best done in the early morning before starting activities to create maximum boost and momentum, and the second session is best done towards the end of the day’s activities – late afternoon or early evening – to dissolve any accumulated fatigue and stress from the day’s activities and help you sleep better.
    What advice would you give to someone wanting to try this?
    Start now and make sure you’re working with an accredited TM teacher wherever you are globally.
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    8 coffee shops in Dubai for the minimalist


    by Sarah Joseph
    15 hours ago

    We all need our daily dose of caffeine, so why not enjoy somewhere aesthetic?
    For a quick midday break or to simply catch up on some work, Dubai has a host of refined spots that are sure to cater to both your tastebuds and eye.
    From concrete interiors to a minimalist palette, Scandinavian interiors have gained huge traction over the years as spaces have sheltered away from the overcomplicated design.
    So, If you’re on the hunt for pared-back spaces with a clean design, Emirates Woman has curated the ultimate guide on all the places to bookmark ASAP.
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    12 Ways To Boost Your Libido And Have A More Satisfying Sex Life, According To Experts

    POV: You’re reminiscing about your first few dates with your long-term partner. You know, the time when you used to bonk like bunnies? Back then, it was physically impossible to keep your hands off each other, but now the idea of engaging in spontaneous lovemaking with your S.O. sounds, well, meh.

    If you can relate, you may be going through a period of low sex drive, also known as low libido.

    Biological Factors

    Libido is affected by a combination of biological, psychological and social factors known as the biopsychosocial model, says gynaecologist Dr. Alyssa Dweck, MD. “Bio-” refers to medical conditions such as: diabetes, heart disease and some cancers—essentially anything that can cause hormonal or blood flow changes, all of which can influence sexual drive, Dweck explains. Vaginal pain associated with intercourse (i.e., vaginismus) as well as ageing can also influence libido, adds double-certified gynaecologist Dr. Monica Grover, DO.

    Psychological Factors

    Meanwhile, the “psycho” part of this model is in reference to your emotional well-being and any mental health issues that may impact your libido. For example, depression and anxiety as well as history of abuse or trauma—sexual or otherwise—can impact your sex drive, says Dweck.

    Meet the experts: Alyssa Dweck, MD, is a practising gynaecologist and co-author of three books, including The Complete A to Z for Your V: A Women’s Guide to Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Your Vagina. Monica Grover, DO, is a double-certified gynaecologist and the chief medical officer for VSPOT. Rachel Smith, LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist.

    Social Factors

    Finally, “-social” is all about your relationship with sex and others. Cultural upbringing, religion and value systems influence people’s general thoughts about sex and how they specifically engage with it, explains Dweck. And when it comes to romantic relationships, if there’s conflict or difficulty, a couple’s libido will certainly be affected, she adds.

    Despite these barriers to entry (get it?), there is a way out of this sexual rut.

    If you’ve recently been feeling unsatisfied with your libido, sex experts are here to help. Ahead, they break down some possible reasons for why your sex drive is low and offer some tried-and-true tips for boosting your libido, so you can access pleasure once again.

    What’s considered a “normal” sex drive?

    Before getting into the nitty-gritty of why your sex drive might not be as high as you’d like, first, let’s settle what a normal sex drive is. The short answer: There is no “normal.”

    “Libido naturally varies from person-to-person and changes throughout your life,” explains Grover. What’s “normal” to you might not be normal for someone else, because your sex drive depends on your lifestyle and preferences, she adds.

    For example, someone who grew up in a household where sex was “taboo” and considered shameful might have a different desire for sex compared to someone who was raised in a sex-positive environment. “The messages that you heard about sex and sexuality and what it is and what it means all greatly impact your desire and openness to sex,” says certified sex therapist Rachel Smith, LMFT. So there is no normal; instead, you have to allow the time and space to check in and define for yourself how you wish—and not wish—to engage with sex, she adds.

    “The most important thing when we talk about normalcy is whether somebody is distressed about their drive,” says Dweck. Some people have a fairly low sex drive as their baseline and don’t feel distressed by it, i.e. it’s not hindering their quality of life. Others, however, are very affected by the number of times they have sex or think about sex, she adds, and for those people, some sort of intervention may be helpful.

    While no “normal” sex drive exists, it’s not abnormal for yours to change due to life experiences. As women age, especially during the menopausal period, their sex drive may diminish, explains Dweck. And when it comes to social factors such as relationships, “it’s also not unusual if somebody’s in a very long-term, albeit very happy relationship, that they may have a lower [sex] drive, either as a result of boredom or being stuck in a routine,” Dweck adds.

    Why is my sex drive so low?

    You already know sex drive is determined by a combination of biological, psychological and social factors, but ahead, the experts outline some specific physical and mental health barriers that might have you feeling bleh about making your bedrock:

    Physical Causes of Low Sex Drive

    Sexual dysfunction

    “Sexual dysfunction is a problem that can happen during any phase of the sexual response cycle,” says Grover. Some intercourse-related issues that may decrease one’s libido include: a history of painful sex (i.e., dyspareunia or genital pain either before, during, or after sex), vaginal dryness, vaginismus and/or problems reaching orgasm, according to Grover. All of these conditions “can create anxiety surrounding sex and lead to a decrease in sexual desire,” she explains.

