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    7 glamping spots to book in the UAE for a premium escape

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    by Sarah Joseph
    4 hours ago

    Looking for a quick cityscape? Your staycation experience in the UAE is about to get a whole lot more luxurious.
    For a big city detox, the UAE is home to a myriad of unique glamping spots that undoubtedly offer the best of both worlds. With scenic views of nature accompanied by utmost comfort, this bespoke staycation is an experience you simply can’t miss out on.
    So, if you’re ready to pack your bags this winter, Emirates Woman has curated a guide of all the must-visit glamping spots for a getaway with your loved ones.
    Mysk Moon Retreat, Sharjah

    Discover a stay under serene skies and stunning surroundings with a dome or tent of choice. Developed by the Sharjah Investment and Development Authority (Shurooq), the eco-friendly destination will be the ideal place for a unique overnight stay. This experience comes fully equipped with private pools and a majority of lodgings to choose from. As for activities, guests can enjoy stargazing at night and during the day hikes through the incredible landscapes of Mleiha or visit the Mleiha Archaeological Centre. Prices start at Dhs1,350 inclusive of breakfast with pristine mountain views.
    For more information visit myskhotels.com
    Sedr Trailers at Hatta Resorts

    If you want to immerse yourself in nature, there’s no better way to do it than by escaping to the desert. While now being home to the region’s first trailer hotel, guests can camp alongside the banks of Hatta Dam with these innovative trailers to have a truly memorable experience. With luxurious facilities on board, it’s all set to feel like a thrilling adventure with all the necessary amenities provided as you’ll be nestled in the heart of the mountains starting at Dhs986 with prices varying.
    For more information regarding booking and details head to visithatta.com
    Pura Eco Retreat, Abu Dhabi

    For a complete wellness experience, this bespoke retreat lies in the heart of Jubail Mangrove Park with several activities such as kayaking, waterslides and yoga sessions surrounding nature. There are also several options for your camping experience, such as individual camping, serviced camping, and luxury camping. With minimalist chic domes with neutral hues and a hands-on active camping experience in the tents, guests can wander amid nature in utmost tranquility. The domes with breakfast start at Dhs1,750 for the packages and are not to be missed out on.
    For more information visit staypura.com
    Longbeach Campground, RAK

    This is the perfect getaway to get close to nature with various recreational facilities such as beach yoga, sea view aerobics, kite flying and exhilarating water sports. If you’re looking for a fun-filled camp, kids will be far from bored with all the host of onboard activities for them to try out during the stay. There’s also a pleasant site of farm animals for kids to interact with at the petting zoo. Starting at Dhs249 for the authentic deluxe tent with a comfortable setting, this will make the perfect home for your next camping trip in Ras Al Khaimah.
    For more information visit bmhotelsresorts.com
    Bedouin Oasis, RAK

    You can live like a bedouin for a day with luxury in the middle of nowhere with thrilling desert experiences, and traditional hospitality at its best all set in the dunes of Ras Al Khaimah with a traditional style setting offering a host of exciting activities as you witness a touch of the Arabian culture with beautiful landscapes on the trip starting at Dhs750 for three adults.For more information visit bedouinoasis.org
    Banan Beach, RAK

    If you’re looking for an Instagram-worthy glamping spot, Banan Beach effortlessly transports all its guests to Greece. With infinity pools, bars and enchanting views of nature, this venue should definitely be on your list this season. Starting at Dhs650 for a tent, guests can prolong their stay for more than two nights for the ultimate escape.
    Starlight Camp, Dubai

    This unique glamping destination is found 45 minutes from Dubai. Designed only for one couple at a time, the dome comes with a crystal roof and a relaxing four-poster queen size bed as well as outdoor dining space, so you can tuck into an inclusive breakfast while admiring the surroundings with utmost comfort. At the venue, guests can prepare their own stargazing feasts with the BBQ facilities provided to dine in style. Starting at Dhs 2,400, this one-of-a-kind experience comes fully equipped with onboard amenities.
    For more information visit starlight-camp.com
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    6 places in the UAE for an unforgettable horse riding experience