    Reproductive health conditions

    Conditions such as endometriosis, premenstrual syndrome (PMS) and polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) can also negatively impact libido due to the hormonal changes and imbalances associated with them, says Grover.


    Certain prescription drugs, especially a specific class of antidepressants known as selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), are known to decrease sex drive, explains Grover. These drugs impact your ability to access the hormones and neurotransmitters important for experiencing sexual pleasure, says Smith. “[Certain] antipsychotics and even medications for ADHD” can also lower libido, Grover adds.


    Studies have shown that poor sleep can induce adrenal fatigue and increase cortisol levels, which can diminish sexual desire, says Grover.

    Ageing and hormonal changes

    “Changes in estrogen and testosterone levels greatly affect someone’s libido,” says Grover. Some hormonal changes associated with ageing include pregnancy and menopause, both of which can influence sex drive.

    Pregnancy and postpartum

    “Hormone changes during pregnancy, just after having a baby and nursing can put a damper on sex drive,” Grover says. Not to mention, fatigue, changes in body image and the pressures of caring for a child can also contribute to a decrease in sexual desire, she adds.


    During the transition into menopause, estrogen levels drop, explains Grover. This can cause vaginal dryness, resulting in painful and uncomfortable sex, making you less interested in intercourse, she adds.


    Both too much or too little physical activity can cause a decrease in sex drive, according to Grover and a study published in Medicine & Science in Sports & Exercise.


    “Stress tends to be one of the number one killers of libido,” explains Smith. And while stress is a mental health-related issue, it’s also a physical health issue as “when cortisol levels go up, sex hormone levels go down,” she says.

    Mental Health Causes of Low Sex Drive

    Anxiety and depression

    Apart from the SSRIs used to treat these mental health conditions, anxiety and depression themselves interfere with your hormone levels, resulting in a lower libido. “Anxiety can cause increased levels of cortisol, or the ‘stress hormone,’ and high levels of cortisol can suppress the sex hormones that impact your sex drive,” explains Grover. Depression, for its part, can cause an imbalance of the neurotransmitters that help regulate libido, Grover adds. And, in general, physical fatigue, low self-esteem and feelings of hopelessness—all symptoms of depression—can decrease sex drive, she says.

    History of trauma

    Experiencing trauma, especially of the sexual variety (i.e., sexual harassment, sexual abuse, or rape), can negatively impact one’s desire for sex, explains Grover.

    Relationship problems

    Issues in a romantic relationship play a major part in decreasing sex drive, says Grover. “Problems with communication, trust or intimacy, are among the most common causes of a low libido,” she explains. While sex is a physical act, there’s no denying the vital role having an emotional connection plays in forming one’s desire for sex. “If you don’t feel safe, secure, cared for, seen, heard, or supported, then you’re less likely to take next steps in terms of intimacy,” says Smith. On the flip side, if the emotional bond is there, but you’re not finding the sex you’re having with your partner particularly pleasurable or enjoyable, that can also negatively impact your libido, she adds.

    Low self-esteem

    How you feel in your body plays a significant role in your openness and ability to access sexual desire, says Smith. “If one’s not comfortable in their own skin, how can they invite someone else in to share in that experience [of sex]?” she asks. The answer: It’s quite difficult (but not impossible—more on that in a sec).

    How can I increase my sex drive?

    Now that you know why your engine isn’t revving the way it used to, what can you do to step on the gas, so to speak? Ahead, these 12 expert-approved tips can help your sex drive go from zero to 60 (vroom vroom!).

    1. Get checked up.

    “Number one, get a medical checkup,” says Dweck. You want to make sure there’s no medical issue or medication that’s screwing with your libido. So, check in with your gynae or a specialist in hormonal changes to either figure out if that’s the cause or cross it off the list.

    2. Implement healthier lifestyle choices.

    Perhaps this comes as no surprise, but the consumption of alcohol and tobacco can negatively impact your sex drive, according to previous studies and research. So while it’s easier said than done—especially in the case of addiction—try your hardest to cut back on these substances.

    And if you’re always tired when it’s time to wriggle in between the sheets, consider getting more sleep and/or levelling up your exercise routine—or the opposite, working out less. Switching up your schedule might help you find your sexy sweet spot.

    3. Manage your stress and anxiety.

    Stress and anxiety increase cortisol levels, which in turn lower your libido. So to improve your sex drive, try to manage your stress and anxiety levels, says Grover.

    You may even consider indulging in some self-care—both after a stressful day and before engaging in sex. Maybe you take a bubble bath after work to open yourself up and alleviate the stress from the day, says Smith.

    4. Prioritize your mental health.

    If a history of sexual trauma is getting in the way of your ability to access pleasure, consider getting assistance to help you treat that trauma, depression, or anxiety, says Glover.