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    by Sarah Joseph
    58 mins ago

    From a spacious paddock to qualified instructors, the UAE is well-known for this exhilarating sport which is available all year round for you to enjoy.
    So, get your equestrian hat on to enjoy the outdoors and experience nature at its finest.
    As here at Emirates Woman we are quite the fans of horse-riding, here’s a curated list of stables with fully equipped facilities for you to embrace throughout the year, especially now.
    Dubai Polo & Equestrian Club

    With a state-of-the-art polo and equestrian community located in Dubailand, with over six million square feet of land, it consists of four world-class polo fields, a polo academy, a riding school with a dedicated riding aren’t emulating that Andalusian elegance with an oasis of excellence and uncompromising luxury. The instructors help fine-tune your skills with the well-schooled horses as it operates from Sunday to Saturday, 6am to 12am. Prices start at Dhs240 for beginners in a group setting and Dhs475 for a private beginners class.
    For more information visit poloclubdubai.com
    JA Equestrian centre

    Featuring its own air-conditioned stables with a vast expanse at JA, The Resort. This wonderful place for horse riding in the UAE provides expert qualified instructors for both experts and beginners in a fully-equipped schooling environment where regular riders can venture out and enjoy the natural desert environment, making it available all year round. The stables operate from 7am to 12pm and 4pm to 7pm.
    For more information visit jaresortshotels.com
    Dubai City stable

     
    This family-friendly oasis located in Umm Sequim district, being only 10 minutes from Dubai’s Downtown area is perfectly suited for city residents who are either trained or wish to begin their horse riding journey as this stable is truly the perfect point for all horse desert adventures as they offer both private and group tuition for beginners through various events too. Starting at Dhs190 for 45 minutes, this place is definitely one to visit.
    For more information visit dubaicitystable.com 
    Sharjah Equestrian and Racing club

    Being one of the first equestrian clubs in the UAE established under the patronage of H.H. Sheikh Dr. Sultan Bin Mohammed Al Qassimi, this riding club is located on Al Dhaid Road. It’s home to one of the largest indoor riding facilities in the Middle East ensuring that its well equipped with qualified trainers and riding instructors who have advanced their technical skills. The riding school is closed on Tuesday and is open from morning 8am to 12pm and 4pm to 8pm.
    For more information visit serc.ae
    Emirates Equestrian centre

    Whether you’re interested in horse riding or simply wish to experience a tranquil equine desert escape, riders of all levels are welcome and also have the opportunity to learn about show jumping, dressage, eventing, join the pony club or visit the riding school. With fully qualified instructors being able to answer your queries, polo events also take place for you to simply visit. The lesson hours are available from 7am to 11am and 4pm to 7pm and is located on Al-Ain Road, Dubai.
    For more information visit emiratesequestriancentre.com
    Al Wadi Equestrian Centre
    Located at the Ritz Carlton resort Al Wadi in Ras Al Khaimah, this equestrian centre offers lessons and experiences for guests of all ages and skill levels. Group and private lessons are available for experienced and beginner riders, including children. Spacious paddocks and a horse-walking arena are among the facilities.
    For more information visit www.ritzcarlton.com/en/hotels/uae/al-wadi-desert/

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    This Dubai-based expert shares how to recalibrate your body in 2023

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    by Sarah Joseph
    59 mins ago

    Anisha Joshi, Osteopath at Euromed Clinic Dubai, explains how recalibrating your body will help you go into 2023 with renewed strength.
    Talk us through your career.
    With my parents collectively working four different jobs to partly fund my journey through private school, this work ethic was something I carry through my life now. My sister and I both decided to go down the osteopathy route, so determination and hard work is something that runs in my family. After graduating in 2010 from the British College of Osteopathic Medicine in London, I decided to travel across the globe to Australia where I cut my teeth in osteopathy, gaining a wealth of experience before deciding to open my clinic at the age of 23. With support from my parents – they remortgaged their house twice to put the initial deposit down – I managed to open her own clinic. Fast-forward 13 years; the clinic’s growth has been impressive; hiring multiple practitioners has seen it grow from 1 treatment room to 6 across two different locations. Since then, I have won Principal Osteopath of the Year, appeared on This Morning TV show and have been sought out by many magazines and national papers for expert commentary. My patient list includes many professional athletes as well as A-list celebrities such as Rita Ora, who seek out my advice and treatment. After the global pandemic and its subsequent lockdown, I decided to merge with my sister to form Osteo Allies; where we are keen to continue expanding our brand and creating opportunities to nurture fellow osteopaths.
    What inspired you to enter the healthcare space?
    I’ve always been inspired by how amazing the human body is and how it doesn’t take much in order for it to adapt and get better.
    What does your role as an osteopath entail?
    People still assume that osteopaths just help bones or back pain, but most aches and pains have multiple factors that contribute to them. Osteopaths conduct a detailed case history and ensure that they take all elements of your lifestyle into consideration. This includes nutrition, your mental health, and exercises. Combining advice in all these areas helps to support your complaint. The main difference between a treatment with an osteopath and a sports masseuse is the in-depth assessment an osteopath will provide you. Osteopathy is a complete system of diagnosis, treatment and overall management.
    When it comes to aches and pains, what do you find is the biggest cause?
    In a world where most of us spend half of our time at a desk, experiencing shoulder and neck pain is very common, and is something that often develops into headaches. Usually, this occurs when someone has been doing something in the same position for too long; working on a computer, for example. The majority of pain is due to a lack of movement.
    “I’ve always been inspired by how amazing the human body is and how it doesn’t take much in order for it to adapt and improve.”
    What is the biggest issue people come to see you to help with?
    The biggest issue people come to see me to help with is back pain. In fact, 84 percent of people will experience back pain at some point in their life. There is a lot of fear around back pain, but the truth is that it occurs in varying degrees. Those who experience persistent pain come to me for a diagnosis and treatment plan so that we can work together to strengthen their body.

    In terms of your career, you’re a female working in a male-dominated space. What’s this like and how do you hope to change the narrative for women in this space?
    As a young woman of colour I had to work doubly hard in a white male medical world but far from deterring me; if anything it spurred me on. I hope that my career thus far stands as an example that women can not only succeed in this space, but also become one of the leading in their field.
    How have you harnessed the use of social media to share your tips and tricks?
    I have found social media to be a great tool for sharing my expert tips and tricks with a wider audience. I frequently post Reels on my Instagram (@osteoanisha) giving advice on a variety of topics and educating my audience on the best ways to easily relieve certain muscle stresses and pains. It’s amazing to be able to share my passion for osteopathy with lots of people all at the same time.
    What advice do you wish you had received at the start of your journey?
    I guess the advice I wish I had got was that you may at times feel like you’re undeserving of your success. However, the impact you will have on other peoples’ lives is beyond what you feel about yourself.
    Looking back over your career, can you tell us some major hurdles you’ve had to overcome?
    I’ve had to overcome the fact that many people don’t know what osteopaths do. I’ve also had to overcome the pandemic when unfortunately my business didn’t receive any government help and I was on the verge of filing for bankruptcy. It was a really tough time and I had to make some tough decisions to make the business work. I never thought that a year after the pandemic I’d have expanded my business into three clinics in the UK and now a clinic in Dubai.
    On the opposite end of the spectrum, what are your top milestones from your career so far?
    I am lucky to say that there are various milestones in my career which I am very proud of. Being awarded Principal Osteopath of the Year by the prestigious Institute of Osteopathy was a huge achievement for me and solidified my position as one of Britain’s leading osteopaths. Appearing on ITV’s This Morning, to discuss the benefits of treatment and tips to keep moving, is another notable milestone. Finally, I have recently spent some time in Dubai after partnering with Euromed Clinic. This has been an amazing experience for me and has not only allowed me to experience a new place but also to meet a variety of amazing people and patients.
    Your top tips for taking care of aches and pains at home?
    To take care of aches and pains at home, it is important to make an effort to do strengthening exercises to alleviate muscle stiffness and get an early night’s sleep. Movement and sleep are both research-driven practices that can help ease body soreness. As well as this, nutrition plays a big role in muscle and joint repair. To stay energised, it is crucial to stay hydrated and eat a well-balanced, protein-heavy diet. Daily supplements of omega-3, magnesium and iron, all also help to promote better energy levels. Omega 3 is found in oily fish like salmon and is really important for muscles, joints, skin and hair. Also, relaxing in a warm bath is a great way to restore the body, acting as a way to switch off and relax.
    Going into 2023, what is your advice for living a more pain-free and healthy life?
    Recognise that pain isn’t a reflection of damage and that we need to move more than we think we do. In a world where we stay stationary more than ever, this is key. If you’re experiencing any aches or pains, then it’s good to chat to an osteopath.
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    UAE to ban single-use plastic bags from 2024