    You may want to speak to a licensed psychotherapist who specialises in your specific type of trauma—or, better yet, a sex therapist that can walk you through releasing any feelings of shame or embarrassment regarding sex and self-pleasure.

    5. Discover your desire style.

    Smith explains that there are two desire types: spontaneous and responsive. Spontaneous desire is what’s typically shown in movies and media; it describes someone who feels a mental or emotional need for sex, first, to which their body quickly responds to thereafter, she says. People with this desire style operate like a “light switch,” Smith explains.

    “Sex is more on the forefront of their minds—they’re probably initiating sex more often because it’s more readily available to them.”

    Those with responsive desire, however, need the physical arousal, first, then the mental and emotional wanting of sex comes after, explains Smith. “This is like the dimmer switch.” These people need to be in sexual experiences for the desire for sex to click in their mind, she adds. They’re not often initiating sex, but when they’re in the thick of it, they’re thinking, “This is great.”

    Arousal—the physiological response to sexual stimuli—often follows desire—the wanting of sex—so it’s important to get acquainted with your desire style in order to figure out what it is that you—and your sexual partner—need to get it on.

    Of course, it’s true that if you don’t want sex, you shouldn’t have it, but this thinking can sometimes be a disservice to those with responsive desire, says Smith. “As long as sex is consensual, you don’t have to want sex to have sex, actually,” she says. For those with responsive desire, it’s quite the opposite as their desire starts from a place of willingness versus wanting.

    6. Figure out your turn-ons and turn-offs.

    You can’t communicate what your sexual needs are with a partner if you, yourself, don’t know your accelerators—turns ons—and brakes—turn offs.

    “And that’s really the only way—through being able to communicate with your partner—that you’re going to learn how to develop good sex or experience a positive, pleasurable sexual experience,” says Smith.

    Smith explains that, in this society, the responsibility to discover your turn-ons and turn-offs is put on partners, when really it’s your own responsibility to figure out what helps you achieve orgasm. One way to figure out what gets you to a big O is through self-pleasure, of course. But yet another way…

    7. Explore erotic content.

    Not only does engaging with X-rated videos and books help you see what might turn you on, but it also assists in getting love on the brain, á la Rihanna. “This is called bibliotherapy, which is just a fancy way of saying using tools like videos or texts to try to get sexual thoughts on the brain,” says Dweck. “The more this is done on a voluntary basis, the more [the desire for sex] will become spontaneous.”

    8. Work on your emotional connection.

    In order to have a strong sexual connection, you first need to develop a strong emotional bond. If you’re feeling uncared for by your S.O., then you’re most likely not going to want to get in between the sheets with them.

    Make sure you’re feeling safe and secure and you can trust your partner and then the rest will follow, says Smith.

    9. Schedule sex.

    Truthfully, when you’re always busy with work schedules, chores and childcare, it can be hard to, uh, get in the mood. One solution: Put “sex” on the Google Calendar.

    For long-term couples, especially, having a convenient, dedicated time to involve yourself in intimacy can help alleviate some of the stress and pressure of keeping the spark alive, says Dweck.

    10. Spend more time on foreplay.

    A huge influence to a low sex drive, especially for long-term couples, is boredom and being stuck in a rut or routine. To get out of that vicious cycle of just “hitting it and quitting it” and re-access pleasure, Grover recommends spending more time getting each other warmed up before heading into the main event.

    You might even consider trying out a new sex move you learned from an erotic video or bringing in sex toys like nipple clamps or a magic wand.

    11. Get rid of expectations.

    Many times folks are so focused on how they “should” be showing up sexually or how their body appears in the heat of the moment that they aren’t present enough to fully enjoy themselves and be in connection with their partner, explains Smith. Sex thus becomes something pressure-inducing, rather than something enjoyable.

    To increase your desire for sex and reach peak pleasure, Smith recommends “slowing down and smelling the roses.” In other words, alleviate the pressure to perform a certain way.

    Think of sex not as something you do, but as a place you go to be together and have a different experience, she says. Once you’re able to put all of that other stuff aside, then you’re truly able to experience the connection that’s available.

    12. Consider a medical intervention.

    If your low sex drive is really causing you distress and you’re discovering that none of these natural remedies are working for you, medical intervention is an option, says Dweck.

    In the end, if you’re not satisfied with where your libido is at right now, just know there’s hope. Through open communication, some self-exploration and self-care and a caring partner, you’re sure to find a frequency—plus, some new sex moves—that will make you both happy and (consensually) handsy.

    This story was written by Naydeline Mejia and was first published on More

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    Your ultimate guide to all the luxe beach clubs to visit in Dubai


    by Sarah Joseph
    29 mins ago

    Whether taking a moment to soak up the sun or going off the grid, Dubai offers the best places to refresh this season.
    Known for its array of premium beach destinations and with many new ones having recently opened, we’re here to keep you in the know about only the best.
    Designed with its aesthetic sun beds, a well-curated menu and a lively ambience, beach clubs are the ultimate spot to book a day out to rejuvenate and unwind.
    With that, here’s an Emirates Woman guide of the best beach clubs to visit in Dubai ASAP.
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