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    by Sarah Joseph
    2 hours ago

    By making a conscious effort to protect the environment, the UAE will ban the production and circulation of single-use plastic shopping bags from January 1, 2024.
    As per the state news agency WAM, the resolution prohibits the import, production and circulation of single-use plastic shopping bags from next year.
    Additionally, the government has told authorities, retailers, suppliers and consumers to prepare “suitable, sustainable and multi-use alternatives in all shopping stores, retail stores and sales outlets on a permanent basis,” as reported by the agency.
    A rule has already been implemented in Dubai since last summer for a nominal 25 fils charge on plastic bags in Dubai on plastic bags with most plastic bags banned in Abu Dhabi since last year.
    In order to ensure, certain produce remains fresh, thin bag rolls will be excluded from this decision and will require a clear label in order to proceed with in the future. Other bags made with recycled materials shall also be exempted from the rule.
    Without limiting to plastic bags, the UAE will also ban plastic products such as cups, plates, cutlery, containers, straws, stirrers and boxes from January 1, 2026.
    With four emirates having already regulated the use of plastic and announcing bans, others will soon become part of the vision to follow sustainable practices and for the UAE’s pledge to reach net zero by 2050 was a first for the MENA region.
    Looking for plastic bag alternatives? Swipe through our full edit below

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    Everything You Need To Know To Make a Vision Board That Actually Works ✨

    Every year around the end of December, I set resolutions to eat healthier, journal more, and decrease the time spent on my phone (I swear, this is my #1 resolution every year), and by the end of the year, I find that nothing has really changed. This year, I found that people on TikTok are taking a different approach to New Year’s resolutions in 2023. Instead of letting your resolutions collect dust in a random notebook or forgotten on your notes app, try creating a vision board. 
    You might have already made a few “vision boards” in your day (cutting out pictures from a magazine and gluing them on a poster sound familiar?), but vision boards have evolved a bit since then. Whether you want to manifest new career opportunities, clearer skin, or a trip to Greece where you just so happen to meet the love of your life, a vision board can help you visualize those dreams into reality. Read on for how to create the vision board that’ll knock last year’s New Year’s resolutions out of the water.

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    Why ditch your typical resolutions for a vision board
    Hot take: Let’s leave the “New Year, New Me” mindset behind in 2022. Have you ever felt like resolutions hold a certain amount of shame? Like you need to achieve these resolutions, and if you don’t, you’ve failed? “We are primed to view our lives and events through a negativity bias, focusing on what went wrong versus what went well,” said Elspeth Robertson, a registered clinical counselor and professional art therapist. Resolutions tend to be about stopping a habit in order to become “better” (less phone scrolling, no alcohol, no sugar, less rest days, etc.). Quitting a bad habit is not the same as manifesting a better life. “If a resolution says, ‘Here is what I need to take away,’ a vision board says, ‘Here is what I would like to add,’” Robertson said. A vision board is supposed to make you feel confident and inspired in your life, not shameful for all you should change about yourself. 

    What is a vision board?
    A vision board is a collection of photos and text that can help you approach the future with hope. Instead of focusing on what habits you should be stopping, focus on the possibilities of the next year. “From a scientific perspective, vision boards do what we call ‘priming,’ which essentially is when exposure to a certain stimulus affects how you act towards whatever comes next,” said Elizabeth Mateer, a licensed mental health counselor associate. A vision board can also help you be specific about the goals you want to manifest for 2023. “A vision board is an opportunity to really focus on the reality you want to create, a prediction of your possible future, and a connection to hope and a life that feels aligned,” Robertson said. 

    How to make a vision board
    Do it digitally
    If anyone knows how to make a vision board work for them, it’s TikTok lifestyle creator  Morgan Rhodes. Every goal she featured on her 2022 vision board came to reality, so trust her when she says Pinterest and Canva will be your best friends when it comes to making your own vision board. “Resolutions feel like more of a chore to me,” Rhodes said. “Putting together a collage of photos that inspire and bring me joy felt like an art form.” When you’re scrolling on Pinterest looking for photos, follow Rhodes’ footsteps and only choose photos that you feel emotionally drawn to—photos that you believe will give you motivation and courage throughout the year. 
    When you have all of your photos, you can either keep your Pinterest board as your vision board, or if you want a PDF file you can turn into your computer wallpaper or print out, upload the images to Canva (a free online graphic design tool) and get creative. Fight the urge to make it perfect. The photos don’t have to be flawlessly organized on a grid, in the same color scheme, or make sense to anyone other than yourself. Remember, this vision board is for you. 

    Categorize and subcategorize
    First, think of the different aspects of life that you’d like to invest in this year. For example, career, love life, family dynamics, self-love, home environment, travel, style, beauty, overall health. Then break them up into subcategories. Where do you want to travel specifically? Where do you see yourself living in the next six months? What growth do you want to see for yourself professionally? Do you want a raise or the opportunity to work from home? Take your distinct answers and start searching “Greece aesthetic photos,” “apartments in Boston,” “CEO aesthetic,” etc.  

    Be super specific
    Be specific with your vision board: What city do you want to live in? Chicago? New York City? What type of self-care do you want to make a daily ritual in your life? Hot yoga? Hot girl walks every morning at 7 a.m.? What does your ideal job look like? Working from home? A raise that comes with a bigger office and more benefits? Go to Pinterest and search specific photos of what you want to manifest. The possibilities are truly endless. I’m manifesting adopting a dog in 2023–specifically a Cavalier King Charles Spaniel–so you know what I put on my vision board? A picture of the cutest little Cavalier King Charles Spaniel I’ve ever seen.

    Add affirmations
    To counteract the negativity associated with resolutions, try adding affirmations to your vision board along with the curated photos. “Affirmations go hand-in-hand with successful vision boarding because just like vision boards, affirmations are also about rewiring your beliefs about yourself and what is possible for you,” said Theresa Cheung, an astrologist and dream expert. Cheung suggested using simple affirmations to ground your intentions throughout the year:
    Every day I take small steps in the direction of my dreams.
    2023 is the year to focus on what is important to me.
    I am doing what is right for me, not what others expect.
    I will overcome any challenge and learn and grow from it.
    I notice my thoughts and feelings and what they are teaching me.
    I am grateful for all that I am.
    The past does not define me.
    I choose to think positive thoughts about myself.
    Success and happiness are my birthright.
    I am moving forward in the direction of my dreams.
    I am enough.

    Add your own photos
    Stephanie J Wong, PhD, a licensed clinical psychologist, encouraged featuring your own photos on your vision board. “If you have pictures of you previously engaging in these aspirational activities, or images of people that you identify with doing these activities, even better,” Wong said. “Past behavior tends to predict future behavior, and if you have done some of these healthy activities before, you can do them again.” So grab that cute selfie that makes you feel really beautiful or a photo of you in your favorite place to replicate that healthy energy in the new year.

    So I made my vision board…now what?
    Be intentional about where you put it
    In order to truly manifest the contents of your vision board into existence, astrologer Jill Loftis suggested to “charge” your vision board by placing it somewhere you’ll see often. Whether that’s making it your laptop or phone wallpaper or printing and framing it, simply being intentional about its location is manifesting in itself. To begin manifesting your goals, Loftis advised making your vision board a daily ritual. “Place it near a candle you can light or create a small altar with the board as its centerpiece, adding symbolic statutes, crystals, or other items,” Loftis recommended. Whatever your vibe, look at your vision board every day and repeat some of your favorite affirmations, bringing back the intentions you set on the day you created the board. 

    Bring it into your meditation practice
    Another manifestation tool that can support your vision board intentions is meditation. “Meditation reminds you that you are not your thoughts, your feelings, or your skills,” Cheung said. “You are your choices. You can consciously choose more positive thoughts, feelings, and actions, and when you do that, you naturally start to feel better about yourself and you start to manifest or attract a better life while using your vision board.” Light a few candles, place your vision board in sight, and meditate. 

    Make changes and adjustments as needed
    Remember that your vision board is ever-evolving. You can add, delete, and change things as the year progresses. Your thoughts and goals will grow, just as you will. “Vision boarding and manifestation is all about learning to ask for what you want, knowing that you are deserving of receiving what you want, and then trusting the universe to bring those wants into fruition,” Neville said. Whether you need support, guidance, hope, love for yourself, or growth, a vision board can help you stay true to yourself in 2023. Say it with me: “I deserve whatever happiness and success the universe has to offer.”

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    Anoud Al-Asmari becomes Saudi Arabia’s first international female referee

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    by Sarah Joseph
    2 hours ago

    Saudi women are continuing to break barriers globally, especially in the world of sports.
    By making the nation proud, Anoud Al-Asmari has become the first Saudi international female football referee to receive the international badge from the International Federation of Football Associations (FIFA) according to the list announced by The Saudi Arabian Football Federation (SAFF) published on Thursday on Twitter.

    الاتحاد الدولي لكرة القدم يعتمد قائمة الحكام السعوديين الدوليين لعام 2023 🔽 pic.twitter.com/MSnlsM5Gom
    — الاتحاد السعودي لكرة القدم (@saudiFF) January 5, 2023

    The list of Saudi international referees for 2023 released titles for eight arena referees, nine assistant referees and six video referees with a futsal referee, making Al-Asmari the only woman on the list.
    This announcement came one year after the KSA’s women’s football team won its first-ever international match, making history. The Greens Team witness a victorious moment as they won their first international game with Seychelles in February 2022.

    As one for the books, this historical moment also received an official congratulations from the renowned football player Péle on his personal Twitter account.
    By hoping to see more Saudi women compete in sports and reach professional levels globally, the leaders are taking all the necessary steps to ensure, women receive adequate representation and are change agents for future generations and bring about new reforms in line with the Kingdom’s 2030 vision.
    Saudi’s first women’s football league
    In November 2020, The Kingdom officially launched its first women’s football league after a lengthy postponement due to the global COVID-19 pandemic. With a total of 24 teams with over 600 players in different cities in the country, including Dammam, Jeddah and Riyadh.
    Per the Saudi Sports for All Federation (SFA), the league aims “to empower women to encourage them to become active and to participate in sports at the community level.”
    A big kudos to Saudi Arabia’s first female referee for paving the way for women in the future!
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    Exclusive: Inside The Beauty Society with entrepreneur Wdeema Almheiri

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    by Dan Robinson
    1 hour ago

    Wdeema Almheiri, Co-Founder of The Beauty Society invites us inside her tranquil and relaxing salon.
    How long have you worked in this space?
    My sisters and I have worked on this space for a year and a half starting April 2021. We later opened in July 2022.
    Did you have a clear concept from the outset, and which key pieces are your favorite?
    Yes, we’ve always wanted to create a spa like feel. When clients enter, we want them to feel luxurious coming in yet at the same time feel at home. My favorite key pieces would be our Society Dome and the Arched Mirror in The Hair Club.

    Have you custom-built any bespoke pieces?
    Everything in the salon is custom built, most of which was designed by Achromatic Design Studios.
    How do you think your interior reflects you/ your brand?
    I have an eye for the timeless qualities that make up a piece whether it be in fashion or furniture. The Beauty Society reflects this same quality in its interior.
    Describe your taste in 3 words.
    Timeless, luxurious and sophisticated.

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    Everything You Don’t Know But Need to About Making (and Achieving) Resolutions

    Welcome to The Everygirl Podcast. Whether you’re looking for insider secrets from successful women that have your dream job, are interested in expert advice to transform your health and feel your best, or just want to be entertained and laugh along with us on your commute, we’ve got you covered.

    Historically, I’ve always loved resolutions. There’s something about setting goals for a new year that just feels so hopeful—that is, until a few months into the new year when I lose motivation to keep up with my goals or forget what I wanted to accomplish in the first place. If even a wellness editor and health coach feels disappointed year after year of failed resolutions, I know other people are feeling let down too, which is why this week on The Everygirl Podcast we’re talking all things setting (and keeping) resolutions. While I’m a sucker for personal growth and I write all day about getting healthier and happier, I’m saying “thank you, next” to new year’s resolutions.
    For one, the foundation of New Year’s resolutions is change—lose weight, work out more, get a promotion, save more money—and glorifying change might tell your brain that you’re not good enough as you are (“new year, new me?” What’s so wrong with the old me?). We’re all working on building more self-love, but there’s a fine line between working toward growth and not feeling enough as is. Plus, resolutions just don’t work. According to U.S. News & World Report, 80% of New Year’s resolutions fail by February. So why is it that even the best-intentioned resolutions don’t stick? Read on to find out why resolutions haven’t worked in the past, and check out this week’s episode of The Everygirl Podcast for advice to set goals that actually last.

    Why is it so hard to stick to resolutions?
    In many cases, the resolutions we set aren’t actually what we value. Do you really want to lose 20 pounds by summer, or is it something you feel you should do to be more confident? Do you really want to earn a graduate degree, or do you just feel unsure about your next career move? We often set resolutions that we think will make us feel happier, more successful, or more confident without realizing that thinking that happiness, success, and confidence are circumstantial distracts us from actually feeling good in our lives as they are. Plus, losing weight doesn’t necessarily make you more confident, just like getting a promotion won’t necessarily make you feel like you’re in the right career path.
    Even if your goals are truly rooted in what you want, things don’t often work out as planned because of outside influences. Not to sound like one of Oprah’s self-help books, but resolutions that are based on the destination instead of the intention are setting you up for failure. If you want that raise by the end of the year, your company might not have the money, even if you worked hard for it. Likewise, if you lose 15 pounds and not 20, you’ll feel like you failed since you didn’t hit your goal instead of feeling proud of what you did accomplish. Instead of making resolutions, consider dedicating 2023 to overall becoming happier, healthier, and better (because we’re growing all the time, not just at the beginning of the new year). Ditch your list of resolutions and do these eight things instead:

    What to Do Instead of Making New Year’s Resolutions
    1. Create a list of things you’re looking forward to this year
    You’ve probably thought “2023 is going to be my year,” but why is it going to be your year? Record everything you’re excited about from now until 2024. Do you have a friend’s wedding, a special anniversary, a big life change, a graduation, or a fun birthday celebration? What about the little things, like a new season of your favorite TV show or a list of books you want to get through? What about the even smaller things like the changing of the seasons or recipes you’re excited to cook? You don’t have to wait until 2024 to realize 2023 is “your year.”

    2. Record the lessons you learned in 2022
    Whether in your career, relationships, life circumstances, or happiness and wellness, you can probably see a big difference from where you were this time last year. And when you look at where you are now compared to where you were last decade, the change is even more monumental. You have changed and grown over the year(s), so identify what exactly is different. What lessons have you learned, and in what ways have you grown that you’re proud of? Instead of focusing on what to accomplish next, celebrate how far you’ve come, knowing that you’re doing better than you think.

    3. Book a vacation
    The new year doesn’t have to be about change; it should also be about celebration. Treat yourself to a getaway whenever you can take some PTO, whether it’s that Europe trip you’ve always dreamed about, a long weekend in a nearby city with your best friends, or a summer staycation with your significant other or sister. Not only will a trip be something to look forward to this year, but it will also be a way to remember 2023 for years to come while celebrating all you’ve accomplished in 2022. 

    4. Spend more time with loved ones
    Instead of committing to new things to do, commit to the loved ones who are already in your life. Call your mom more often, schedule weekly coffee dates with your work wife, plan more weekend brunches with your best friend, sign up for a new yoga studio with your sister, and fit in weekly date nights with your significant other. After all, maybe achieving “happiness” isn’t about what we don’t have yet but what we already have that we need more of. Trust me, it will be the one resolution that will stick.

    5. Make a vision board
    Resolutions are often focused on the “doing,” or the actions you need to take. Instead, focus on the person you want to be and the life you want to have. Create a vision board displaying what you want, whether it’s in your career, your love life (pictures of Tom Holland, anyone?), your home environment, or just how you see your truest self. It doesn’t have to be elaborate or take hours to create. Your vision board can be as simple as a big picture goal list taped to the fridge. Set up the vision board in a location you’ll look at often and add to it as your dreams develop. Focus on the “being,” and the “doing” will happen naturally. If you’re looking for more guidance with your vision boarding, listen to our episode of The Everygirl Podcast featuring manifestation expert Roxie Nafousi. 

    6. Create a list of what you love about yourself and your life
    Screw changing—you’re already pretty great as you are. Make a list of everything you love about yourself as if you were writing a love letter: the smile you got from your mom, the strong legs that can run miles, the ability to laugh even when you’re sad, or the hard work ethic that your younger self would be proud of. Also, record what’s going well in your life. Are you close to your siblings, live in a city you love, or have the career you always wanted? Goal setting is important for growth, but what’s the point of making goals if we can’t feel happy once we reach them?

    7. Set different themes for every month
    Instead of resolutions for a whole year, dedicate each month to a theme. For example, January’s focus could be adding more plants to your diet, February’s focus is finding workouts you love, March might be about focusing on your finances to save more money, and the intention for April is spending more time in nature. 30 days of exploration and intention feel a lot more achievable (and more fun!) than 365 days to reach a specific goal. The key is to sett intentions rather than end goals, which means you’ll be proud of yourself no matter what you accomplish while still making major transitions and growth in various areas of your life.

    8. Choose a word or affirmation for the new year
    Do you feel ready to make some major improvements in 2023? Choose a word or affirmation to summarize what you want your focus or vision to be this year. Is it health, balance, happiness, self-love, gratitude, connection, or confidence? Consistently remind yourself of your focus and make decisions based on it whenever possible. For example, if you’re deciding on spending a Friday night in or going out with your friends, which option will bring you closer to your intention of self-love? If you’re deciding on whether to go to a workout class or take a rest day, which choice will bring you closer to gratitude for your body? Find a focus for the year and you’ll subconsciously be making thousands of choices to reach a huge goal. If a sentence is more your style, pick an affirmation. Write it down, hang it on your mirror, and make it the wallpaper on your phone until you start to think of everything in terms of your 2023 affirmation. More